Well, Fuck.

[Heatbomb21]

Just found out that the girl I love is in an unofficial but still existent relationship with my best friend. I mean, I knew it was inevirable, since their going to the same high school, and they've liked each other for a whhile, but I'm still pretty bummed about it. And I'm kinda pissed at my friend right now so I'm not exactly open to happy thoughts involving them.

At this point, I really do not care if I have a chance with her or not, but I still want to let her know how I feel, and this is a giant-ass obstacle. At least to me.

I'll probably be seeing her again tonight for the first time since graduation, and I won't have many more opportunities to see her this summer, so I'm just wondering what to do.

Advice, experiences, bitter truths, etc. Are all appreciated.

[JakeRS]

Why don't you just talk to her via skype or facebook if you miss this chance,i mean why wait 2 months for a next chance? Anyway,you should just tell her that you like her and see her reaction,there is no other way,i mean there is,you can wait for her to break up with the friend,but who knows when that will happen,so yeah,you should tell her.

[Wooba]

If your friend knew you liked her, then he's kind of an asshole. You should always tell people how you feel when you can. otherwise they'll never know, and you'll never know if there are some mutual feelings.
Tell her how you feel, you got nothing to lose.

[Heatbomb21]

Why don't you just talk to her via skype or facebook if you miss this chance,i mean why wait 2 months for a next chance? Anyway,you should just tell her that you like her and see her reaction,there is no other way,i mean there is,you can wait for her to break up with the friend,but who knows when that will happen,so yeah,you should tell her.

My only contact with her is via cellphone. There is no way I can say anything like that over the phone, not being able to read her response like in person. It'd be too suspenseful for me. I need a method to tell her but I just cannot find one.

If your friend knew you liked her, then he's kind of an asshole. You should always tell people how you feel when you can. otherwise they'll never know, and you'll never know if there are some mutual feelings.
Tell her how you feel, you got nothing to lose.

[laughs] No. He doesn't know, he's joked about it though without even knowing. Nobody knows except myself, though I've received strong hints that another good friend of mine knows, and the girl herself may have caught on. But I never confirmed.

You're totally correct. But it will just be awkward with my friend in the picture now. Now there's a chance that he'll be effected. I don't want that to happen at all. In what way should I go about telling her that won't create that issue?

[JakeRS]

My only contact with her is via cellphone. There is no way I can say anything like that over the phone, not being able to read her response like in person. It'd be too suspenseful for me. I need a method to tell her but I just cannot find one.


Then just tell her that you want to meet with her for some reason (idk,think of something) or call her and a few other friends to go somewhere (example:to drive bicycles,play some sport,etc.) and then try to get alone with her.

[Thunderstorm]

I don't think you, or your friend want to let this one girl ruin your relationship. she is one girl in your life. there are plenty of others.

Since you really do like her though, and their relationship is not really "officila" (whatever that could mean) i'll give you some info and tips.
-Show her your true self. Make sure it isn't someone you're trying to live up to 9like your friend).
-Do not act shy. Speak up!
-Do not just stare. If she is there, make small talk.
-Make sure she likes you enough before you get too close to her

We've all been in these situations. You're not alone.
http://www.datingtips.ws/showtip.php?tipid=46203

[Heatbomb21]

I don't think you, or your friend want to let this one girl ruin your relationship. she is one girl in your life. there are plenty of others.

Since you really do like her though, and their relationship is not really "official" (whatever that could mean) i'll give you some info and tips.
-Show her your true self. Make sure it isn't someone you're trying to live up to, like your friend).
-Do not act shy. Speak up!
-Do not just stare. If she is there, make small talk.
-Make sure she likes you enough before you get too close to her

We've all been in these situations. You're not alone.
http://www.datingtips.ws/showtip.php?tipid=46203

You know how it is, I'm sure. Meet someone, have a good reason to love them, hold that reason tight and don't let it go. I'm having that right now. I don't CURRENTLY, though it's inevitable that I'll change my mind soon, want to think of anyone else. Plus, I'm going to an all boys school, so any thoughts are kinda impossible.

I have been using those tips towards the end of our past school year. They were indeed effective, because we became friends afterwards, but I never really kept it up like I should've if I wanted to let her know how I feel. I'd pick up where I left off, and try them again, but I will not be seeing her too much at all. I didn't even see her tonight like I'd hoped. Going from having the opportunity every day to barely at all kinda sucks. The little times I do have would not be sufficient. I'll say that now.

So how would I even get in a position to tell her that's in person? It's barely possible. Even if I can get to that point, my friend works his way back into the picture. I'm sure anything I do won't complicate my friendship with him, but bottom line, THIS SHIT IS FLIP FLOPPING OVER MY FACE.

[Heatbomb21]

Update: Ok, now I'm REALLY confused.

So apparently, the TRUE story is, they WERE at one point unofficially dating, and liked each other, but they were pressured by friends too hard, so things got awkward and they sadly "broke up". So now I feel WORSE about telling her, because:

1.) I don't know exactly what terms they split on, so whether or not they're or specifically her are still sensitive about it is beyond me.

2.) I don't know when exactly they broke up, but I know that it was recent, so I don't want to hit something.

3.) Him. If everything does work out with me telling her, what will happen on his end? No idea.

I hate finding stuff out. Though I have to admit, I'm glad I did when I did.

[DarkHorse4eva]

Ask her if shes ok over the break up, maybe if you did that she will like you

[Heatbomb21]

Graham, Please read reply #4.


Ramsus, wouldn't that be insensitive? To ask a person who I'm really not as close to as I'd like to be about her break-up with someone she still MAY like? For my own benefit of getting 3 words off my chest which I should've said a while ago?