i dont know what to do...

[fidder]

Well Idk how to start this off so ill just type it like whatever .-.


Ok so um me and this girl were friends for a while on a game (about a month) and little by little we started to like each other so I decided to ask her out and she said yes and after about a month we gave each other our phone numbers and well eventually fell in love :) we never fought, we always helped each other out, cheered each other up when one of us was sad or just not in a good mood, we really cared about each other but then I don't know why but my idiotness decided to break up with her after about 2 months... And I still don't know why I broke up with her :/ she's everything to me she is the best thing that has happened to me and I love her and I know I do... She is beautiful, funny, fun to be with, interesting, she has a amazingly amazing personality, and she understands me and well what i want to ask is what do I do? She says that she still loves me but she needs some time to think about things... She is 13 and I'm 14 and I love her but I want to show her that i love her so that she can take me back and I want to show her that I'm not like some guys that just want sex or care about looks so any ideas on what I can do? We live in different states and i beg u please don't say ur just 14 there's plenty more girls out there -.- I know u people probably wont believe me but I think she's the one :)

[Jupiter]

Hey buddy.

I'm sorry that you're upset.

However, I'm glad you found someone that you can talk to and help another person out. Some people take their whole lives in search for what you think you have found. However, you need to remember that there are many people out there, not just females or people you feel that you should be in a relationship with, it could be another guy friend.

Have you spoken to her since this happened?

She may be the one, but remember that you and her are both rather young, did you meet online?

[fidder]

Yes we did meet online and yes I talk to her 24/7 except this past week... She got her phone taken away

[Jupiter]

Well maybe you guys should just talk for while. Maybe just be friends, ya know what I mean?

[fidder]

We have been friends for 2 months now and talk about everything and i mean EVERYTHING even personal things and sometimes we text each other while we shower xD

[Jupiter]

Well that's nice, but just because she is a girl doesn't mean that she can't be your best friend.

[fidder]

I'm sorry can you explain that a little bit?

[Jupiter]

From you posting it sounds like you either want to date her, or just not talk. You can be just as close to her without dating her. Do you understand a bit more now?

[fidder]

Oh no no no i don't want to stop talking to her trust me its been a week of not talking to her and I'm dieing already.... So yes i do want to date her but I don't want to push her into anything I just want her to 100% know how I feel about her

[fidder]

And sorry if I'm confusing you, i need to be more informative

[Jupiter]

I think in this situation, you just have to let things work themselves out. If you need anything else, you can visitor message me here, or you can skype me in my address in my info

[fidder]

Well I guess ill wait 2 more months and if nothing happens then ill call her and tell her exactly how i feel and thanks for the help :)

[Sordid Saint]

It sounds like you two are really cool with eachother, so just tell her how you feel I'm sure she won't find it weird or anything. She will probably tell you how she feels back.

[fidder]

Well we are really close and we really trust each other but I don't want to push her into anything if she is not ready

[DarkHorse4eva]

Send her flowers and a card that says how much u like her

[fidder]

Well I've told her how I feel about her many times over the past 2 months but she never says anything except for one time but I forgot what she said.... I just want to make sure she knows how I feel I can't send her anything because her parents will ask how she got it and maybe get grounded for a long time because her parents don't allow her to date so I was thinking maybe write a poem and text it to her? Or try to learn a song and sing it to her over the phone? She's writing a song about me so I guess its kind of returning a favor kinda thing? O.o

[fidder]

Please I need opinions!

[unnamed94]

let her have her own space to think about it, so dont be pushing her about it. but dont wait 2 months, which i think is too much, because she may start to look at some other guys if you take too long to make a move. now that she knows you like her, just wait for a while. about the poem/song, make sure she likes that kind of stuff, some girls dont like that. you seem a little desperate, lol. good luck with all that

[fidder]

I already said I would wait and that I didn't want to push her into anything -_- and yes she told me that she thinks its cute but should I write a poem or sing her a song or both?

[unnamed94]

I already said I would wait and that I didn't want to push her into anything -_- and yes she told me that she thinks its cute but should I write a poem or sing her a song or both?

I dont know actually. in my case, i would find it a little bit too much and little corny to do either one, but you are not writing a poem or singing to me (that would be weird). its finally up to you to decide because you know her and you would know if she would like you doing both or not, although if you were even considering it in the first place (you thought she would like it) and she thinks it is cute, then i would just go for it and do them both if i were you. texting her the poem or singing it when calling on the phone doesnt seem right, try to arrange to see her some time and do it then. and btw when you said you are friends for two months now, do you mean you broke up two months ago or did you break up some time before that and now you are back to being friends for two months now?

[fidder]

We stayed as friends after we broke up and we can't meet because we live in different states... I'll wait for just the right moment so do those things

[Rashard1997]

If you really love her you shouldnt give up on her. Let her know that you will allways love and be there for her. :)

[fidder]

I'm not giving up on her, as long as I'm alive ill always love her ;) and I will

[fidder]

Tell her what rashard told me as soon as she gets her phone back

[unnamed94]

i have to be completely honest. you seem to be a little obsessed over her. that 'as long as im alive ill love her thing' was just too much coming from a 14 year old guy. although it is good and nice that you want to work things out for her, you have to be realistic: it wont last forever and that would be way harder because of the fact that you are so young (and what that implies) and live in different states. sorry if i was too blunt.
OT: although you probably wont get to do it in person, you should totally avoid sending the poem through text. you could even do it over skype or whatever.

[fidder]

So you're saying that I'm not ready to be in a relationship?

[unnamed94]

no, im just saying that you seem to have a wrong idea about being in a relationship when you are 14, specially if you cant see each other in person, or not that often. you cant even talk to her sometimes because she had her phone taken. you are thinking of it as way more serious than it actually is.

[fidder]

Well I've never been with a girl in person before and I think I will never be with one but she is caring and helpful towards me and no one has been like that to me not even my mom but she makes me feel appreciated so maybe I'm afraid to lose her which I really don't want to lose her because of that and because I love her

[unnamed94]

im not saying that you dont love her or anything, or that you both dont have what a somewhat normal relationship has (being helpful and caring for each other, make you feel appreaciated,etc). on the other hand it seems you are just making it seem to yourself as something bigger and much more serious than it is. that doesnt mean i dont support what you have with her (dont know if support is actually correct). enjoy it but if you decide you decide to keep thinking about what you have with her the way you do right now, when it is over (maybe not in the near future but im almost sure it will) you could get really hurt. why wouldnt you be ever be with a girl in person? thinking like that is just wrong. (you probably wont get what i really meant with this last thing, english isnt my first language)

[fidder]

Did u mean emotionally hurt? I dont think I will ever be with a girl because i dont really talk to them and I'm not attractive in anyway

[unnamed94]

of course i meant emotionally. dont you think that instead of hanging on to a single girl who you have almost no chance of being in a normal relationship with, it would be better to start talking to more people? stop being so shy (or whatever your problem is) and go get to know some people to make friends, and then you could move on to more than that. on the not attractive thing: physical attraction is only the first thing you would notice on a person, what really matters and keeps you liking someone is not their body. i think you are just underestimating yourself.

[fidder]

I'm done with this thread im tired of people saying "its not going to work" or "ur only 14 u have plenty of time to find someone else" but if u were in my shoes you'd have different thoughts about it -.-