Meeting people online/ parents don't know!

[Thunderstorm]

Ok, here's what happened. i met friends my age online and on Instagram and stuff like that. i'm sure my parents don't care about that. But when i spent time at my previous online community before VT..... which was anyone 13+... I met adult friends. and sometimes i email them. And my parents don't know. Recently my mom asked "Who's that guy that comments on your blog a lot?" And i said " I don't know." But it was one of my friends from my Ask commuity profile account. what do I do? If I tell them, I think they'll be very angry and think I'm being stalked. hellpp! :whoops::confused::(

Oh and I couldn't find the exact forum for this. Hop this is the right one!

[Nellerin]

Don't bother telling them unless things get weird with someone you have become "friends" with. If conversations and comments stay normal and aren't creepy then you should be fine without telling them. But in order to stay safe without your parents knowing, you should simply not get to close (don't add on Facebook or anything) to people you meet on the Internet.

[Thunderstorm]

Don't bother telling them unless things get weird with someone you have become "friends" with. If conversations and comments stay normal and aren't creepy then you should be fine without telling them. But in order to stay safe without your parents knowing, you should simply not get to close (don't add on Facebook or anything) to people you meet on the Internet.

I don't even have Facebook luckily.

[Breakeven]

i think its normal , dont tell them unless hes doing something wrong and plus u can always like delete n stuff like that or u can say oh its just one of my friends online

[Nellerin]

I don't even have Facebook luckily.

Ya from what it sounds like, you are not doing anything bad and revealing too much information about yourself so you should be fine without letting your parents know and getting in trouble.

[Thunderstorm]

i think its normal , dont tell them unless hes doing something wrong and plus u can always like delete n stuff like that or u can say oh its just one of my friends online

Thanks viv. I've been fine so far, but you kn wo parents, they get so curious when you become a teen. They always think you're on to something.

[dontfiguremeout]

But then you need to be smart about this. And especially when giving out your info to "kids" online, because they can be some creepy adult trying to find info about you, but posting pics about some random girl. And if they ask to hang out, then don't go hang out. So just be careful, but still you can have fun on the website.

[Thunderstorm]

But then you need to be smart about this. And especially when giving out your info to "kids" online, because they can be some creepy adult trying to find info about you, but posting pics about some random girl. And if they ask to hang out, then don't go hang out. So just be careful, but still you can have fun on the website.

Oh no, he's on the other side of the country and never tried to lure me. he's retired Vietnam vet. he's kinda like a pen pal.

Ya from what it sounds like, you are not doing anything bad and revealing too much information about yourself so you should be fine without letting your parents know and getting in trouble.

Update: He emailed me back after I said not to comment on my blog but we can still email and he said Bye an doesn't want to talk anymore. I mean, i'm fine with that, but i feel bad because he's been through so much. I just don't know.

[dontfiguremeout]

Okay, just make sure, because also they can hack into your computer to find out info, even if they live FAR away. Like I have this poetry website that I go to, and I talk to older people too, but also make sure they don't act differently to me at any given moment. (even if the lady lives in Australia)

[Thunderstorm]

Okay, just make sure, because also they can hack into your computer to find out info, even if they live FAR away. Like I have this poetry website that I go to, and I talk to older people too, but also make sure they don't act differently to me at any given moment. (even if the lady lives in Australia)

Yeah I got a good security scan system. And I use my ipod so I'm always mobile. They can't really track me.

[SmileyFace13]

u shouldn't say anything to your parents...unless this person that keeps writing on your blog is writing weird thing that make you feel uncomfortable.:what:

[dontfiguremeout]

But know where you are 24/7. haha. Nah, you seem to have everything under control! And maybe say something brief to your parents, like I did with my mom about the poetry website, and told her it's completely safe, for the most part. haha

[sunshine_gurl]

Hey!
Kind of a sticky situation, huh? Your a good kid that has a lot of great ideas and advice.
Whats your gut feeling? There are basically two options in this case, at least in my view.

1. You could just stick with your story, and have that feeling that your lying to your parents. Which, in the long run you kind of are. They could find out at some point, probably very easily, and be upset with you. Not just because you have met adult friends, but also because you weren't 100% honest with them.

2. You could come clean. Tell them that you've met people that are older than you and you talk to them quite a bit, and not just on forum sites. You email them and have become good friends with them. Then you could show your parents the conversations that you have within your emails and on the other site. With you standing there with all your 'secrets' per say on display, I don't think there is really a possible way for them to be truly upset with you. And I'm positive that the adult friends that you have met would email with your mom if it would make her feel more safe about the subject.

Me, personally, would do the first thing. Not because I think its best, but because I'm a people pleaser and I hate for my parents to be disappointed in me. My parents dont even know I have a blog, get on that other website, or on here. No less emailing. I've started to kind of feel guilty about them not knowing, which is why I haven't been on those websites as much.

Do what your gut tells you. I don't think that anything will go through with no bumps on the way. But I know that your parents love you and will probably be open for this discussion

[cierasuzzanne]

Well... it would be worst if they found out if something really bad happened online... like someone actually stocking you but if they don't find out that'll mean that you are kinda hinding something but if they don't know about any of it then cool off before they find out...have fun while it lasts

[Thunderstorm]

Hey!
Kind of a sticky situation, huh? Your a good kid that has a lot of great ideas and advice.
Whats your gut feeling? There are basically two options in this case, at least in my view.

1. You could just stick with your story, and have that feeling that your lying to your parents. Which, in the long run you kind of are. They could find out at some point, probably very easily, and be upset with you. Not just because you have met adult friends, but also because you weren't 100% honest with them.

2. You could come clean. Tell them that you've met people that are older than you and you talk to them quite a bit, and not just on forum sites. You email them and have become good friends with them. Then you could show your parents the conversations that you have within your emails and on the other site. With you standing there with all your 'secrets' per say on display, I don't think there is really a possible way for them to be truly upset with you. And I'm positive that the adult friends that you have met would email with your mom if it would make her feel more safe about the subject.

Me, personally, would do the first thing. Not because I think its best, but because I'm a people pleaser and I hate for my parents to be disappointed in me. My parents dont even know I have a blog, get on that other website, or on here. No less emailing. I've started to kind of feel guilty about them not knowing, which is why I haven't been on those websites as much.

Do what your gut tells you. I don't think that anything will go through with no bumps on the way. But I know that your parents love you and will probably be open for this discussion

Thanks Sunshiney (This is Bob we're talking about). Yeah, i'd go with the first one too. I haven't been on my blog that much, but I want to get on more. Guess what? My parents found out about my blog. and they like it! they want me to continue writing. They just don't like whoever that guy is (Bob) commenting on all my posts. My parents read all my posts. An they even told the rest of ym family. My Aunt, Uncle, cousins. and theyve been reading my blog for months and I just found out this weekend. So they kept secrets from me! and I'm probably deleting my Ask today. But I'm going to ask one final question. And Bob stopped emailing me! he thins just cause I said he can't comment on my blog anymore, that I don't want to email him. Althouh, it was kind of like we were just pen-pals and most pen pals fade away everntually. so it was expected. if i delet Ask, it's like i just deleted all that from history.

[Desuetude]

Update: He emailed me back after I said not to comment on my blog but we can still email and he said Bye an doesn't want to talk anymore. I mean, i'm fine with that, but i feel bad because he's been through so much. I just don't know.
Wow, that was immature, and he's supposed to be the adult? You don't need people that are going to ditch you as soon as something doesn't go their way. You reacted in the best way possible, asking him nicely so you shouldn't feel bad about it, you did what you had to do and he rejected that decision. He's not worth worrying about.

[Thunderstorm]

Wow, that was immature, and he's supposed to be the adult? You don't need people that are going to ditch you as soon as something doesn't go their way. You reacted in the best way possible, asking him nicely so you shouldn't feel bad about it, you did what you had to do and he rejected that decision. He's not worth worrying about.

And he's always acted this way. very sensitive. If he thin someones going to turn on hi, he runs away from them. Thsi si because he was in the Vietnam war and he blames it all on that and his Meneires disease.

[Ambrosia]

And he's always acted this way. very sensitive. If he thin someones going to turn on hi, he runs away from them. Thsi si because he was in the Vietnam war and he blames it all on that and his Meneires disease.

That or he got scared you asked him to stop commenting because you're going to claim he's being wrong towards you.

Don't make friends with people way past your age by decades online. It's unhealthy.

[sunshine_gurl]

Thanks Sunshiney (This is Bob we're talking about). Yeah, i'd go with the first one too. I haven't been on my blog that much, but I want to get on more. Guess what? My parents found out about my blog. and they like it! they want me to continue writing. They just don't like whoever that guy is (Bob) commenting on all my posts. My parents read all my posts. An they even told the rest of ym family. My Aunt, Uncle, cousins. and theyve been reading my blog for months and I just found out this weekend. So they kept secrets from me! and I'm probably deleting my Ask today. But I'm going to ask one final question. And Bob stopped emailing me! he thins just cause I said he can't comment on my blog anymore, that I don't want to email him. Althouh, it was kind of like we were just pen-pals and most pen pals fade away everntually. so it was expected. if i delet Ask, it's like i just deleted all that from history.
Understandable about deleting the account. And I figured you meant bob, but wasn't positive. I email him quite a bit, do you want me to aske him what's up? I can explain to him, he may have misinterpreted. He's great and all, but sometimes he blows things out of proportion. Although I don't want to email him about that without your permission first. That's really cool that your family has been reading your blog! I wish I could have enough courage to tell my parents about mine :P By the way, I love the question that you asked. I will have to steal that when I leave Ask!

[Thunderstorm]

Understandable about deleting the account. And I figured you meant bob, but wasn't positive. I email him quite a bit, do you want me to aske him what's up? I can explain to him, he may have misinterpreted. He's great and all, but sometimes he blows things out of proportion. Although I don't want to email him about that without your permission first. That's really cool that your family has been reading your blog! I wish I could have enough courage to tell my parents about mine :P By the way, I love the question that you asked. I will have to steal that when I leave Ask!

Lea, you can ask him what's going on. i mean, it's only loss for him. One less secret i have to keep from my parents. And yes when you leave ask you can use that! i'll coem back on just to answer it! Just saying, everything comes to an end eventually. That includes Ask. And BTW I have another account, I've had it for a whle, I'm just too lazy too delete it. It's called TheFaKeing.

And the pefect thing is, the last question I answered was "Why the sky is blue?" Go figure! How perfect is that!

[sunshine_gurl]

Jake, Robert said that he just didn't want to get you in trouble with your parents, thats why he stopped emailing you. He said that if you want to continue, then thats fine.

He deleted his Ask account sometime between yesterday and today, He had said he was going to leave on July 3rd :/ Didn't even say bye to anyone :(

The other day I was being stupid and decided to compose and email to him while my parents were in the room and I was on my ipod. Not sure if my mom saw anything, but she took it away from me to 'charge it'. So I probably won't be on any sites as much, kind of keeping it on the down low for now.

I hope all is well with you, and if you do start emailing with Bob again then would you please tell him that I'm going to kind of isolate myself from much social interaction for now.

I just don't want him to think its his fault is all :/

Hope all is well with you!

[Thunderstorm]

Jake, Robert said that he just didn't want to get you in trouble with your parents, thats why he stopped emailing you. He said that if you want to continue, then thats fine.

He deleted his Ask account sometime between yesterday and today, He had said he was going to leave on July 3rd :/ Didn't even say bye to anyone :(

The other day I was being stupid and decided to compose and email to him while my parents were in the room and I was on my ipod. Not sure if my mom saw anything, but she took it away from me to 'charge it'. So I probably won't be on any sites as much, kind of keeping it on the down low for now.

I hope all is well with you, and if you do start emailing with Bob again then would you please tell him that I'm going to kind of isolate myself from much social interaction for now.

I just don't want him to think its his fault is all :/

Hope all is well with you!

I do not email Bob, but I told Sam to tell him. He has been calling me a dirty liar and a spoiled brat because Sam showed me what he emailed her. Sam may even stop emailing him, but she'll tell him first.

[sunshine_gurl]

I do not email Bob, but I told Sam to tell him. He has been calling me a dirty liar and a spoiled brat because Sam showed me what he emailed her. Sam may even stop emailing him, but she'll tell him first.

Sorry, Im very unfamiliar with real names, only usernames. Who's Sam ? :)
I don't see him saying that, so odd. I mean, I'm not thinking your lying or anything! No! Its just that Bob has been so supportive of me the past few months. I've been having a lot of personal issues and he's been there for me. He has seemed off for a while though, I've been kind of worried about him :/
Why has he been acting that way towards you? He told me everything was perfect between you two! And even though I have been talking to him longer than you, I would believe anything you say over him. He's been a little shady.

Wow, I can't believe we are talking about Bob, things have really seemed to turn around lately :(

[Thunderstorm]

Sorry, Im very unfamiliar with real names, only usernames. Who's Sam ? :)
I don't see him saying that, so odd. I mean, I'm not thinking your lying or anything! No! Its just that Bob has been so supportive of me the past few months. I've been having a lot of personal issues and he's been there for me. He has seemed off for a while though, I've been kind of worried about him :/
Why has he been acting that way towards you? He told me everything was perfect between you two! And even though I have been talking to him longer than you, I would believe anything you say over him. He's been a little shady.

Wow, I can't believe we are talking about Bob, things have really seemed to turn around lately :(

Lol sam used to be TheBigCheese, recently she was the simply19 girl who deleted her account too. Sorry lol :P

When have you been emailing Bob since? i've been emailing him since at least January. Bob has that disease, he's getting lder, Ask put stress on him. I was very good friends with Bob, but he always thought i was hiding something, which I wasn't. He just doesn't want anybody to turn on him because he's been turned on too many times on his life. I'm not surprised with his behavior, trust me, he's done this before. He talked about other people like that to me.

And yeah I know, but when you have kids dealing with adults, something is always turned around.

[anyone50]

I don't Think I would tell your parents unless you want to be grounded from your computer But you need to be really careful about what info you give out especialy to people you have never met I Made the mistake letting a guy talk me into showing my boobs to him when I was 13 and the next thing i knew the pictures where all over my school. I ended up having to change schools and it was a very hard lesson to learn

[sunshine_gurl]

Lol sam used to be TheBigCheese, recently she was the simply19 girl who deleted her account too. Sorry lol :P

When have you been emailing Bob since? i've been emailing him since at least January. Bob has that disease, he's getting lder, Ask put stress on him. I was very good friends with Bob, but he always thought i was hiding something, which I wasn't. He just doesn't want anybody to turn on him because he's been turned on too many times on his life. I'm not surprised with his behavior, trust me, he's done this before. He talked about other people like that to me.

And yeah I know, but when you have kids dealing with adults, something is always turned around.

Oh! I'm good friends with her :)

Fairly recently, Probably only about a month or so. I know that Ask has been putting a ton of stress on him, so I hope that he starts feeling better after deleting it. I think he just tries to keep everyone either really close to him or really far, not much of an in between. I can see that with him.

Did you see that Mikale and Kuuipo and Candy were talking about him?Saying that he threw them under the bus to Nitemare ? That really set me off, because I was reading right along with Bob whenever he was talking to Nitemare, he mentioned their names once, after she did, and only said that he hardly talks to them.

I used to want to be good friends with Mikale and Kuuipo, then I kind of discovered they were 'the group' to be involved in, whatever, I dont need them at all anyway.

I can't seem to delete my account though, Even though all my friends are leaving. Now that you and Bob are gone, the only other friend I have on there is pretty much NAFTA. I see others around, but only exchange a hi now and then.

When did you decide was the time to go through with it and delete your account? Was it difficult at all? Have you regretted it at all?

Just curious, sorry if I'm too nosy :P

[Thunderstorm]

Oh! I'm good friends with her :)

Fairly recently, Probably only about a month or so. I know that Ask has been putting a ton of stress on him, so I hope that he starts feeling better after deleting it. I think he just tries to keep everyone either really close to him or really far, not much of an in between. I can see that with him.

Did you see that Mikale and Kuuipo and Candy were talking about him?Saying that he threw them under the bus to Nitemare ? That really set me off, because I was reading right along with Bob whenever he was talking to Nitemare, he mentioned their names once, after she did, and only said that he hardly talks to them.

I used to want to be good friends with Mikale and Kuuipo, then I kind of discovered they were 'the group' to be involved in, whatever, I dont need them at all anyway.

I can't seem to delete my account though, Even though all my friends are leaving. Now that you and Bob are gone, the only other friend I have on there is pretty much NAFTA. I see others around, but only exchange a hi now and then.

When did you decide was the time to go through with it and delete your account? Was it difficult at all? Have you regretted it at all?

Just curious, sorry if I'm too nosy :P

I beleive Mikale and Kuuipo. they are good parents. You should have seen what Bob wrote to sam about me and all her other friends (OrlandoLover). Even Sam got made at Bob. He's at that age....

I decided I should delete my account months ago, but I just never could. It got to the point where Ask was old and changed, and I didn't need creepers (Like Nitemare). It was actually not difficult. took me a second to press the button but i did, and the stress automatically went away. I feel at zen.

[sunshine_gurl]

I beleive Mikale and Kuuipo. they are good parents. You should have seen what Bob wrote to sam about me and all her other friends (OrlandoLover). Even Sam got made at Bob. He's at that age....

I decided I should delete my account months ago, but I just never could. It got to the point where Ask was old and changed, and I didn't need creepers (Like Nitemare). It was actually not difficult. took me a second to press the button but i did, and the stress automatically went away. I feel at zen.

He's started to show his true colors I suppose.

Good to know, I'm probably going to get rid of mine very soon. I just can't find the courage yet, but I'll get there :)

[patrickh]

Don't tell them, they might ban you from using the computer.