6ay? Bi maybe? Girlfriend????fuck im confused.

[InfinantSilence]

so in a couple months will be my one uear anaversary with my girl friend. Wich is fine, but the problem is i think i might be gay, or bi or whatever. I mean i love her with all my heart but im not IN love with her. Im so confused i am emotionally attracted to girls but not phisically. And i am both physically and emotionally attractred to guys. But im not out yet and I feel like i'm lying to her. But i feel so good around her. :( some times i just want to cry over it. *hugh*. this was really just to vent but advice is welcome.

[RCT109]

well ask her how she would feel if you were bi or gay

and hey maybe she can help you threw it

[EvilB]

How old are you? I just ask because the physical element of a relashinship shouldn't matter unless you are having sex really. But if u want to tell her start off by saying that you love her personality and her so much than just tell her your concerns.

[InfinantSilence]

i am 14 and today was her 15th birthday.

[dontfiguremeout]

Well if your physically and emotionally attracted to both sexes, then you are bi, which isn't bad, just you have to accept it.

[botwa]

it really matters only if you have sexual relationships I guess.

[RedViper]

if you are not in love with her then my advice would be to tell her that rather than hide it from her. It wont be easy and it may hurt both of you but surely that's got to be better than hiding it all from her, in the end it will cause less pain than if it goes on. If she makes you feel really good when you're around her then try your best to keep things good between you two without hiding all this stuff. Although i guess if you really don't want to do it and it doesn't feel right for you I'd hold off for a while, you never know, you might fall in love with her. But this is just my opinion. Do what is right for YOU.

[trob3]

In my opinion it's a hard thing to come by.

Because, being only 14, and her being 15... I don't know anything about her.
I could be way off in saying this, but it's just for thought.
Is your guy's relationship strong enough that you could bring this up to her and not have her freak out at you over it? I mean, some girls would be very offended if they find out that the last year, or so, you were with her and knew you were gay or bi, and she may feel like you've lied to her.

But, if not, she may be very understanding because like you said, you are confused, that's completly understandable. I mean, I'm gay, and I've dated girls and stuff, but I've had a hard time, and that's what I was afraid of was being left alone with no body. I think you should just think about your relationship long and hard, and think of the way she reacts to gay people, hopefully she isn't a homophobe. You never know she may be very accepting of it and still want to be friends with you.

I think if you come out and tell her that, she will be thinking that you want to end the relationship. You should tell her maybe, that you are confused and don't know what to think of yourself. She may work it out with you. Hopefully all works out for you :) If you ever need to talk, PM me.

[Ricardo]

Just enjoy her company i mean you are not married to her and you dont have a bf.Maybe you will try a guy and not like it.Just dont worry

[InfinantSilence]

umm to start off no im not having sex with her. And i dont think she is a homophobe. But if i told her it would seriously strain any relationship we would have left. I dont plan on coming out anytime soon because i live in a county of like 7 thousand. Verry small place. My highschool has like 600 people there. The highschool is also the middle school so yeah. If you dont know somebody they know you. And i would have no freinds. And would be hated by most people...so im pretty good being in the closet.

[Ricardo]

I didnt say you were having sex with her.Why would you have to come out anyway?As i said just enjoy being with her.From the sound of it you wont be able to be with a guy in your town so be happy with her.

[InfinantSilence]

ok.... Cool advice.

[Ricardo]

Thanks and dont worry just enjoy yourself and who knows maybe one day you will move out of your town to a big city..imagine the fun u can have ;)

[InfinantSilence]

*hough* yup. Yup.