Telling My Friend?

[disassociation2016]

Okay, so I've got a really good guy friend. Maybe best-friend that I'd like to tell. He currently has a girl-friend, but he seems to be interested, or curious at-least. He talks dirty to me sometimes, and we spoon in bed when we sleep together. Well the other night he put his hand where my penis is and embarrassingly I got hard. I could tell he wasn't just moving around in his sleep, because I could feel his heart pounding. I know normally this is frowned upon, but I really didn't mind. We've got a complicated past that would take ages to write here, but basically I would like to tell him "Hey I'm gay." and I might even let him know that I like him. I'm just WORRIED that it'll end our friendship. Honestly I'm content with just having a cuddle buddy. :(

PS. If anyone is interested in the whole story I am an open book. Just ask!

[Skyhawk]

Sure, I wouldn't mind reading a story.

What's his opinion on homosexuality, if you know?

[disassociation2016]

Well he's questioned me before. Usually he says that he doesn't care if I'm gay ect. I'm not to worried about him hating me over it. I just think things will change...

[Guillermo]

I think you should just go ahead and tell him. If he's a good friend then I'm sure he will still accept you and still be your good friend. I know it seems like you're risking a lot and that you might possibly lose a friend but you'll never know unless you try. And in this case, I don't think you will lose him. You should just have a good talk with him. I'm sure he'll understand :)

Though I must warn you: I'm not sure that you should try to "pursue" him (not yet, at least), because you don't know if he is gay/bi/curious yet. If he keeps doing things like spooning you and other such things, then so be it. But he might not know what to do if you did that to him.

[OregonStateDude]

Hmmm, this sure does sound complicated.

Well the other night he put his hand where my penis is and embarrassingly I got hard.

There's nothing wrong with that. If another guy puts his hand on my junk, I am going to get hard too.

but basically I would like to tell him "Hey I'm gay." and I might even let him know that I like him.

This is where it gets tricky. He has a GF, so if indeed he is bisexual, and now knows another guy likes him, he has to make a choice. Unless he is into open relationships and shit like that.

[disassociation2016]

Yeah. Problem is that I wouldn't even consider it when he's in a relationship. Heck I don't know if I would even do anything with him, because the ex-girlfriends he's had. I mean it's only two, but one of them was pretty trashy. (Didn't know gays had morals did ya?)

[ExhibitG]

it just so happens that i came out to my best friend just a few nights ago and he was totally cool with it and i was honestly shocked. and i was worried just like you that he would look at me differently or want to separate or something, but nope. it was fine. (i'm bi btw, not gay -- to my knowledge anyway lol) so i think you should just tell him and i'm sure he'll be fine with it. don't tell him you like him yet though lol, i'd wait to see how he reacts to the gay thing first. good luck! :)

[YOUNGFLYGUY]

This sounds like a good story I would love to read.....and I'm in the same position my best friend does the same thing..I also want to tell him I'm big and want to talk to him...I think he knows already. If you tell him I would wait to tell him that u like him

[BlackieChan21E]

I wanna read it. Then I could send you mine lol

[Eth_94123]

Tell him you are gay but don't tell him that you like him that could ruin things you have! :)

[Shadow]

Well this sounds like a pretty complicated situation we have here my best advice is that you should tell him since he has already said that he doesn't care if your gay, I would however, suggest that you don't tell him that you like him until your sure that it won't ruin your friendship.

[dontfiguremeout]

Please do not bump threads more than 2 months old. THis is really old, he doesn't need help anymore since it's about a year old. :locked: