Billy-no-mates.

[LoveMe_HateMe]

I really give up trying with my so-called friends. Every time I don't talk to them for a couple of weeks they seem to just block me out and leave me. And when I do try to get in contact with them to try and meet up for a drink or something they either just ignore me or acknowledge it but don't agree. I'm 18 with no friends (part from girlfriend).

I don't know what's wrong with me, I don't know if it's me or what. My last so-called-bestfriends have both ditched me and both of them knew what was going on with me... I know I'm not always the best person to be friends with... But with both of them it was always me that went to see them. They hardly ever came to see me.

I really don't know what to do.

I need some friends that I can have a good chat and a moan with - someone other than my girlfriend... Don't get me wrong I love her but I need other friends. The only friends that I have are my girlfriends mum and her friends.

I don't know, I just feel so left out, so alone.

[Sonic Boom]

I can relate 100% here. But what I've learned is that you can't expect anyone to be a true friend. You have to find the people that match your character. Likewise, your character has to match, connect and cooperate with their personalities.

Finding the right people is therefore difficult and may take time, but you'll find them. Even if its not that many.

[wild1]

I'd say you should forget about those friends who don't have time for you and make some new ones. Try joining something. You can also be better friends with the bfs of your girlfriend's friends. :yes:

[dontfiguremeout]

I know what you mean! And it sucks too!!! Umm well open up a bit more at school just so you can make some new friends. I had to do that (sadly was last week, and everyone was leaving) and I made a bunch of new friends! Trust me it will work! Plus when you are making friends, especially best friends, it can take some time, but creating the friendship is the best part since you are getting to know them and they throw many surprise interests at you, like you will do with them! So yeah my point is open up and go find friends!

[Stronger]

Been in that situation before(sorta) but anyway, clearly they aren't your closest friends, I think its best to move on from them, making new ones is the way to go; whether you do it in school, work, those groups at church(I forget the name), etc; all you need is one or two close friends, and in your case besides your girlfriend. You just need to find people who have the same interests as you, and those that will treat you like gold and not like shit.

[LoveMe_HateMe]

I can relate 100% here. But what I've learned is that you can't expect anyone to be a true friend. You have to find the people that match your character. Likewise, your character has to match, connect and cooperate with their personalities.

Finding the right people is therefore difficult and may take time, but you'll find them. Even if its not that many.

Yeah, I have done that and I did "connect" yet they still leave me hanging when I need someone the most. But when they need someone I'm straight there, if someone asks me to jump, I say how high. I may not have time.

I'd say you should forget about those friends who don't have time for you and make some new ones. Try joining something. You can also be better friends with the bfs of your girlfriend's friends. :yes:

It's not that easy for me to make new friends though - outside of going to the gym on a daily basis and work and spending time with the girlfriend and trying to have a social life, I don't have time to join anything and I can't afford to join anything, 'cause most of the clubs and hobbies and stuff cost money :(

I know what you mean! And it sucks too!!! Umm well open up a bit more at school just so you can make some new friends. I had to do that (sadly was last week, and everyone was leaving) and I made a bunch of new friends! Trust me it will work! Plus when you are making friends, especially best friends, it can take some time, but creating the friendship is the best part since you are getting to know them and they throw many surprise interests at you, like you will do with them! So yeah my point is open up and go find friends!

I see your point but I've just left college and everyone in my class where guys, don't get me wrong, guys aren't too bad but with my experiences with ex's and friends, I can't seem to fit in with them - which makes it harder for me to make friends. And again with opening up to people... I can't not any more. I have major trust issues :(

Been in that situation before(sorta) but anyway, clearly they aren't your closest friends, I think its best to move on from them, making new ones is the way to go; whether you do it in school, work, those groups at church(I forget the name), etc; all you need is one or two close friends, and in your case besides your girlfriend. You just need to find people who have the same interests as you, and those that will treat you like gold and not like shit.

Yeah, I know, but it's easier said than done. It's hard to find people who will treat you like gold not like shit.


I appreciate the comments and I'm sorry if it seems that I'm knocking all your comments back

[dontfiguremeout]

Well when you are getting jobs try and make new friends at your job, which then can lead you getting more friends.

[Sonic Boom]

You may have connected with them, but if they treated you like that, then they clearly didn't connect with you.

So take note of what the others have said about being more proactive. Your true friends are not going to arrive on a silver platter for you. Don't worry, you'll find them eventually, and when you do-its totally worth the time and the effort! Don't give up hope just yet (even though this situation sucks camel's scrotum)!