Mom's Yelling and Shouting

[Montesquieu15]

I was picked up from Starbucks, today. So my mom parks in a disabled parking space, and then yells at me for having parked in a disabled parking space. I don't get her thinking.

Then she yells at me for this bad habit of approaching cars before they stop. It's when the car is moving so fucking slow you open the door and hop in. And our definition of slow is "not even moving".

She yells at me for having her pick me up when she doesn't feel like it. (Her exact words. I don't mind biking the mile to Starbucks. Actually, I now have a reason to...course if I bring this up, it would somehow be directed towards my fault. She yells this during cross country and track season. I accuse her of being unsupportive and my dad reasons that if she was unsupportive, she wouldn't transport me at all. Um, no. She probably feels it as an obligation to do so. And I don't feel supported at all if she's always telling me how inconvenient it is for her. Of course, there's no way for me to reason that, for them to understand. [And then she would tell me I should join extra-curricular activities like dance. What???])

When we get home, she yells at me for this sandwich in the car, which I don't even know about. And then she yells at me for wearing a jacket in the summer (I went out this morning and it was cold. Do I need to hide stuff just to avoid getting yelled at?)

So in under 15 minutes, I was yelled at for five different reasons. For some reason, I wasn't really angry this time. Just passive. Actually this whole mornin, I've been hecka chill. I don't see it as abuse. But the bombardment is breaking.

And needless to say, deep down inside, whether I accept it or not: I love her.

[wild1]

I'm really sorry you keep getting yelled at. It doesn't happen to me much but I feel like crying when it does.

[HumbleBumble]

Man, you should seriously have a talk with your mom. Talks always work. At least for me and my dad. Good luck :/

[Lyra Heartstrings]

I think you've built a tolerance to it. Which..well, isn't good. I've done the same thing. I would talk to her about her, what seems like, anger issues.

[Montesquieu15]

Lol, she has one hell of an anger issue.

Um, I'm actually trying to be more passive with it. Cuz usually I'm just cursing and cursing in my head. It's ugly and it's become a bad habit so....

But yeah, talking isn't much of an option for me. Uh, asian?, if that gives you a little insight into what I mean (not to say all asians yell and shout like that, but standard issues yeah). I'm 16 and moving out in two years.

[Lolli]

Instead of saying ' you don't do this and you don't do that' when you talk to your parents ask them to encourage you in your goals and make the negative into a positive. The way you broach a subject is important

[Montesquieu15]

Would you clarify? cuz I'm not sure what you mean.

[runnerz]

I feel your pain. I love my mom too but when she get's mad, talking back at all, or even just stating my opinion, will make things worse. I always have to suck it up or she'll just keep going forever. It stinks :/

[Thunderstorm]

If she's blaming you for things you didn't do, there might be something mentally wrong with her. Not to be dramatic, but she may need a psychologist. This shouldn't be happening. You should get another family relative like an Aunt or Uncle to talk to your mom and to moderate the situation. Good luck.