How to deal with a break up?

[ShaneSawyer]

In the past, I have always broken up with my girlfriends. But recently, my girlfriend broke up with me. Pretty much out of nowhere. One week we were perfectly fine and then one day we like, took 5 steps backward and she talked to me like we weren't even dating. After a few weeks of that I asked her if she wanted to be with me, and thats when it ended. I really loved this girl. I still do. I guess that's normal because it just happened but, I don't know what to do. She broke my heart. I still want to be with her, but I respect her decision. I would do anything to have her back. But another part of me says, screw that, because she hurt me. After we broke up, I got really into snapping my wrists with rubber bands, and started thinking about drugs again... I know, there are other girls, I am only 16 all that bull, but she was just so perfect. Now I feel like I have nothing.

[Desuetude]

One of the reasons you might feel the attraction to be so strong is because she broke up with you and not the other way round as it would usually be. Did she give you a reason for why she was acting differently?
Don't let your life fall down a hole. Please don't get back into drugs or go further than an elastic band. Go out with your friends, keep yourself active and your life busy, sitting about at home will make everything worse than it seems.

[ShaneSawyer]

The week leading up to the break up I asked her a lot of questions. The only reason I got out of it was that she felt like we were to different. And when she broke up with me, she said she doesn't want to deal with a relationship, but I feel like both those reasons are bull.

You can make a relationship work if you don't have a lot in common, it just requires effort. And why would she have dated me in the first place if she didn't want to deal with it.

I think that either there I someone else, or I did something horribly wrong. If I did do something wrong, I honestly have no idea what it would be, I tried my best at being a good boyfriend, always trying my best to make her happy. And if there was someone else, that would be devastating.

[ShaneSawyer]

Anyone else have an opinion on this? :/

[dontfiguremeout]

Let me tell you how I view dating. When you date in your teen years, your basically going to do temporary dating, which can last from a month to a long time (if your lucky, but very rarely end up getting married), but in that time your finding out your future soul mate. You will find things you would not want to live forever, which then when you do want to marry make sure you don't have a soul mate with that thing that you don't like, and if you do like something, then you would want to marry someone with what you like. So I say each relationship will be closer to your soul mate, and so when I view when you want to break up with someone, that means they had something that I didn't like. Like when I broke up with girls, I broke up with them because I knew nah, I wouldn't want to live with a girl like this when I'm older. So yeah break ups are hard, but maybe you just wasn't her type of guy. I mean that happens daily, but then you will be thankful for a lot of your high school relationships, because when you marry you know what type of person you would want to marry after past relationships. I wrote a lot, but that's just how I view dating someone.

[CrossingtheCourtyard]

Relationships are rare to last in the days of youth, no?

Acknowledge that what you had was nice, and move on.

The end of this relationship will open doors to one that will be a much better fit at some point in the future.