First Sleepover (ish)

[Wheatley]

Hey,

I know this might sound odd to some of you, I'm 16 and still havent had a sleepover yet. But we have one planned for next friday and I am really excited. My friend is sleeping over mine. I dont really know the format of sleepovers and dont know what to expect.

What makes things different is that I fancy him (and he has caught onto that fat even though I deny it from him). So my question to you lot is, what normally happens at your sleepovers?

[Nellerin]

Hmm well quite a bit of sleeping occurs and breathing haha.

But to be serious, it depends on if you think he is down to do anything or not. If you think he is then just start J/o and see what he says. If you think he is just wanting to hangout then watch a movie and go to sleep lol.

[Neverender]

Video games all night is a general format. Depending on age, Social fluidity and type of personality; drugs, alcohol and sneaking out to parties is what I like to do personally.

And for the love of god, if you get horny don't make advances towards him unless he reciprocates the feelings back.

[Ajay34]

My sleep over is full of sexual activity, we usually surfing the internet, watching porn, asking about sex each other, and sleep, at the morning we usually marturbate together

[Wheatley]

^Well I like your sleepovers then lol, I hope ours turns out like that haha. He acts really gay sometimes but he always says he puts it on because its funny. Either way, it makes me think hes open to gay/friendly activities. And no, I would never force anything upon him, ever.

[Ajay34]

Good Luck

[Ajay34]

You just need to start from a simple things like, saying uhh my penis itchy, or anything..

[Neverender]

If you're in the closet and you say or try to do something to your friend and he takes it the wrong way, say goodbye to your closet.

[Dark Blue]

Video games, movies, lots of talking, eating, staying up late xD. I've never had sensual activities at any sleep over....but one is coming up and I think it may be time to change that.

So yeah dont advance him if he doesn't want it, just hang out and ask him about it. I have a friend who does the EXACT same thing. I dont like him though, he just acts very gay.

[Wheatley]

oh no lol. I am extremely careful with what I do around him (anyone). I'm his slave and hes my master so...It was a small joke that has now developed into how we refer to eachother. He knows Id do anything for him (he just has the wrong reason why). He knows I'm gay, hence he wont dry hump me at school but he will his straight friends >.<

[Diverperry]

video games, movies, junk food, basketball, late night runs to cook out (best milkshakes ever), and jacking off depending on the person

[LatinaVivit]

Get some scary movies! I recommend Insidious.

[NotASpyingRent]

Hey,

I know this might sound odd to some of you, (Trust me, I've seen odd. This isn't.) I'm 16 and still havent had a sleepover yet. (So? I haven't gotten a signed autograph from John Travolta yet. I'm not complaining...wait, I am.) But we have one planned for next (F)riday and I am really excited. My friend is sleeping over mine. I dont really know the format of sleepovers and dont know what to expect. (There's a format? I guess I didn't get the memo!)

What makes things different is that I fancy him (and he has caught onto that fat (He's caught onto the fat? Ew.) even though I deny it from him). So my question to you lot (You lot?) is, what normally happens at your sleepovers?

What normally happens at my sleepovers is sleeping. What did you think would happen? :D

[Cicero]

Video games, eat, stay up all night, swim, watch tv. The good part is, is that you don't have to entertain him so much, as you might having him over for just a few hours. Play it chill and go with the flow lol

But don't, I repeat do not, try anything sexual. Especially if it's your first sleep over. Wait for you 7-10 sleep over and make sure he gives signs too.

Usually I'll just sleep on the couch or guest room. Very rarely have me and a friend slept in the same bed, I disliked it so much. If your parents are away, maybe play a game with alcohol and shots. Maybe watch a football game, and every time a team that you want to pick, scores, drink a shot of alcohol (I wouldn't exceed 5 shots though). Or try like, shot checkers if you have enough. Beer pong is always an option lol

Oh and I agree wth the other guy, scary movies are good! Insidious, for me, was so freaking scary, but I scare easily soooo

[Rodeo]

Startingf with my first to present we usually play games, watch movies, talk, compare, jack off (together or each other depending on the person), sleep act like nothing ever happened. Oh yeah we usually eat alot too. Good luck with yours!!

[Jay_Team_Swagg]

Video games all night, tv, sports, breaking rules, junk food, depending on ppl we could j/o idc really, and a bonfire

[CharmOfTheSOuth]

Lol I would bring up porn

[Mirage]

Hang on, I'd really like to go in depth with this one. There isn't really ever a set format, just go with the flow. If you are into the sexual aspect of the sleepover just start the discussion by queuing up some porn. That will usually get some discussion started. If you're not in to that kind of thing, just have a blast playing video games. At my sleepovers staying up as long as we can is a common theme. Good luck with your sleepover and many thanks for the fun topic! Make sure you keep us updated once the sleepover finishes :D

[Polo2847]

How do you guys even mention a sleep over to your friends at this age? I find it a bit odd to say "Hey guys wanna have a sleep over?"

[AndCuriousGuy16]

Movies, Video Games, Girls, maybe J/O depending on the friend, Girls, maybe sneaking out, and eating Tons of FOOD! lol Good luck!

[PirateMast]

I've had a ton of sleepovers with just a guy friend or 2... we usually play games or watch a movie till midnight or so then would watch tv for a hour or 2 depending on how tired we are... and do crazy things locked up in our room :) (both straight)
But don't pounce onto your friend immediately on the first sleepover... just let him do whatever and if he brings sexual stuff up then you can slowly proceed to doing whatever.

[dontfiguremeout]

Well I have had two, and they were with the same guys, but one of them was a senior, and I was a freshman with another freshman, and all we did was watch movies, eat ice cream, and talk. Nothing bad. Couldn't do anything with these guys anyways, plus if I did with future ones, feel like it would ruin the friendship, and be super awkward.

[Bicuriousboy]

Sleep. Watch Movies. Truth or dare. Video Games

[Wheatley]

How do you guys even mention a sleep over to your friends at this age? I find it a bit odd to say "Hey guys wanna have a sleep over?"

Something like "We will have to meet up over exam leave at some point. How about a sleepover" I think was the jist of it

[Wheatley]

Thanks for your replies, how do you handle parents?

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[yayits-s.k]

Hey,

I know this might sound odd to some of you, I'm 16 and still havent had a sleepover yet. But we have one planned for next friday and I am really excited. My friend is sleeping over mine. I dont really know the format of sleepovers and dont know what to expect.

What makes things different is that I fancy him (and he has caught onto that fat even though I deny it from him). So my question to you lot is, what normally happens at your sleepovers?

There is'nt a fixed format for a sleepover bro; it's jsut hanging out with your friend... overnight. Usually mine consist of call of duty, alcohol, sneaking out, no sleeping (of course), movies (a lot of Pulp Fiction) and jacking off & porn. Haha have fun :)

[Wheatley]

Yeah I was just thinking though. Usually you feel more horny at night (?) but if my parents are in the room next to mine (very light sleepers) there wont be much of s chance that anything happens... So how do you avoid parents?

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[Wheatley]

I hope so, thats all I can really say. I cant compare it to other sleepovers as I havent had any. Just have to play it by ear and hope for the best :)

I kinda get the feeling from him sometimes that he is nervous around me in public, and I'm guessing this is because he suspects me of fancying him and knows I'm gay. BUT when we are alone together (say after school when everyone has left but we are still here alone in a room) he acts normal (for him) around me and doesnt seem shy or anxious....?

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[Wheatley]

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[yayits-s.k]

No, I have never really asked him properly in person but when my friends ask around the lunch table, he always replies with an over dramatic no.

Little off topic but I watch Lie to Me and i find it very interesting (sort of the line of work I want to go into to) when they say that someone is lying they sometimes use a scientific name for the method of deception that the target is using. Either way, my memory is crap and I cant remember what they are called but he displays a few of those.

He quite often 'dodges' the answer when my friends ask him, and would often change the subject quickly. Which looks odd to me anyway.

I have tried popping the question before when we are alone, I made it look like something I had seen on the screen reminded me to ask him (not to make it look like I have spent ages pondering over it). But he ignored me and continued with whatever he was doing on the computer at the time (my memory fails to recall what it was), he outright ignored and didn't say a single word pretending not to hear me at all. I waited for a little bit and repeated myself once, but still nothing. So I decided it best not to ask again (don't want to annoy him or put his defenses up)

He is quite a talented person with musical instruments, he sings a lot (is a good singer) and can play the guitar and drums (sometimes plays piano). He would often change the lyrics to songs or just sing about sucking cock or being gay (hence my suspicions), he sings more about gay stuff than he does straight (which will ring alarm bells with anyone no matter how much he says its an act). Which seems a little out of place for someone with the chavish background

I dont mean to be stereotypical at all here (I hate stereotypes but they can be good). He is classed by many of my friends to be a Chav, and he absolutely hates this (he even made himself into an emo for a few days but decided it didnt work as he is always hyper and hardly ever upset(?)). Now because he lives on benefits (family reasons), he socializes with other chavs and dresses like a chav. But he also has the norms and values of a chav, that being he often gets into trouble and his friends dont talk about feelings. Again, I know this is horrible stereotyping but bare with me as the above points are true to him.

But this is my main problem, he isnt used to talking about feelings with other people (esp boys). He finds it awkward talking about such stuff and when I brought the subject of his personal life up, that was when he asked me if I fancied him. That being said, I'm guessing that this is because you only really ever talk about feelings to your family and 'Partner' (in his view NOT friends) thus him coming to the conclusion that I want more than just a friendship. (If any of that makes sense).

I am very interested in behaviour and do try to notice everything that a person does while they talk to me (or others), but because my memory is so bad I fail to recall important signs and (possibly) end up twisting the truth slightly to fill the gaps. Long post I know but I hope someone can give me their interpretation of this :)

Well a lot of guys are more err 'feminine' than others but doesn't really make them gay at all... but your friend sounds more 'gay' than 'feminine' if you know what I mean. So, I guess there's a possibility that he might be gay; the fact that he dodges the subject may suggest that he might be or maybe he doesn't like confrontation in general. Also, a lot of my friends, who are very obviously straight, act gay sometimes just as a joke or for fun.
So, at the end of the day there's only one way to find out right? Confrontation, because no matter how much you analyize your friends behaviour, the fact is that it's all a guess untill you hear it come out of his mouth. :)

[Wheatley]

Yep, I guess you are right. What makes life so much harder now is that we have broken up from school. Results day will be the last day he ever steps inside that school again. Im going to their sixth form but he is going to college, and that severely reduces our contact (he is barely ever online and doesnt really use his phone much) school really was our near only form of contact. Thats why my parents let me have him to stay over, I guess they understand. I really dont wanna blow my chances but I may try to pop the question if I have a reason, other than because I have always wanted to know. All my friends know I like him, guess it shows I have a good set of friends since he still doesnt know himself

[Sean4U]

Abut every activity that happens at a sleep over I've been at has been mentioned. Just take it slow, some video games, movies, surf the net, whatever and see where it leads. He may be as nervous as you, but by now I imagine you've already had it and this is a mute point anyway :D Good luck and most of all HAVE FUN!!!


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Sean | Male | 15

Always open to talking to other guys my age or just plain old questions back and forth. If I'm on send me a message and lets see if we can talk.

[gay life]

If you wanna do something with him then just start talking about sex and both of your sex-lives then ask if hes horny and wants to have a wank etc. then go on from there!

[Wheatley]

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[LiamShelley96]

Gaming, Drinking or taking drugs.... depending on how you are movies anything

[Bradley 97]

Unfortunately all the sleep over I gone to we play video games really late then crash nothing more

[blondebeast]

play video games...computer games...talk girls and sleep :p basic sleep over

[Wheatley]

Yeah, this was pretty much the format. Cant complain though, I really enjoyed it. Nothing sexual happened but I enjoyed every moment of it so I don't really mind. There was a lot of innuendo but it didnt actually lead to anything (I made sure of that), since I get the feeling that he feels awkward around me sometimes I tried to make sure that he felt comfortable round mine and my (hes a confident person but staying around someones houes for the first time must be nerve wrecking. I think he enjoyed it and we hope to do it again sometime, maybe then something more will happen.

[WithoutFear]

my sleep overs usually happen when my friend is like "come over tonight ok?"
then i do
we play video games, but since he is a xbox kid, and im a nintendofanboy, i play 3ds while he plays xbox
but often we watch cartoon network and victorous and any movie with emma stone (we both reeeeeeeeaaaaaaalllllllllllyyyyyyy like her)
or we play the pokemon game, which if you are curious, is when we say all the pokemon of a particuler letter of the alphabet (starting with 'a' of coarse) untill we run/or cant think of anymore. sound boring yes, but our games often span days >.>

but i never do anything sexual with him. i mean, we share a bed and all during the sleepovers, we are comfortable around eachother, but never anything sexual. the most we have ever done is hug (he is pretty affectionate, like a puppy) also he has a girlfriend

we're both 17 aswell. >.> <.< >.>

[Wheatley]

Ah lol I hugged him before he left, but I can tell hes not 100% comfortable with them. I started hugging him almost daily at school for a week or two, then when I missed out a few days he would hug me instead. But since we have left school now and he doesn't hug anyone (that I know of) he has got out of the habit. But this is only the first sleepover and we had it planned for a few weeks. You are lucky to be able to share a bed, the closest we got to that was when he jokingly said that he was scared and was gonna sleep in my room instead of our spare one (he didnt though)

[WakaWaka]

Watch movies

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Lots happens

[habbohop]

Lool, youll stay up for abit and talk, probably watch a film or two, eat allot of sweets, popcorn etc, it will be fine! just go enjoy yourself,

[Scottydog]

Starts with porn..;)

[justinglives]

.if u have em. U might try leaving a pornonmag out to break the ice. Transition to a porn site like "xhamster" and "accidentally " hit the gay link. " like.....dude.....no sh*t? Look at this! !!!" And c his reaction.
Most of my sleepover involved some kind of experimenting even if only jerking off together without touching. ( but most wound up mutual touching and jerking.)
Keep us all posted!!!

[abedwell]

Depends if it's a sleepover with a guy then we just chill on xbox/watch creepy films, eat n chat about shit

It would be a bit weird if you made advances like that; it might be uncomfortable. If one of my mates did something like got naked etc. I'd be a little bit freaked out.. But that's only my opinion

But good luck n play it cool :)

[Tilico18]

We generally do video games and internet memes untill we pass out. I never really do anything close to sexual.

[cpkid09]

just play video games and stuff

[Wheatley]

lol had the second sleepover now. Faaaarrr better than the first. Still havent gotten to experimenting or anything but there was lots of play fighting and physical contact. I feel like he is more comfortable around me now. I might leave the sexual bits until he feels completely comfortable.Thanks for the feedback

[alexkun]

uuff.. where do i start...

well.. we usually start playing playstation for a couple of hours, then we play daring games, talk about sex, watch movies, watch porn, jack eachother off.. and then we go to sleep :D..

[Zarakly]

What happens at my house sleepovers? We watch tv and go to sleep. His house, we play games, we watch tv, we go outside, we talk about stuff, we do fun games, we make some funny videos,play pool, go swimming.
You see my friend is a single child so he has a lot more stuff then I can do ...

[RunnerForLife]

Usually just hanging out but if you want to jerk with him then try to lead up to it and hint at it. Don't just leap into it.

[Wesl3y]

Mine usually start off with movies, messing around on fb and chat sites. Sometimes watching porn and jacking off. Little sleep is involved.

[milestails]

i never have a sleepover so i dont know what they do at the sleepover

[AllSwaggedUp]

Depends, sometimes just movies or night...or, which ive never had happen, might get a little kinky if you know what I mean ;)

[Fable]

Hmm well quite a bit of sleeping occurs and breathing haha.

But to be serious, it depends on if you think he is down to do anything or not. If you think he is then just start J/o and see what he says. If you think he is just wanting to hangout then watch a movie and go to sleep lol.

lol! haha

[ThatGuy69]

Maybe if you keep having sleepovers something might happen