I don't see my girlfriend enough.

[henrietta1423]

I'm 15, been in a relationship for 4 1/2 months, and I don't get to see my girlfriend as much as I would like. It's summer, so there's no school to see eachother at, and although we thought we'd see eachother every day this summer, we haven't. I've seen her on average once or twice a week, and it's driving me crazy! The reason is that her parents only let her see me that often, and for the most part anyone (although she does go out with friends once or twice a week too). This is our first real relationship and I'm really attached to her, and I put a ton of effort into us. We webcam and message eachother everyday, but for me that's not the same as actually being with eachother, and I've told her i need to see her more often, but she half apathetically agree's and says there's nothing we can do about it. I guess there isn't, but there's two months of summer left and if I'm gonna be in a relationship, commiting myself to one girl 24/7, I'd at least like to get to see her once in a while. When I do see her, it's usually at HER house under HER parents' supervision, and only when we're at my house (rarely) do we get to have sex. I have the opportunity to sneak out and ride a bike to her house (3 miles away) any night, and I've told her that I'm open to that, which we've done 3 times. BUUUUT, she now says its too risky, which although i understand, still frustrates me. that I can see her, but her parents (which I have no respect for) are killing it, sucks. Recently when we've been webcamming, it's been a bit awkward and the same feelings aren't all there, or at least they're not all real IMO. I think for us to survive, we need to see each other more, but I don't know how to accomplish that. I really love her and don't want us to break up. For anyone that might tell me I'm too obsessed and that I need to think about her less, the way I see it, if I'm going to be in an exclusive relationship, I should love that person as much as possible and get as close to them as I can. She also happens to be the first person I've gotten really close to in years, and definitely my first crush in 3 years (sad). One last fact, very recently I've started WORKING for her dad, doing construction work for which he doesn't even pay me minimum wage, in the hopes that he'll let me see her more. Is this reasonable? Should i be a bit upset if he doesn't start letting me see her more? I'm doing so much for her and for us, and I'm just wondering if i should expect to see results, and what to do If I don't.

[abdheuuuchjc]

Tell her these things, trust and communication are key. Maybe you should stop using ur free times for sex and do something more relationship strengthening

[henrietta1423]

She's hornier than I am; don't say not to have sex... It's not my choice

[Stronger]

I agree, a relationship isn't all about sex, why not do something more fun with your lives, actually hang out. As for the dad, getting upset over how much time he lets you see him is something you can't get upset over, those are his rules, and they should be respected. The only real thing I can tell you, is tell her how you feel, and see if she can convince her parents to let her see you more, but if they don't then again, can't get upset. I have a close friend that is in an relationship, and she can't even tell her parents that they are together, they are always closely watched when they are with her family, they are pretty stricked, so be thankful for the time you do get.

[Listed MIA]

i know how you feel. and i don't think you are obsessed. I hardly get to see my girlfriend in real life since we moved house. only 14 miles away, but when you don't have transport it might as well be 14,000 miles away. (her parents are not overly keen on me either) 3 miles isn't far though. can't you meet up halfway?

She is right that you sneaking round to her house is too risky. if you get caught then you'll probably never get to see her again. her parents have obviously got their rules and stuff and there is pretty much nothing you can do about it. i think you are doing the right thing working with her dad, trying to show him that you are a decent person. it seems like you are doing everything you possibly can. i don't think there is any advice i can give you. i guess just put up with it if you really love her. it won't be forever.

[unnamed94]

your girlfriend is the one who should talk to her parents, although you working for his dad does give them a better opinion on you (that you do care about her, you are responsible, etc). as others already said it would be too risky to sneak in because if you get caught her parents may not want you around her and as bad as you dont like that she will have to obey them. its nice that you care about your relationship as long as its not because of the sex. you shouldnt base your realtionship on it. try to arrange meeting with other friends, maybe her parents have a problem with you both being alone and not with other people.

[Scarykings]

I never saw my ex as often as i would like, probably like once or 2 a month. her parents were strict and she lives 1 hour away but every time we did, Well me anyways I felt happy and butterflies in my stomach. What I'm trying to say is even tho you don't see her as often as you want, Make the best of it every time you do see her. Hold her hand, Tell her romantic cheesy stuff just make her smile. I don't know where I'm going with this but short and simple, Make the best of it when you see her, Respect her parents and what they tell you. Not seeing someone for quite a while, I know how that feels but that feeling when you do see them. It's just exciting

[Hunterman711]

I'm only a few days from 14 and I've been dating this girl who is Perferct in every single way but it's summer and I don't get to see her so I can relate ,if you want to spend more time with her ask her Parents if you can take to movie or something cuz this will show them that you "respect" them and they'll trust to be with her more often. When you are with her don't always have sex now don't get me wrong sex is great but if you guys are truly in love you'll stay together long enough to do that whenever you want

[SydRoosters]

At least you HAVE a girlfriend ;)

[Dobesta]

As great John Green would say - 'Use your words' :) One of the foundations of a good relationship is communication. And I've been in a similar situation. The girl I liked moved to England for a year, and we rarely talked due to time differences. Try to savour every moment with her and remember sex is definitely not everything. My girlfriend and I (the girl who went to england) have been together for 7 months and we love each other IMMENSELY, but haven't had sex. Of course when you have sex is a completely personal decision between you and your girlfriend.
So yeah, use your words :) And trust me, if you love her as much as I think you do, it will be worth the wait at the end of summer :)

[PinkFloyd]

bro, keep in mind that sex isnt everything. Its definetly something, but not super, super important. Do something else like talk about this. or go see a movie (on you) if you can

[andrethaiss]

Sex shouldn't be everything and if you mess up doing it, it will scar you for the rest of your life, i wouldn't be having sex at your age.