Friends Leaving

[dontfiguremeout]

Hey, so I probably had the worst year in high school, because my best friend left the second week at the school, and this one guy spread so many bad rumors about me, when all I was trying to do was make friends, and EVERYONE hated me. And because of that I had no friends at school, towards the end of the year I was eating alone at lunch. But then I finally got a best friend at school at the last month, and now he has to move!!! I am so sad, because I haven't had a best friend in high school, and right when I get one, he has to leave. What gets me is that everyone I talked to they said, well all you really need is one friend, I got NONE! People I hang out were the rudest people ever, so I stopped hanging out with them, plus the fact I have rumors about me and I'm a REALLY good guy. And so I'm a sophomore next year with all new classes because of the guy, and I'm kinda nervous because I feel like if I make a best friend they would leave, or I don't find a best friend. Has anyone been in a situation like this? And what's the best thing I should do? Ohh and also I'm SHY when it comes to new people, and I need my best friend with me when it comes to meeting new people, and now I don't, so I really have to start high school over again, which is bittersweet.

[jessiecox1]

I'm sorry to hear about your situation. I'm not sure when your friend is supposed to move, but since you said that you're kind of shy...maybe he could introduce you to some of his other friends before he moves so you could hang out with them and get to know them better. He probably knows what you've been through (as far as that person spreading rumors about you) and can suggest some good people for you to get to know, and introduce them to you.

After he moves, you can still keep in touch with him on facebook or texting or stuff like that. I've had some friends move away too, but I meet new people that are in my classes that I can talk to and hang out with. There are other nice people out there, you sometimes have to look a little bit to find them.

[dontfiguremeout]

Ohh he moves this week. But we are going to do bible study, but when he said it, it was a super last minute, like last week of school! And it came at me so fast that I got so overwhelmed and got SUPER depressed.

[Clawhammer]

Get along on your own for now. You don't force yourself to find friends. Sure, you can meet new people, but don't go making yourself look desperate, or even worse, actually BE desperate. The things that you can do alone are the things that best reveal who you are, and show your true character, allowing you to build on your strengths, and practice on your weaknesses. Take some time to get to know yourself when it's offered to you. Just take it easy. If you meet someone who's actually a good friend, then great, but if those people aren't around, be careful you don't wind up with the wrong people. It can take a lot to realize when you are. Best of luck to you, just pick up a book and spend some time behind your own eyes for a while. Took me ages to figure it out, but I've come a long ways by being mostly on my own.