Im stuck and I dont know what to do!

[welcome_to_chaos]

My dear vt'ers. My has it been a long time since coming on here. I only usually come on once in awhile anymore for advice or support. And this is one of those times. You see some stuff has been going down recently. :/ a month ago I started a relationship w this guy. he really liked me and I said what the heck. Lets try it. Well. A couple weeks before I said yes he cornered me in a back stairwell and kissed me.

Doesnt sound that bad right? I mean. I was scared of him after that but I thought that was as far as it was going to go. Wrong. A couple days ago on tuesday he begged me to stay up with him. And at 4:45 exactly he sent me a message telling me he had planned to do more. He told me he had brought ductape, a sock, and a condom in his pocket and was going to rape me that day. Which makes more sense because that night I saved him from killing himself over I dont even know what (well now I do).

my question is what do I do!?!? I like being w this guy! But at the same time, he broke a trust that took him a long time to get. Sigh. Why do I always get the abusive ones to fall obsessivly in love with me?

[Lyra Heartstrings]

He threatened to rape you? Honey, get away from him. He can really hurt you, physically and mentally.

[jessiecox1]

Please get away from him and don't associate with him anymore...you should tell your parents or an adult that you trust what happened. If he threatened to do that to you, he could threaten or actually do that to someone else.

[Lolli]

If he even contemplated it then he isn't safe, you can't trust him. You need to stay clear. Just tell him you don't feel safe and your trust is broken. But tell him you respect him for not doing it and for telling you the truth, you need to play it carefully for your own safety so have a conversation over txt or sumin and don't be heavy because that could turn him to putting you in danger. Make sure he never catches you alone. Keep one eye open when he's near and tell friends family etc

[welcome_to_chaos]

I know.....and just to clarify he didnt just threaten. He had everything he needed to do it. But couldnt bring himself to.

[Lyra Heartstrings]

I know.....and just to clarify he didnt just threaten. He had everything he needed to do it. But couldnt bring himself to.

Get out of there. Now. If he even CONTEMPLATED it, he has the power to do it.

[EvilB]

Umm this docent sound like a very healthy relationship. You are better than this and can be with a nice guy who buys you flowers and tells you that he loves you.... not that he can rape you at any moment. :) #yourbetterthanthis

[Thunderstorm]

If he was really someone that loved you, and you were deeply in love, he wouldn't have done that. That's very unhealthy for you. he was basically playing you to get your trust s he could try to have intercourse with you. And if he forced you to have intercourse with him, it's rape.

[Dark Blue]

This is beyond unhealthy, it is dangerous, scary and hazardous to your health. He has the ability to not only harm you physically but mentally. The fact that he said that and told you shows that he has little to no qualms about contemplating about it again. Tell family members and police, perhaps get a restraining order. Then be sure to always keep an eye open, he seems like the type to be spited by such actions.

[LatinaVivit]

Turn him into the police for trying to rape you or turn him in to a psychiatrist for feeling suicidal. Decisions, decisions. Go with the first one...it may lead to the second one.

[oneDay]

The word "rape" must not carry any weight or bear any significance to you, because it doesn't seem to have occurred to you that someone has wanted to hurt you beyond belief. Please, come to terms with what could have happened that day and use your head, not your heart, to make the choice to reject him completely or expose him for what he is. If you feel he broke your trust, he is not a friend, not even close. So don't even think about associating yourself with him again. This is advice I'd give anyone who has come close to being abused; whether I'm talking to a friend or a stranger, I wouldn't think any different. You may feel "in love" with him but you are painfully deluded if you think you "love" him after he confessed his abhorrent intentions to you. I guess only rape victims can comprehend the unimaginable reality of living as a victim of such an act. You need to open your eyes, look in the mirror and tell yourself that you deserve better. Just look at your photos: there is a lovely young lady named Ray in every single one of them. Now tell me that someone as precious as you cannot do better. Please, do what's best for you. I hope you get the idea by now.

[WakaWaka]

Show the police the messages that he has sent you but first of all, get the hell out of wherever he expects you to be.

[adamchubby]

My dear vt'ers. My has it been a long time since coming on here. I only usually come on once in awhile anymore for advice or support. And this is one of those times. You see some stuff has been going down recently. :/ a month ago I started a relationship w this guy. he really liked me and I said what the heck. Lets try it. Well. A couple weeks before I said yes he cornered me in a back stairwell and kissed me.

Doesnt sound that bad right? I mean. I was scared of him after that but I thought that was as far as it was going to go. Wrong. A couple days ago on tuesday he begged me to stay up with him. And at 4:45 exactly he sent me a message telling me he had planned to do more. He told me he had brought ductape, a sock, and a condom in his pocket and was going to rape me that day. Which makes more sense because that night I saved him from killing himself over I dont even know what (well now I do).

my question is what do I do!?!? I like being w this guy! But at the same time, he broke a trust that took him a long time to get. Sigh. Why do I always get the abusive ones to fall obsessivly in love with me?

You need to call the police!! For your safety and because he needs help

[OrKing]

Please listen to the numerous advice above; nothing good can come out of continuing you're relationship with this guy, the possible consequences of continuing to see this dude are no where near worth going for the almost non-existent chance of any sort of happiness. PLEASE, for the sake of you're mental, and maybe even physical health, stop seeing this guy.

[xXJust Jump ItXx]

He doesnt love you or really care about you if he is threatening to rape you, that is some serious stuff! If he is threatening that on you, damn it talk to the cops! Its a bad relationship if someone threatens that on you! Get the hell as far away from him as you can! No matter how much you may love him, it doesnt matter he wants to hurt you. Rape aint a joke, its pretty damn serious thing.

[imless]

They are abusing simply because you're letting them. I have read so many cases like this and I feel anger to those people who abused someone! Let me say the word again, ANGER!