TheHumanSpirit
June 28th, 2012, 10:42 AM
I am in love with my only guy best friend. I have been for two years. I haven't been able to tell him because I feel like he's gay and won't admit it, and he's also in the narcissistic developmental stage where he has to project the image of perfection (and that image includes his friends). I didn't tell him I was gay because I had a pretty good sense that he would be extremely uncomfortable around me (as he is with other gay friends).
I graduated and moved away, and he's going to high school next year for his senior year. I want to tell him in case he feels the same way about me, but I don't think I'm going to tell him I like him, just that I'm gay. Problem 1: Should I?
The next problem is that I have an obsessive need to talk to him because it makes me feel good. I call him and leave a message, or I text him, but he doesn't respond sometimes for a week or more, claiming that he's busy (when in actuality all he's doing is sleeping, watching TV, or playing with his siblings -- not really enough to avoid someone you actually like for a week in my opinion). Maybe this has changed your consideration of Problem 1. Maybe not. Problem 2: How do I stop this obsession of wanting to talk to him all the time? When I go to sleep, I think about him and wish he was there next to me. He's in 90% of my dreams. When I wake up, I think about how he might call or txt me back that day.
I graduated and moved away, and he's going to high school next year for his senior year. I want to tell him in case he feels the same way about me, but I don't think I'm going to tell him I like him, just that I'm gay. Problem 1: Should I?
The next problem is that I have an obsessive need to talk to him because it makes me feel good. I call him and leave a message, or I text him, but he doesn't respond sometimes for a week or more, claiming that he's busy (when in actuality all he's doing is sleeping, watching TV, or playing with his siblings -- not really enough to avoid someone you actually like for a week in my opinion). Maybe this has changed your consideration of Problem 1. Maybe not. Problem 2: How do I stop this obsession of wanting to talk to him all the time? When I go to sleep, I think about him and wish he was there next to me. He's in 90% of my dreams. When I wake up, I think about how he might call or txt me back that day.