being gay (or bi) in a religious family

[aanderso_n]

so I finally came to terms with my sexuality 4 years ago. I struggled for a long time trying to figure out who I am. think I always knew but I tried to deny it. I was always taught by my parents that being gay is a disgusting sin and a disgrace. but I came to realize i was always that way and I couldn't change it if I tried. at first this was very hard for me to accept, because knew up to that point, my parents only loved me for who I pretended to be and not who I AM. this hurt me a lot. only 3 people know im gay; 2 of my friends & god. and I know all 3 love me for who I am. I want to come out but im so scared... advice??

[aanderso_n]

also, im 15 and my parents are very homophobic and hateful, and I can't deal with being closeted anymore

[Stronger]

In this situation, I think you should wait till maybe you move out, telling them now may only make things difficult for you, probably not what you wanna hear, but your parents seem like the type, that will have a tough time accepting you, try to tell you, that your just imaging it, etc. (Just me opinion); But if you really want to tell them, then look for the right moment, maybe tell them one on one, or tell them both; and just tell them the truth and see where it goes from there; I wish you luck, I hope things go great for you.

[Lovemeorleaveme]

I don't mean to be disrespectful to your believes but doesn't it also say that we're all gods children and he loves us no matter what, also remember that alot of the things in the bible are somewhat out of date. Also remember that its your life and if your parents can't accept you for who you are then its nobodys fault but theirs, you have friends that accept you, all of us on VT and god, tell yourself that whenever it feels unbearable.

[loganbenson]

God loves us no matter what...you cannot change your inner feeling

[Bradley 97]

You sound like me! Dad was pastor:/ I told friends from school and parents still don't know and I feel like they would kick me out if they did... I know what you mean!

[wolfguy]

ok first pm me and2cnd dude i know what you mean my dad is a astor but thebib says gay marragie is bad so yeahpm me next week

[wolfguy]

lol my dad is a pastor srry

[SamB]

This is a very difficult situation, I was once in a similar position as I grew up to believe gay is wrong. However when I did come out to my parents I found it so difficult that I couldn't even do it to their face, I wrote them a letter and put it on their bed one night. In that I described everything I had gone through while finding out I was gay. My dad was fine, but my mum took it really hard and wouldn't talk to me for weeks after, thats over now but there are still homophibic comments made every now and then which hurts but I have learnt to deal with it. My biggest help through all this was god. I prayed so much and every time I was asking the same thing, for reasurance that everything el one day be ok, and god answered me that everything will be ok and he has a plan for me and he was the one who made me and will love me and always has done. If you pray about it loads it will probably help you so much and give you the strength you need to do what you need to do. Also pray that your parents will see the truth and will understand that this is who you are amd that no matter what they will love you because you are their son and they brought you into this world.

I hope everything goes well for you and I will pray for you too.

[Caver]

They should love you no matter gay or bi or straight, they should accept you for who you are and if they don't, it's sad.

[stew4rt]

show them that the bible actually says that god loves everyone and that everyone should treat everyone else equally and so if they are going to be true to it they shouldn't have an issue with it or else they will have an issue with god

[Ohthatguy45]

Just do it slowly and if they dont love u for u they dont derserve to b parent