Say "hi" is so hard.

[Pipo]

Okay so....

Let me ask you few questions. We all have skype/msn/yahoo instant messengers right or any other type of messenger and we've friends in it? Some that we know as person, some that we know just online but friends alright?

There's something that really makes me feel like what are these people doing in my friend list. I've some friends that I say "hi" first and we talked daily pretty much whole day if we want or if we aren't busy or not go out. I've noticed that if I DON'T say "hi" first he won't say me "hi" ever. For example I haven't talked to one of my friend because I haven't said "hi" to him first so he doesn't notice me or something maybe ignores?

Then what really makes me pissed is that then he comes to talk to me when he has a problem and cries on my shoulder. When it's over and I don't say "hi" first to him he never talks to me.....

So basically I need to say "hi" first to open the convo each time we talk? Why do I keep people like this in my friend list who never talk to me if I don't start it. That's same as I walk pass my friend on street and say "hi" and he ignores me.

Anyone else got this?

[wild1]

It's a small thing. Some people just need to be drawn out more to get started talking. They might be a little shy. Don't let it bother you if you're the one who gets it going. Also, if somebody cries on your shoulder, take it as a nice compliment that they think you're somebody who listens and cares.

[Wonder.]

I never start conversations. For me it's really awkward and I have no idea what to say. I wait until they have a topic to discuss. Maybe they're like me, or it is possible they just ignore you. If you don't like them, remove them.

[DerBear]

I say "Hi" sometimes but to be honest, it could be just yourself. I mean I sometimes have Skype open or something but I never notice it or anything until I need to use it or someone says "hi" to me on it.

Most of us use chats to seek support in the time of need as it is a confidence booster, they may not feel comfortable talking to someone face to face with there troubles. So it is kinda generic.

Overall I think it depends on the person, sometimes they say "hi" sometimes they don't it can be upsetting for a friend but to be honest it happens. Perhaps you could discuss it sometime with said friend/friends?

I wish you the best of luck. Sorry I could not be more helpful.

[Pipo]

I understand that some people are shy but how it's possible like after knowing each other for like...year or so is it still so hard to say hi first?

For me it's not really awkward to say hi first or start convo I just start it that's it.

But yeah maybe I should just start the talking then and keep listening what's wrong with other people and try to help best as I can.

[Wonder.]

I sometimes say hi but very rarely. I've had some friends for three years now and I've had maybe ten actual text message conversations with each of them. I guess it just doesn't bother me.

[Caver]

I got this all the time, especially on facebook. It's annoying that we have to make our first move, but not them.