Sometimes things get... COmpLicaTeD

[VEight]

Hey, everyone I created this account just to ask this specific question.

Recently I was with one of my bestfriends (who's a girl) and she was telling me that her boyfriend (of 8 months) had begun to ignore her. Or wasn't talking to her or something. Anyways we were sitting there at the park completely alone and she told me this. (And I had feelings for her previously) SO I made a move on her and she didn't stop me. We made out for a while. And she dumped her boyfriend for me. We live close to each other so I visited her whenever I could. One day she calls me up saying that she still loves her ex-boyfriend and told me that we could still be together ('cause her ex didn't forgive her for dumping him on a communication mistake). I'd just have to deal with her moving on from him. I agreed. In those days that I saw her we cuddled and made out. We also were a little naughty ( I won't get into details). One day she calls just weeping saying that she missed him. I tried to understand. I wanted to spare her feelings and kind of broke up with her and messaged her ex to try to take her back. (Which he hasn't replied to yet). I saw her again today and tried to act like we were friends again. But I'm dying inside it feels like. I wish I could have her. If her ex doesn't forgive her we might get back together. She told me that she really likes me, but she does LOVE him. So Idunno. So what are your thoughts on this? How do you think I should act? I really do like her a lot...

[Harley Quinn]

It's never good to be caught in the middle of a love triangle, and that's the best way to describe this situation right now. At the end of the day, she's got the ultimate level of control over everything that happens, and it shouldn't be like that. I'm surprised you don't feel somewhat used, I know I would be, but hey each to their own. I think that you need to talk to her, that way you can ask the questions and you'll know what she plans on doing. You're holding onto a string with the whole waiting for her ex to forgive her thing. She loves him, and only likes you so that bond they have must be pretty strong, so you have to be aware that she might forget all about you. However, it could go exactly how you want it to.

I think that you should act honestly, tell her how you feel, what the situation is doing to you etc. Otherwise, you're not only lying to her, but yourself and that's never good.

[FullyAlive]

I don't think you should go back to her. This whole thing has been really unfair on you she's basically just used you even though she loves someone else and has always known she loved someone else. Who knows she might do it again, are you really comfortable being with someone you know is in love with someone else? I just see you ending up hurt you're giving her everything whilst she isn't giving you much at all. I know you like her but I just think you're better off out of it, still be her friend but try and move on romantically.

[SLABBS]

im in pretty much the same situation. but im going out of state for a week. im hoping that by the time i get back everything will have worked its self out.

[dontfiguremeout]

This is a tough one, but all I can say is give her some space. Don't get into it creating a bigger deal. She needs to think, and when girls need to think, they need to think! I have 3 sisters so I know what I'm talking about! When she is ready to talk, then talk to her, otherwise give her some space and let her think.