More confused than ever...

[Noirtier]

I must admit I am incredibly confused right now. More than I've ever been in my life. I have a girlfriend and I love her. But then I've never really had physical attractions to girls all my life, just guys. I've been emotionally attracted to both all my life. There was a time I thought I was gay, but I'm a Christian and was forced by others and myself to be straight. I have always believe homosexuality to be a sin and that you go to hell for it, as well as having read that in the Bible. And I don't want to go to hell. I definitely believe in Christianity, and heaven and hell. Thats what makes it more confusing... I dated a few girls but never really felt anything until the girlfriend I have now. Then theres this guy. And we kind of like each other. And I have no clue what to do and am so torn between the decision. I've always thought and been taught it's wrong. Then the fact that I have feelings for my girlfriend AND him makes it more confusing... I'm to the point where I'm honestly questioning it all and don't know what to do because I'm so torn. The guy and I are really close and have talked about this. I just have no clue what to do...

[CrossingtheCourtyard]

Have you considered the idea that you might be bisexual? Being attracted to guys and girls?

I'd like to say first and foremost that not all denominations of Christianity look upon homosexuality/bisexuality sinfully. Multiple Christian branches do not believe it is a sin to love someone of the same gender.

You can't force yourself to be straight. You can pretend to be, and you can't really live in denial and be completely satisfied with your life.

You don't need to decide anything right now, just give yourself time.

[Noirtier]

I've considered it and just would like some advice from others I guess. I want to know what others might have to say.

[Tristin.]

When facing a situation like this, you have to remember that the bible as we know it today was compiled in Constantinople thousands of years ago; the world was different. Secondly, if it was a sin to be homosexual, and god is all forgiving and all powerful, surely he would not A) allow homosexuals to exist AND B) not send them to hell if they did?
Think on that and see how you feel

[risener]

Dude don"t worry- homosexuality is not a sin. You believe in god, you go to heaven. Read corinthians 6:9-12! many people skip over it but its important
Be yourself

[stew4rt]

Does it not also say that all men are equal and that you should love your neighbour as if he was your brother.
Basically everyone is to be treated the same and in God's eye's everyone is seen in the same light, no-one is judged because they are different to another person.

[missisabella]

The bible also says women who cheat on their husbands should be stoned to death or something like that. That's a bit out of date now :P

I think to be truly happy you have to accept however you feel. You might need some time to figure it out but once you do, accept it. I personally believe that it's beyond your control who you love.

Also I agree with Tristin: If God didn't want homosexuals to exist he wouldn't have made them, simple as that.

[Thylacine]

The Bible and Christianity are fallacies which a corporation called organised religion is using to control you. It's all bullshit, ignore it. You may be gay or bi, if you like someone then follow your heart. You are not going to hell, it does not exist.

[SamB]

First off the "gay is a sin" thing needs to stop, I am Christian and am gay, and I believe that God made me this way, I prayed so hard about it when I was in your position and all I got from God was that he made me this way and he loves me for who I am and who I love. Also there is nowhere in the bible that specifically states that gays will go to hell. Yes there is a passage, cannot remember where, that says about it being a sin for one man to sleep with another, but that it talking about adultery and how they are out of marriage. Also a lot of the bible was written over 10,000 years ago and there would have been very different views towards sexuality and was written as more of the view of the time.
I would say the best thing to do is pray and just have time by yourself to think about it, it will help, I have felt the exact same as this before and doing that helped. But before you go anywhere you need to get the idea that gay is a sin out of your head because if you believe in god and love him then why would he, who is love, want to send you to hell. I know that the prejudice is greater in america but I personally think that the world is starting to turn in its views on sexuality, and things are going to get better.
None of us on here can tell you what sexuality you are, we can only give you our view on the situation, to find what YOUR sexuality is you need to work it out and think, yes it is hard when you feel like this but it will get better and easier for you. But my view on what could be happening is that you sound to be bi, but it is possible that you are gay and wanting to please the people around you by saying you are bi as then you will still be able to have a wife and kids, but like I said it is for you to work out and discover by yourself.

[Bicuriousboy]

Dude don"t worry- homosexuality is not a sin. You believe in god, you go to heaven. Read corinthians 6:9-12! many people skip over it but its important
Be yourself

That verse says that straightup idolators and homosexuals etc. will not be saved if they dont repent and wash that sin away. Im not saying you are wrong im just saying that if you want to be saved according to that verse you need to wash away that sin.