starting to have feelings again(or maybe they never went away)

[ackmedsgirl666]

so i think im starting to have feelings for my ex from 5 years ago(or perhaps they never went away) im so confused
ive been thinking about him alot lately
idk whats going on. me and him have lost contact since i moved away and now everytime i see him he wont talk to me because im usually with my boyfriend and they dont get along. i miss him...

basically i went away and was living in the group home and we got split up. while i went away things changed. i cam back and (she) was now a he. and eventually i got used to it and we tried to date again but it didnt work out and then when he moved on i got all jealous and cut myself and shit.

we started getting close again and then i started dating my new boyfriend who i am now engaged to and may be living with within the next few days. i feel so damned depressed. all of a sudden my old feelings are coming back again. what should i do??

[Harley Quinn]

You're engaged so you either love him or you don't. If your old feelings have come back, or never even went, then go with it. Why? Because if you loved the guy you're actually engaged to, you wouldn't be thinking/feeling for an ex you had years ago. You have to do what's best for you and what makes you happy, even if it's not the best decision at the given time.

[DarkWingedAngel]

ok kenzie i gotta say this. i hate not being able to talk to you it may seem like i ignore you because well i do im sorry your bf hates my guts and would rather have me dead. i dont hate him one bit actually its all on his part. and really you dont make time for me when hes not around. you will eventually lose me forever kenzie. not cause your dating him but because we never see each other and never talk. your my sister and i will always have a place in my heart for you to be there its just a matter of if you want to be in my heart or not. if so then stop being with him 24/7 and come see me sometime if not then completely disregard this message and leave. it is as simple as that. im pretty sure you dont wanna lose me forever cause once im gone im never coming back. speaking of witch you might wanna decide if you wanna keep me as a brother before im set for LA, because when i go there my facebook will gone and you got no way of contacting me.

[FreeFall]

your my sister and i will always have a place in my heart for you to be there its just a matter of if you want to be in my heart or not. if so then stop being with him 24/7 and come see me sometime if not then completely disregard this message and leave. it is as simple as that. im pretty sure you dont wanna lose me forever cause once im gone im never coming back.
What the...What the heck sort of ultimatum is that!? What horrible manipulation! Shame on you! How can you basically say, 'I love you but pick me over your soon-to-be-husband who will then be your family and the one you spend the rest of your life with and whom you love and hopefully makes you happy, or else I'll be gone from your life forever'?

The phone works both ways. If you wanna be friends then you should work at it too, but if anyone ever tossed the it's me or the one you love card my way that person would be gone forever.

[DarkWingedAngel]

Where in there did i once say pick me over him. I didn't say that at all. And this really isn't any of your business anyways but if your gonna get involved at least read it right she has known for a while that im gonna be gone sooner or later and frankly im not going just cause she has no time for me im going wether she talks to me or not it has been my plan for a long time. And the reason i said Facebook will be gone is because in gonna be in the theater world.... i don't exactly want stalkers. Kay thanks

[FreeFall]

Well, in an advice board you can't really tell me to mind my own business.

And essentially you did. You told her to stop being with her fiance 24/7 and make time for you or else you'll be gone forever. He's her fiance. They're going to spend the rest of their time together.
No they don't need to be attached at the hip, but it's not your call nor your place to tell her to stop being with her future husband and make time for you.
You can ask for that, you didn't though, you demanded that she create time for you.
Like I said, if you really 'have a place for her in your heart' then you need to help out that place. You can pick up the phone, you can call her, you can communicate too. You can have a relationship with her outside of her fiance. You affirmed that you are indeed ignoring her. how can she reach out to you when you've been ignoring her? And it's because her fiance hates you. So? What's that matter? He loves her, not you. He doesn't have to like you for you to be her friend.

[DarkWingedAngel]

You do not know how she is ok i didn't have her number or anything and her bc calls me a fag and shot and makes it so she can't even talk to me he controls her life and shot you don't even know the half f it

[FreeFall]

You do not know how she is ok i didn't have her number or anything and her bc calls me a fag and shot and makes it so she can't even talk to me he controls her life and shot you don't even know the half f it
That's nice.

I'm going off of what I know and what see. You can't really hold that over my head.

[ackmedsgirl666]

That's nice.

I'm going off of what I know and what see. You can't really hold that over my head.

freefall
please back off
sarcasm and smart ass comments aRE not needed here
leave him be. he is entitled to his own opinion\
i love you dyl you know i do its just i am going through alot of changes right now and well.. mikey is apart of those desions
im sorry im not there 24/7 but i still try and talk to you.

[FreeFall]

freefall
please back off
sarcasm and smart ass comments aRE not needed here
leave him be. he is entitled to his own opinion\
i love you dyl you know i do its just i am going through alot of changes right now and well.. mikey is apart of those desions
im sorry im not there 24/7 but i still try and talk to you.
Well this is between you two now and I wish you the best of luck and happiness regardless of what you do (:

[ackmedsgirl666]

yeah thanks
but stop making him feel like shit

[FreeFall]

yeah thanks
but stop making him feel like shit
My apologizes.

Best of luck and a long happy life to all involved.