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Ambrosia
June 22nd, 2012, 03:59 PM
I don't normally make posts but this seemed like a good reason to.

My boyfriend (Whom is much older than me, and very hard headed) recently found out about my self harm. Now, on top of the constant name calling that I endure from him when we are fighting, he tells me I'm psychotic and to go "slit my wrists" along with other things.

This morning, he turned and said to me, "Go put some make-up on that shit or something." I have white, thick, very raised scars on my arm that are a few years old and some purple ones from this year. He told me that now that he knows I self-harm that it's all he ever sees on me anymore and that when we go on vacation in a few weeks he doesn't want his mom to see them. I explained to him that he never noticed them in all the time we've been together until now and that neither has anyone else. He said they embarrassed him and that they should embarrass me too. They make him sick and that there's something very wrong in my head and that I need help. This hurt my feelings, a little bit more than most of the things he says to me anyways, and all I could do was walk away.

I don't really know what to do about this. My scars are always going to be there, and in all honesty I don't ever feel the need to cover them up unless there's fresh cuts or something. Anyone have any opinions on how to handle this situation?

Wooba
June 22nd, 2012, 05:13 PM
Well, if your boyfriend isn't going to allow you to show who you are / what you've been through in public, then is he really a boyfriend?
I can understand the stuff about his parents, but him? I mean he is your boyfriend, meaning he should be there for you whether or not you have some scars on your arms.
Especially when you said that he called you names.. i mean, come on. That's not cool.
Don't let your boyfriend affect you, especially your appearance. You are who you are and if he can't accept it then that sucks for him.

CleoP
June 22nd, 2012, 06:23 PM
I'm no expert in relationships, but it seems to me that if your partner finds out about you self-harming and does anything besides offering you unconditional support, he's not worth worrying about.
I'm not going to tell you to do anything drastic, like break up with him, but definitely think about what he really means to you.
Stay strong. =)

therunaway
June 22nd, 2012, 07:22 PM
Honestly, I would drop him. If he can accept you for what you are or used to be, then he isn't a true boyfriend, let alone a man.

Breakeven
June 22nd, 2012, 07:25 PM
He shouldnt be saying that to u , he should try to help u and make u feel better...