Everyone is having sex but i cant please give me advice

[greger92]

First off i am 15 and havent really started puberty i am probably around stage 2 . I know alot of people having sex and in highschool it seems like thats what people do when they date. I love having a girlfriend and i love to make out with girls but i dont want to date them long enought whered she would want to have sex. So i didnt date anyone this year becuase i didnt want to get pressured into it and having to show my undeveloped privates. What should i do?????????????????????

[1234]

I'm kinda in the same situation with the age, grade thing but I'm not the most physical appealing guy, so I don't think I'll have too much to worry about...but if you want my opinion, just if you have a relationship, just tell her, that you wanna wait for that, and time will do it's work, and at one point (quoting rob schneider) "YOU CAN DO IT!"

[0=]

By you haven't started do you mean you have no signs whatsoever such as pubic hair? If you truly have not started see a physician. If you mean you're simply developing slowly then wait it out.

[greger92]

well i have a tiny bit of colorless pubic hair around my penis but thats all

[waldor]

Everyone develops and different times. And actually you are wrong, most highschool kids are not having sex and it is very unwise to do so. it can quite literally mess up your entire life if you accidently get a girl pregnant. True condoms help but condoms can break. My suggestion is just to say you arnt ready and they should understand, if they dont then that is there problem. you should never feel pressured into anything you dont want to do.

[Aηdy]

15 is still very young to be having sex in most people's opinions, just wait, and if you get a girlfriend tell her you don't want sex if she asks or mentions it, if she dumps you for it, good, shes obvoiuly just dating you for sex, not becuase of the feelings she has for you. Just wait it out a couple of years, you don't need to have a girlfriend all the time.

[Rawrbaby]

Well it is hard to believe that people thar are having sex at such young ages they are probaly lying but if ya do get a girl that is like that than just say no and if she takes it well than she is a great girl if she leaves ya than that girl dont know what she is losing and it is very smart of ya to not be tempted to do it and it doesnt matter how big ya thang is people develop differnetly and some are early or late or just right bloomers it aint nothin to be ashamed of and dont worry ya know what they say late will be good mate and get the longest in the house and the early will get the shortest in the houst (i think i said that right) hope this helps

[cdp123]

Well, I've had sex with my girlfriend of about 8 or 9 months...I mean, I guess if you want to call it sex. But we agreed to not have vaginal sex...just in case so we stuck with oral and anal. But I guess it's all in what you put out there. Sometimes speaking your mind about sex to your peers can help you. And there is nothing you can do about undeveloped things..hell, I'm undeveleped (not totally for my age, but still, I definately dont have a big dick). But personally, if theres nothing you can do about it, why care? I mean, you can't do anything to speed up puberty, so you might as well be yourself and go with the flow.

Good Luck! :)

[cdp123]

Well, do you have blonde hair...that could be the culprit....

[Aηdy]

well i have a tiny bit of colorless pubic hair around my penis but thats all

Even a tiny bit of pubic hair means you've started puberty. Just wait, theres no rush to have sex or even a girlfriend. Having a girlfriend shouln'd be about sex.

[Serenity]

Having a girlfriend shouln'd be about sex.

Exactly. If you and your girlfriend are just in a relationship for sex, it's not a real relationship. If/when you do get a girlfriend, you need to actually voice the boundaries you want to set- so that nothing is left to imagination or assumption. Just sit her down one day and tell her that sex isn't something that you feel should/can be part of your relationship. If she's a good girlfriend, she'll understand and won't mock you for it. And I know for a fact there are HS girls out there who would agree- myself and all my friends included. All relationships need set boundaries.

[Maverick]

Everyone who dates in highschool it seems these days has sex. I havent started puberty but im a sophmore and i am afraid that if i date the girl will want me to have sex and i coudn't. I really like to have a girlfriend and i like to makeout with girls but the whole sex issue. What should i do??
Not everyone in high school has sex. It's just a stereotype. As long as you date the right person sex won't be something worried about for a long time.

[byee]

maybe because you're not you assume others are? Like the grass being greener? Dating's more than sex, maybe you should remember that, and not deprive yourself of the pleasures of a non sexual relationship while you're getting more comfortable with your body.

[Greyson]

You are fine, everyone develops at different times. As for being pressured into having sex, just tell your girlfriend that you aren't ready to have sex. If your girl can't wait, then find a new one.

Hope that helps out.