About that "spectrum" of sexuality

[vitorioso]

Okay guys, so this is just a small rant on how I think sexuality is labeled in our society, likewise to how it is labeled here. I mean, really, in most places you are either straight (sexually attracted to opposite sex), gay (sexually attracted to same sex), bisexual (both sexes), and basically that is all the choices you get. But here on VirtualTeen and to ourselves I am sure most of us do not think that way, more instead to the idea of the "spectrum" of sexuality. It can be maybe you are a guy and you are emotionally attracted to girls (willing to cuddle, spend time with each other), while with guys you may be physically attracted but not neccessarily sexually attracted (not wanting to engage in intercourse). Maybe even emotionally attracted. Or you can be a girl and be emotionally and physically attracted to one girl but not sexually attracted to neither sex! This is how most of the world (at least in our VirtualTeen community) sees it but why not in society. Why can't we pass the strict sexual barriers set up and see that there is much more to attraction than just being gay or straight?

Ehh, just my thoughts of the day :-)

[Gandalf]

I know it was a rant but I wanted to say I agree. My only thought really is that it isn't an issue that affects each individual on a personal level, so they don't stop to give it a second thought. Just a similar topic, society feels the need to have relationships clear cut, which limits the possibilities of sexual identities people feel they can express because it's not the norm. In this world society feels scared of the unknown.

[vitorioso]

I know it was a rant but I wanted to say I agree. My only thought really is that it isn't an issue that affects each individual on a personal level, so they don't stop to give it a second thought. Just a similar topic, society feels the need to have relationships clear cut, which limits the possibilities of sexual identities people feel they can express because it's not the norm. In this world society feels scared of the unknown.

I agree with you, but the thing is sexuality (at least how I view it) that by labeling ourselves with already-set categories we can limit how we actually view same or opposite gender. What if (using my previous example) there is a guy who is sexually, physically, and emotionally attracted to a girl but physically and maybe emotionally attracted to a guy? If they were to "come out" of the closet the only term they could probably use is bisexual, but it would be a misnomer.

[Gandalf]

but it would be a misnomer.

Sorry, what does that mean (misnomer)? And yes I understand what your saying sometimes I feel like "bisexual" doesn't fit me. If I had there was a word for it it would bivarisexual*
I mean every different person has a different sexuality if you think about it. (An sexuality individual to that person.)

*Varying sexual/emotional attraction to both sexes.
I made that up as an example.

[vitorioso]

Sorry, what does that mean (misnomer)? And yes I understand what your saying sometimes I feel like "bisexual" doesn't fit me. If I had there was a word for it it would bivarisexual*
I mean every different person has a different sexuality if you think about it. (An sexuality individual to that person.)

*Varying sexual/emotional attraction to both sexes.
I made that up as an example.

I think it would be a misnomer because the concept of bisexuality relating to them is an incorrect term to use. They're, like you said, not exactly bisexual but that would be the closet term that most people know it explain it (even though it is not correct in their situation).

[dajakesta10]

I completely agree! I am fully emotionally and physically attracted to a guy, not necessarily sexually, but if it came to it I wouldn't mind ;) but at the same time I am physically attracted to a lot of women (Milla Jovovich is f'ing hot, no matter how gay you think you are xD) But because of this irregularity I am forced into the category of "bisexual", when in fact if anything I am more gay than bi. It definitely is a plot hole, I must say.

It is interesting, though.

[vitorioso]

I agree. Basically your situation is exactly what I was trying to explain :D. And yes, even if you're gay she is pretty hot. :D

[whiteyrhys]

Hay Nathan,

I loved your rant! I completely agree with you.

Those who are not in the situation can’t begin to understand.

I think those who don’t understand should take the time to understand.

[super storm]

i agree im mostly str8 but stil like guys

[Mortal Coil]

I like your rant, and agree with the spectrum thing completely, but the fact of the matter is that we need words to describe these places (or ranges) on the spectrum, which means labels. And those labels are going to be either gay/straight/bi, or something else, but we're still going to have them.
They're just a necessary evil, I suppose.

[XLAM]

Even when we try to be abstract abt labeling like with systems such as the Kinsey scale, we dnt take into acct the difference between romantic attraction and sexual attraction.

[DerBear]

Please don't bump old threads :locked: