Friend is smoking..

[dynamiicz]

The other day when one of my friends was driving me and my friend around, he started to smoke a cigarette. I knew he already smoked, but what made me kinda annoyed was how whenever he'd offer my friend a cigarette she'd always say YES! And this has happened like twice with him and her. But yeah, it kinda annoyed me because like what 14 year old is smoking? it's not like she's a full-time smoker but the fact that she even does it periodically is dumb on her part. I talked about this earlier and she was all like, "it's not like I do it a lot." That pissed me off right there, cause she shouldn't even be doing it at all. But I'm not gonna police her all the time about it, so it's her problem now. But it really pissed me off and according to my friend "You don't have a right to be mad at her seeing as she's old enough to where she can make her own choices." I feel like I do have a right to be angry, but whatever.


Anybody been in a similar situation?

[StoppingTime]

You can feel whatever you want. You have that right.
You do not, however, have the right to govern over her, and tell her what you think is right or wrong.
Sure, smoking could a one-way ticket to cancer, and it's good that you know that.
If you really wanted, you could sit down, and have a civilized conversation with her. This does not mean you can say things like, "What you're doing is stupid," or "stop now or else........"
Talk to her about how it affects your relationship, and see if you can get her to stop while she's ahead.

[SLABBS]

whenever my friends and i drive around, pretty much all of us smoke. smoking never really bothered me as im a social smoker myself and both my parents smoked. but bothers me is when people try to pressure people into smoking or drinking. its ok to offer someone a cigarette,l but when they decline, you accept that. you don't continually try and talk them into smoking :P

[Jimmy Page]

As Steven said,try to have a calm and civilized conversation,and if that doesn't work,there isn't much to do about it,you can't really control other peoples choices(even though sometimes we want to)

[ackmedsgirl666]

nope. but even if my sister were to pick up cigarette i couldnt even tell her to put it out because i myself am a smoker and i would be being a hypocrite. just let her make her own choices. she will learn that eventually it will become a full time addiction and she will suffer and have bad health problems. but when she comes crying bac to you asking u for help just say to her i told you so but you didnt listen.

[Thunduhbuhlt]

I don't like smoking and I definitely don't like smokers but as stated you can't control her life. If she feels like dying earlier than everybody else then let her, but you can try and show her what it does to your body. Do some research on it and talk to her without pushing her to quit and without yelling.

[wild1]

It smells sooo bad. My grandpa smokes cigars sometimes and they smell even worse than cigarettes.

[Kieman]

Whatever, people make choices.. Some good, some bad. You can try to change them, but life goes on. It shouldn't ruin a friendship, just try to help her get over it.

[Pictureparadise]

Search up some information on smoking. There are serious/dangerous issues and damages in smoking.

--number one leading cancer maker
--bad breath, gums, yellow teeth, aweful smile
--early wrinkles appearing in young adulthood
--may lose ones family


So you can have a nice conversation with her about it, stating the cons in smoking. If she had been smoking for some time, she may be addicted to it, so take things slow.

[commikid]

I have watched many people start smoking over the years and I have also pleaded with many to stop. When I was little my mum used to smoke and I would tell her to stop all the time and I once found the. cuboard where she kept them and I snapped every one of them in half haha. She did acctually stop shortly after that, however in your case you do have the right to advise her not to do it and if she takes it or not thats up to her. Long as you dont start its okay man :) , I mean after all there is no plus side to smoking these days because its expencive and banned in most confined public places so theres no real point of doing it. My mate smokes and tells me it calms him down although he doesn't understand that people that dont smoke get stressed too and we also have to calm down when we get stressed or we will end up going mad haha

[Wooba]

Trust me, if you keep telling her how much you don't like it, she's gonna keep doing it even more. She's going to feel as if you're trying to control her - even if you aren't. Like everyone else said, it sucks but you have to allow her to make her own decisions, whether it's good or bad.

[dontfiguremeout]

Well I know it's hard to tell her not to do it, because it will tempt her even more, but when she says that she doesn't always do it, no matter what pretty soon she will be addicted to start smoking! So try and direct her away from smoking like, give her other choices like gum. And if it doesn't work, while she is still young and beginning, show her pics of what smoking does to her lungs. It may not be pleasant, but will get her thinking!!!

[Neverender]

Well I know it's hard to tell her not to do it, because it will tempt her even more, but when she says that she doesn't always do it, no matter what pretty soon she will be addicted to start smoking!
It takes literally months to hook an addiction to Nicotine through MAOI presence (IE Tobacco smoking). And it's very slow. Learn addictions before you spread the propaganda and self-conjured beliefs you surmise in school.

So try and direct her away from smoking like, give her other choices like gum. And if it doesn't work, while she is still young and beginning, show her pics of what smoking does to her lungs. It may not be pleasant, but will get her thinking!!!
No it won't get her thinking. You need to learn to mentality of a smoker. We don't care about the pictures on packs of cigarettes. We're all aware of the risks and we don't care. If pictures got people thinking, than Australia and Canada would have no smokers left given the warning labels that cover 75% of the cigarette packs.

[Sean Silver]

she probably is just doing it to impress the guy or feel cool; there's no other reason because cigarettes taste disgusting and don't do anything for you --> THEY'RE POINTLESS CANCER STICKS

[teenage_mutant]

i think she's just gaining experience. you know how its feels like, how its taste like...

but i smoke too. cheers!

[Neverender]

she probably is just doing it to impress the guy or feel cool; there's no other reason because cigarettes taste disgusting and don't do anything for you --> THEY'RE POINTLESS CANCER STICKS

I love the taste of cigarettes. <3

[Dylan79831]

tell her to smoke weed insted if she wants to smoke something it barely harms you and its fun lol

[Neverender]

tell her to smoke weed insted if she wants to smoke something it barely harms you and its fun lol

Scientifically, there's almost no difference between the smoke from Cigarettes and Marijuana. Exceptions include active substances like the Nicotine or Tetrahydrocannabinol as well as any additives. If you smoke additive-free Cigarettes or you live in Canada where it's required by law that they are additive free, there's almost no different between whether you smoke Tobacco or Cannabis, they both have the same effects on the lungs.

This means that Cigarette smoke is not as dangerous as the media and Health Organizations portray (It takes a lot of smoke over a lifetime to get cancer). It's still harmful but it isn't single breath-omg-you're-gonna-die style.

[Sordid Saint]

I would just say to her that she shouldn't be smoking cigarettes, but if she doesn't listen there's nothing that you can do about it. She will realize that she has to stop at some point.