View Full Version : My 'Best Friend' Never Talks To Me Anymore
RedViper
June 27th, 2012, 11:17 AM
Me and my best friend used to talk non stop. We'd text all day 'til one of us fell asleep and as soon as we woke up we'd be texting again. She is the only person that i have fully trusted in a long time, i can tell her anything. there were times where we liked each other on and off and not always at the same time but it never went anywhere, i think we were both too scared to risk our friendship. then she ended up getting a boyfriend which was fine, we still talked all the time. Then out of no where she just stopped replying. I asked her why and she told me she hadn't received any message and then after that i'd get no replies. After a while her boyfriend broke up with her and i text her to see how she was going. she was pretty messed up. We started talking again and started to get close again. then it seemed as soon as she felt better she stopped replying again. We have a class together and we sit next to each other and she will go for the entire lesson without saying a word to me unless i say something to her but she will try to avoid conversation. I ended up asking her why she wasn't replying again and she got really angry and said that she had shit going on and hadn't felt like it. i told her that i was there for her to work through her shit with and if she really didn't wanna talk all she had to do was tell me. so i have been giving her some space and i sent a text to her, no reply i waited about a month and sent another, no reply. I went through a time where i was really depressed and she was the only thing holding me together. There are still times when i need her alot but she's never there for me. if she doesn't want to talk to me any more don't i at least deserve an explanation?
Any advice?
I'll read anything that's posted tomorrow, I'm going to bed now, Thanks in advance for any advice.
Stronger
June 27th, 2012, 12:03 PM
She must have something going on in her life, but I think she should give you some sort of explanation, or deep down, she doesn't think of you as a best friend, like you think. Maybe you shoul try to find some other friends, that you know will treat you right, as hard as it maybe, she seems to want nothing to do with you, but I could be wrong, I don't know her, or what's going on, in her life, but there must be something, to get to the point of her treating you like crap.
Voodoo
June 27th, 2012, 12:49 PM
Your best bet is to start to look for a new friend.. There can be a lot of things that factor into this. She could just want some space and be left alone for a while, or like the poster said before I, she may want nothing to do with you. Friendships are very odd at points, they can turn into a love-hate relationship. Just give it more time, but look for a new best friend in the mean-while. I say give it about 3 - 4 months before you text her again, then maybe she will reply...
Also, she doesn't need to give you a reason why she is ignoring you. It's her own thing. Just hang in there, only time can tell.
Thunderstorm
June 27th, 2012, 05:08 PM
She was kind of just using you as someone to help her. After her first BF, she started replying again because she was alone, probably felt unwanted and needed someoen to talk to. Her first BF probably didn't want her talking to another teenage boy anyways. she isn't replyign to you probably because you texted her so much during her relationship. i think she might think you're the cause of her breka-up, even know you really aren't You should get someone to moderatre between the two of you and kind of be a friendship psychologist, something along those lines. Good Luck man.
RedViper
June 28th, 2012, 04:34 AM
She's told me herself that i'm her best friend. I know what caused the break up between her and her ex, it wasn't me. It's not that simple to find a new friend, i have other friends but none that i trust as much as her. I have given her plenty of space.
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