Please HELP ME

[DOGDOG]

My girlfriend has told me she wont have sex with me anymore unless I dominate her and treat her rough. The only time I have only done what she wanted was when I was pushing her head down during a blowjob.
I feel really bad and like a monster when I do what she wants , it almost feels like im raping her. How do I tell her I dont like having sex like this with her???:(:confused::confused:

[Gigablue]

Just tell her you don't like it. There is no one forcing you to have sex with her. Explain your concern and discomfort to her. Hopefully she will respect your opinion. You could also try to find some common ground and find something you both enjoy. However, don't let her force you to do something you don't want to do.

[EvilB]

If she's making you do it than it's her raping you! Reverse logic

[LatinaVivit]

If you don't want to do it...then don't. She wants you to have power, then have some power and don't let her push you around! If it still doesn't work, dump her for someone classier!

[Ricardo]

I agree with the others.Tell her.We have all had to tell people what we like in sex that way we get the best sex.

[logic]

The other posters have got it right. If you don't like playing rough then you need to tell her. Explain to her that when she asks you to be rough you feel as though you are raping her or that you might hurt her. If she really is your girlfriend and cares about your feelings then she will understand. As someone who enjoys a little rough play once in a while, not all the time, there are a couple suggestions that I could make to make you more comfortable. First, ask her why she likes it rough. Is it that she has become bored with "normal" sex and wants to spice things up or is there something else going on. if she is just bored try some new positions, anal, or role play. Try sex in a new place, like the couch or backyard as long as there is a spot you are absolutely certain no one can see you. You can even go without for days or weeks or longer. That way when you do have sex it feels more special.

If she is just curious about rough sex, as some girls are and likes to give up control for a while then I would suggest giving it a try. A lot of people who like to be dominated feel some relief from not having to think for a while. First set up a safe word. This is a word that either one of you can use when you are uncomfortable, in pain, or for any other reason where you need things to stop immediately. Respect the word and don't be afraid to use it. A good one to use is "Red" as it is short and easy to remember. If the person can't talk at that moment I suggest grunting three times as the signal. Next set up a scenario of whats going to happen. You don't need to ad lib as you go along. Ask her what sounds fun and plan what both of you will enjoy. You can do this days beforehand and the anticipation is half the fun. I won't give you suggestions of what to do here, just use your imaginations.

I hope some of this has helped. If you have any questions feel free to ask.
good luck.

[ImCoolBeans]

This isn't exactly sex-ed :locked: