It's complicated

[Crushedforlife]

Alright, below is my situation. Problem is, it's fairly complex so while all answers are welcomed, I'd appreciate intelligent answers coming from those who have been in a similar situation; or have a general idea as to why the girl in question's doing what she's doing

So, there's this girl whom I've gotten to know rather closely and, within the past few weeks, most of my friends have been telling me she's interested in me. We have hung out for study sessions, social gatherings and even gone to dinner. Thing is, lately, she's been casually dating an other of her good friends whom she's known for a few years. She's also made out with him on a few occasions. My friends now tell me she likes both of us and wants to casually date both of us before making her mind on who to chose. My question is, is it possible for her to chose me if she's already gotten to the point where she's making out with the other guy? And, even though they're making out, is it possible for them to remain friends without going further (or even if they already have)?

[ImCoolBeans]

Sure it's possible, but I don't know if I'd really like the fact that she's "dating" me while hooking up with another guy. Lets say she chooses you, but still feels some attraction to the other guy, can you trust her to not hook up with him anymore? It's kind of a strange situation, but if you really like her, then try to make her see that and hopefully she'll want to date you.

[botwa]

honestly I don't think that it's a good idea: to date both of you simultaneously and then choose. but that's hint for a girl and you're not that side of the triangle.

but. I don't think you should date her knowing that she dates some other guy at the same time. of course it's up to you to decide but that's my opinion.
to be honest girl doesn't sound great.
if she like you, then why is she making out with another guy? just to make out? not good.

I don't generally believe in liking two people at the same time the way you want to make out with both. it could be just the horny part of the person of course.

my advice would be to wait and see what she's going to do next. or ask her what's up. ans what she thinks about the rumors that she likes you :)

[jnhbgvbhgv21]

It is totally possible! If she chooses you, just trust that she will be true to you and just be his friend.

[Crushedforlife]

I thank you all for your input. In the end though, I've decided to keep hanging out with her and bring up the idea of dating seriously, and see where that goes.

[Thunderstorm]

I thank you all for your input. In the end though, I've decided to keep hanging out with her and bring up the idea of dating seriously, and see where that goes.

There you go. That's good. Try that. Casually dating is a little weird, and if she's already kissing him I think she really likes him, but she could also really like you. first talk to her and tell her that whoever she chooses, you still would want to reamin friends with her, through the end.