making amends

[Destructive Impulse]

So im confused about this. Lately all these people have been messaging me on Facebook apologizing about pretty much being an ass to me. I dont really know how to respond to them since I really dont want to forgive em. Im wondering if im bein immature but in my opinion they were one of the reasons high school is hell.

[dontfiguremeout]

Forgiveness is definitely something very hard to do especially when you know the person made your life hell. Well I had a person who gave my life hell this whole year, and their forgiveness was basically blaming me for everything when I did nothing. I was pissed, and I knew he was wrong, but I just had to forgive him for all the things that he did wrong. Now I didn't say it to him, because some forgivenesses are meant to be spoken, and some aren't. I mean at some point you will need to forgive your bullies, because how will other people forgive you if you can't forgive anyone back right? So if they fb messaged you, and you don't want to respond back, you can simply forgive them mentally and don't have to say a word to them.

[ImCoolBeans]

While it may be difficult to forgive, holding onto these grudges can really effect you negatively and keep you from moving forward with your life; keeping you from bettering the quality of it.

[Destructive Impulse]

Forgiveness is definitely something very hard to do especially when you know the person made your life hell. Well I had a person who gave my life hell this whole year, and their forgiveness was basically blaming me for everything when I did nothing. I was pissed, and I knew he was wrong, but I just had to forgive him for all the things that he did wrong. Now I didn't say it to him, because some forgivenesses are meant to be spoken, and some aren't. I mean at some point you will need to forgive your bullies, because how will other people forgive you if you can't forgive anyone back right? So if they fb messaged you, and you don't want to respond back, you can simply forgive them mentally and don't have to say a word to them.

ya I dont wanna really give them the satisfaction of forgiveness or let them feel like they did nothing wrong.

[Iron Man]

I would forgive them. Life is far too short to hold a grudge. That, and you destroy your enemies by making friends with them.

[dontfiguremeout]

But the thing is, if you forgive them mentally and not tell them, then they won't even know you are forgiving them. So then they won't feel off the hook or anything, but you personally have forgave them and moved on.

[DerBear]

So im confused about this. Lately all these people have been messaging me on Facebook apologizing about pretty much being an ass to me. I dont really know how to respond to them since I really dont want to forgive em. Im wondering if im bein immature but in my opinion they were one of the reasons high school is hell.

Well I was once in this situation. I had a guy who was always a bit of an idiot towards me, nothing serious but he was a pain in the backside to say the least.

Anyway he spoke to me face to face and explained that he was sorry for acting like a bit of an asshole, anyway I explained to him that while we have never be "friends" we can be civilized with each other and not dislike each other. Now we talk occasionally we are far from friends but there is no real bad blood between us.

While it may be difficult to forgive, holding onto these grudges can really effect you negatively and keep you from moving forward with your life; keeping you from bettering the quality of it.

Again you should listen to Mike on this one. Holding onto grudges is never a good idea. It can lead to a lot of built up hate and I mean a lot of built up hate. It can really mess with your mind and the thing is, once you stop the feeling of hate goes away and you just feel so much better.

You can hold onto hate all you want. But it ain't healthy for you so try not to do it. It is better that you move on because people ain't worth holding grudges over.

[Destructive Impulse]

I'm not really holding a grudge or anything like that. I just don't want anything to do with them

[Noirtier]

So im confused about this. Lately all these people have been messaging me on Facebook apologizing about pretty much being an ass to me. I dont really know how to respond to them since I really dont want to forgive em. Im wondering if im bein immature but in my opinion they were one of the reasons high school is hell.

This, I know how you feel. I've been there, except the people who did it to me didn't even ask for forgiveness. I know they hurt you, and you don't want to forgive them. But let me be honest with you. Forgiveness, quite frankly, sets YOU free, not them. Yes, they're asking for forgiveness. You don't have to tell them you've forgiven them if you don't want to, but you should. Don't be the kind of person to them that they were to you. Forgiveness is the key to moving on. I wish you luck, because I know it's hard.