Friend Problems -_-

[Jaden Harlowe]

Hey everyone, basically I have this friend who deosn't know that I am bi. We are both 16 and he is extremely cute but I think he is straight. It really kills me that he doesn't know how I feel about him. I want to tell him but I don't want it to get out that I am bi, I want it stay secret. We are having a sleepover tonight and I'm not sure whether I should tell him or not. What do you guys think? :confused:

[audiophile5]

Well, it depends on how close you two are and what kind of person he is. If you two are close enough, you should tell him, but only if you're positive he'll understand and won't make a big deal of this. If not, you should wait till you're closer, because chances can appear anytime:)

[abcdefghjklmnop]

Don't tell him, if he is straight it will freak him out and if he is bi or gay he will still freak out and stop being friends with you (or he will be extremely awkward with you)

I am speaking from personal experience, unless you are expecting a relationship out of this don't tell him. I told a girl friend I was a bi and we were never the same after it.

[ImCoolBeans]

P101 :arrow: Teen Sexuality

If you're comfortable enough with him knowing, then perhaps you should tell him. You don't need to rush anything, or do anything you aren't 100% comfortable with. You also don't need to play it off like you're trying to make a move on him; you could tell him and see where things go, if you're looking to possibly have a relationship with him, if you think he might possibly tell you after.

[Jaden Harlowe]

Thanks for the replies so far guy :D

[Wonder.]

I disagree with STSA. Everyone treated me the same when I told people I'm gay.

If you're comfortable with it and think he won't make a big deal, tell him you're bi. Obviously, don't tell him you like him right after. Wait some time for that.

[Jhcx]

A way i found this was talking about sexual things. basically guy stuff. and eventually when and if you feel the time is right during some stage of the night and ye have talked from A-Z then you should just let it slip. Now its not the easiest thing but if you reassure him that he is a friend and thats all cant really go wrong unless he has something to say... Best of luck

[whiteyrhys]

Hi Jaden,

I understand how you feel! I’ve not gone through this myself but have had others who have.

Jaden you need to take care of number one (yourself) and do what you feel is best. Whether you tell your friend would indeed depend on how close you are to him and what your time as being friends tells you about his personality.

For example; is he the type of person who is always making comments about guys who are gay/bi? If he is then you need to maybe have a think on how you will approach it – but there is definitely no need to rush. Do not do something you’re not 100% comfortable with.

If you feel that after weighing up everything that you feel he is someone you can trust and can confide in about your sexuality then you should take the necessary steps to do so at your sleepover.

If he really is your friend he won’t care. If he is gay or bi too – even better, he will understand. Although if you’re looking to have a relationship with him be careful – sometimes friends are best kept that way because after a relationship it can sometimes never go back to how it was with friends.

Take your time! I hope everything works out for you :)

[Jaden Harlowe]

Thanks guys

[loganbenson]

If your close tell him...why? because maybe he will decide it's okay to experiment then all problems solved