like my two best friends.

[Matthew69]

so heres the deal. i am 14. i really like both of my best friends. ones name is zach and the others is jake. the reason i like zach is because hes the laid back kinda guy, and he is very cute. but i haven't told him, and u try to get him to do stuff with me. I can't. what should i do about him? and my other best friend jake, he came over a couple weeks ago, and we got in the pool and skinny dipped and we went up to my room and sucked each other. and later we like humped each other. but i don't think he is gay, just horny. idk what to do.... help me

[Serenity]

Well first you definitely need to talk to Jake and figure out exactly how he feels. If he's gay, it looks like you guys have a relationship in the making- though be careful, as you don't want to mess up your friendship. If he's not gay, I personally don't believe in friends with benefits, but that's for you two to deciede.

As for Zach, I think you should just keep your current relationship going with him, at least until you figure out what's going on with Jake.

Hope this helps! :daisy:

[MoveAlong]

I completely agree with Valerie! :D

[Trademarked]

i agree with both of the posts above! and also, with zach, try not to pressure him into doing things with you, because if he isnt gay, or doesnt want to, then things might get awkward between you two, and possibly ruin the relationship you two have.

[Kamloops.man]

I agree with EmotionalMeltdown09

[Crazysam]

Valerie you are a genius!
In addition My advice would be that if this guy has "sucked you off" (as you put it) then this would suggest he is homosexual and must have feelings for you...
All i can say is just tell him how you feel, for all you know he could be in pretty much the same situation. Whatever happens i hope you are happy dude ;)

[Melchi0r]

In addition My advice would be that if this guy has "sucked you off" (as you put it) then this would suggest he is homosexual and must have feelings for you...

Not necessarily. It could have been experimentation, but the fact that he did it makes his sexuality questionable. I think if he was prepared to give you a BJ, Matthew, then I bet he will accept you, or perhaps he's a closet homo- or bisexual himself.

[Matthew69]

one time he actually asked me what i would do if he was gay. i told him that he was still jake and that it didn't change who he was. but then he said he wasn't gay. so idk. but i think i am going to have him over tomorrow =]. maybe anyway

[MoveAlong]

Cool. It may be a great time to ask him, since that question of "what would you think/do if I told you I were gay" is a question that sticks out and he really may be gay.

[A.J.]

hmm. hard one there. talk to your friend zach and tell him how you feel. if hes your best friend he'll accept you and you should ask jake how he feels about you sexual relationship. most teens who do this arent gay just curious and yes horny.

[Maverick]

Cool. It may be a great time to ask him, since that question of "what would you think/do if I told you I were gay" is a question that sticks out and he really may be gay.Yeah I agree with that. That question can possibly be a step forward to coming out. He may have just denied saying he was gay after asking you that because he may not be completely comfortable admitting it yet.

[Serenity]

Cool. It may be a great time to ask him, since that question of "what would you think/do if I told you I were gay" is a question that sticks out and he really may be gay.

Yeah, "what if" questions are generally big tips that people are seriously considering the idea- it's a classic method of staging casual questions that you don't want people to think you're serious about.


*Edit- Whoops, didn't see Ant's post. Yeah, ditto him, too- he made good points with denial/being uncomfortable that I hadn't thought of. :)

[jkpartyguy14]

I have done things with other guys, but I am not gay. Just talk to your friends about how you feel and see if jake is gay or not?

[Some Guy]

EEEEWWW! That is nasty. Never do that again.

[Maverick]

EEEEWWW! That is nasty. Never do that again.Please post only if you're going to be constructively helpful.

[Unknown_kid]

this jake guy, seems to like you, allot, and i think, he wants to be with you.