I think it's time.

[greenwise]

I dont know, but lately i've been coming to terms with the fact that i am gay & theres no changing it. i always tend to find myself in a depressing mood because im thinking about how amazing having a boyfriend would be, etc. but for some reason it just hasn't hit me yet that i must come out and tell everyone that i'm gay.

I feel like it is time, though. i`m constantly being picked on for people assuming i am gay, but for some reason i feel as though if people actually knew i was gay, they wouldn't poke fun. [it would be like joking with someone saying.. 'your mom is fat' and then you wont want to joke about it once you really find out she is] haha, lame example, and thats on a much lower scale, but do y'all see what i mean?

& im going to be a freshman in a couple of weeks, & i heard that gay people at brookwood get instantly popular for being gay [that is NOT what i am needing right now, haha] and there is even a GLBT club at the highschool, so i think i may feel as though i am accepted there.

im just REALLY worried about what my parents will think. i know my mom has distaste for gay people, as even today we were watching a tv show and she changed the channel & i said "change it back" & she remarked "no, those men were gay." ugh. i mean, i know she would still love me, but IDK. ITS JUST SO CONFUSING. lol.


anyone have any comments to make my life easier?
thanks for reading, if you did! :wub:

[Loner Girl6]

Well,I know what your saying.I just started telling people I was bi like this summer and it sucks when the people you really care about don't understand but she's your mom and I personally think if your sure this is who you are,your better off telling her now then lying to her for years about it.That's usually what mothers have the most trouble with,knowing that you've been lying to them about it for so long.I mean I can't use the same logic with my mom I'm hoping that I'll just end up with a guy and everything will work itself out but in your case it seems like theres no getting around it.I do however suggest meeting with a professional or possibly another parent that knows what your mother will be going through,that way she can talk to someone that truly understands the parents side of things.I do believe that in time your mother will understand and except you for who you are,but maybe thats something your just gonna have to trust.Tell her who you are and in time trust that her love for you will help her come around.Sorry that was so long.Goodluck.

[Activate]

If your open with being gay, it makes you feel so much better about yourself

[redcar]

Think about it before you do anything. Coming out I dont think is a great thing. To the people who know with me, it has changed nothing. I am still akward about being gay and in some cases had I bad experiences, with how they reacted.

I always think there is no need to go out of your way to tell people. If they ask tell them, or you feel certain people really should know then tell them. But I think going out of your way to tell everyone is not the best. But I think when it comes to sexuality, its not something that defines you. Like I would hate for someone when they think of me just to think "Oh he is the gay one."

My sexuality is something I am, but not what defines me.

[Whisper]

My sexuality is something I am, but not what defines me.

Amen

[byee]

I'm not sure where you're getting the idea that 'coming out' will make your life easier. 14 year olds are not noted for their compassion, sensitivity, and acceptance. And you know this based on your experience with them just thinking you're gay!
I think that the first step is coming to terms with this yourself. it's great that there's a GBLT club at school, where you can be with others like you, and get some support and friendship. Maybe they can help with the other issues of who to tell and how best to do it. And that thorny issue of telling your folks.

I've said elsewhere that sharing anything really personal is a very sensitive thing, because you've got to be really sure it will not only be well received, but also that it will be better for them, and you. And in your case, none of that seems clear. I think you're taking a real risk, and without proper support and planning, could backfire in a bad way.

You know, you are who you are, and we're all much more than what turns us on or who we feel close to. It takes time and care to get comfortable with that, and have others accept it, too. Give it time, get some support, see what unfolds. Don't do anything abruptly out of desperation.

[jkpartyguy14]

I have dated a guy before and I kept it a secret because I did not kno if I was gay or not, but now I kno I am Bi and not gay or straight because I like both and my friends accept that, but it is always hard at first. Whe I came out that I was bi it was a little hard coming out gay would be even harder I would wait until I was atleast in highschool and 15 or 16 if I were you.