Please help if u have a minute over

[Hangover]

I'm not sure where i should post this but oh well..

My mom was dating a guy four years ago, they'd been together for six years when he groped me both over and beneath the waist, whispered some naughty things to me and scarred me pretty hard emotionally. I told mum and she promised she would break up with him immediatly, i thought i would never have to see him again.. But no.
Now, four years later, they're still dating and I find signs of him everywhere, like text messages from him on her phone (yea i know, i shouldnt read my mums texts.. but i really cant resist since she lies to me all the time). Sometimes I even see him waiting to pick her up when she's heading for a "spaweekend with her girlfriends". I really hate him. If I could i'd gladly castrate him with a dull knife.. (am I allowed to write that?)

Anyway, i dont know what i'm gonna do, I'm so sick of her lying to me all the time. We rarely talk and when we do it's pretty much rubbish weather-conversations. She doesn't know that I know they're still together and whenever I mention him she freezes and avoids the subject.. Should I leave it be or should i tell her the truth? And if i should tell her the truth, how should i do that? I've never been good at talking.. ://

[Listed MIA]

wow, thats really disturbing. it was good that you were able to tell her, and that she said she would break up with him right away... but how could you keep going out with someone who molested your kid??? that just doesn't make any sense. wouldn't you just want to punch their face in? (or castrate them with a dull knife?) it's really REALLY wrong of her to do that.

i don't know what i'd do if it was me. i mean she'll probably just lie if you tell her you know, or just keep seeing him anyway. btw, its not too late if you wanted to report him to the police, even though it happened 4 years ago.

good luck whatever you decide to do. it sounds like a really horrible situation to be in.

[Salader]

^This guy is controlling the faith in humanity



I agree with Tommy. You should be reporting him to the police.

[dontfiguremeout]

Well then you really need to talk to your mom, and tell her I know he makes you happy, but he doesn't make me feel comfortable. And keep telling her what he did to you, even if she already heard it, because then she will start rethinking about it. But if she is a really good mother, then she knows that in this time period in her life, her kids come first when it comes to safety, and if this guy is starting to harass you, then she needs to brake up with him, because kids safety comes first!

[Hangover]

Thanks everyone ((: i dont think i'll go to the police since it'd most probably just mess everything up between me and mum (our relationship is shaky enough as it is) tho i guess i'll have to tell her i know everything soon enough..
Well, i wouldn't call her a bad mother but she most probably prioritizes him before me.. that's just the kind of person she is :/ O.o

[Roses_Are_Yellow]

I'm sorry you have to go through that :(

I think the only thing you can do is talk to her, but if she doesn't do anything about it, just avoid the guy like a plague. All though I would suggest going to the cops if he ever does this again. I know, you don't want to ruin your relationship with your mother, but what if it goes to far and..you know. (let's hope if never does) Plus you're her flesh and blood. You should matter first, but I know that's not the case sometimes. Believe me, that definitely wasn't the case with my biological mom.

Best wishes!

[Josh16]

You should confront her about it, you need to make sure she at least understands your views and if she still wants to date this guy you could tell her that she is deciding who she loves more, you or him, and that her decision will shape your whole relationship with her. It might make her think that little bit more. What happened to your dad? If it does get too much the best thing to do is probably inform the police about him. You could get a check done on him. You never know, he might hav other criminal convictions and may have been charged for molesting children in the past

[Hangover]

*A lot of text*

My dad lives in another town with his new perfect family.. He knows what happened but we've never talked about it

Once again, thanks all of ya (:

[WakaWaka]

I would tell someone that you can actually trust. Maybe a teacher.

[RemoveMemories]

i also agree with tommy

[EAT ME]

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