what DEPRESSING NEWS

[ackmedsgirl666]

so my ex boyfriend called me earlier. his mom put him in the psyche ward because he tried to yet again commit suicide and she blames me. i know i have made things rough for cody but i never intended for things to get this bad. anyways hes in the psyche ward for a while or whenever he decides to leave. im torn in between 2 people. the love i once had for my ex is now back and growing every minute.. atlest i think im in love. im so confused. i cant even talk to my boyfriend about it otherwise he gets mad. i miss my ex like crazy and im gonna try and go visit him in the hospital if i can so me and him can talk. see there is a restraining order in place as there was previous charges pressed but while he is in the hospital everything is lifted. he can call me and see me if i go there. i guess my question is.. should i go and see him. is it a good idea??
i need advice??

[StoppingTime]

I guess my first question is, if there was a restraining order, do you feel comfortable seeing him? If so, then I don't see why you shouldn't. Remember, none of this is your fault. You cannot make anyone do anything. They make their own decisions, so don't blame yourself, it can't end well.

Most likely having feelings for him again because you pity him right now, but I'm not the one to make that call for certain. If you are currently in a good relationship, I don't think you should end it over him.

[ackmedsgirl666]

I guess my first question is, if there was a restraining order, do you feel comfortable seeing him? If so, then I don't see why you shouldn't. Remember, none of this is your fault. You cannot make anyone do anything. They make their own decisions, so don't blame yourself, it can't end well.

Most likely having feelings for him again because you pity him right now, but I'm not the one to make that call for certain. If you are currently in a good relationship, I don't think you should end it over him.

my current boyfriend was the one who had the restraining order put in place not me. i didnt sign a paper or anything. he thought this would be the best way i could get over my ex was if we couldnt see eachother. but now i have the opportunity and i kinda wanna go for it... and yes i do feel safe round him he would never hurt me

[StoppingTime]

I understand now. Honestly, I don't respect what your boyfriend did if he was the one who put the restraining order on. It seems terribly selfish of him, and completely unnecessary.

If you feel like you could make things work out again, it can't hurt to try. How is he reacting to being the psych ward though? Do you think he blames you? He shouldn't, but you don't want to put yourself in that position.

[ackmedsgirl666]

I understand now. Honestly, I don't respect what your boyfriend did if he was the one who put the restraining order on. It seems terribly selfish of him, and completely unnecessary.

If you feel like you could make things work out again, it can't hurt to try. How is he reacting to being the psych ward though? Do you think he blames you? He shouldn't, but you don't want to put yourself in that position.


nope he doesnt blame me at all in fact he blames his mother as it was her who put him in there to try and get over me and focus on himself. i really wanna see him for a bit and talk with him but im scared of my boyfriend finding out
i had to lie to him today and tell him that ive been ignoring codys calls but infact i have been nswering him everytime. my mom even talked to him and she feels very terrible about his situation. cody told me the burses wanna help us get back together and make things better.

[StoppingTime]

I would try to get back with him then. Is your current boyfriend someone you can talk to about this? Would you feel comfortable and safe doing that?

[ackmedsgirl666]

I would try to get back with him then. Is your current boyfriend someone you can talk to about this? Would you feel comfortable and safe doing that?

no no and no
my current boyfriend will not talk about cody
and whenever i do he gets angry and ignores me and says im not being fair yet he forced me to try and get over him and in doing so he caused me to cheat. and thats how all this bullshit started

[IcarusLives]

Wait what, your boyfriend put a restraining order on your ex, because he wanted you two not to see each other...?

Can you even legally do that......?

EDIT: Sorry you'll have to explain this a bit more because right now it's not making any sense to me at all....

[Fuzzyevil]

@I think you should go bak to ex boyfriend! Tell him that you love him still and no matter what happens you'll always be his! :yes:

[ackmedsgirl666]

Wait what, your boyfriend put a restraining order on your ex, because he wanted you two not to see each other...?

Can you even legally do that......?

EDIT: Sorry you'll have to explain this a bit more because right now it's not making any sense to me at all....

yes my boyfriend did. he went to the precinct and had a restraining order put in place. heres the full story

cody and me broke up on BAD TERMS. he hqd a history of cheating on me. of course i gae up and wanted to get back at him so i started dating somebody else to piss him off. unfortunately me and this guy grew close and i wsnt able to break up with him. cody got pissed and showed up at my school not planning to hurt nybody but he had knives incase somebody tried to hurt him.my current boyfriend called the police nd had cody arrested on the spot and now thats how the restraining order got put into place and now i have been an emotional wreak for the past 4 months since this happened. me and cody have been still talking and when my boyfriend fond out the second time HE made me call the copsmyself and get cody into trouble agin. it hurt to do it but i had to.i was so ashamed. hope this cleared up some confusion

[IcarusLives]

Lol k makes a lot more sense now than simply "My boyfriend didn't want me and my ex hanging out with each other anymore.

So he got a restraining order."

Anyway thanks for clearing it up, I'm not the one to help out with this sort of situation but someone on this website should be able to help you make sense of it all.

[therunaway]

I would talk to your boyfriend, tell him you want to fix things with Cody, & that he should find someone new. Then go talk to Cody, talk to him, get back with him. Finally, talk to his mom, ask her why she thinks it's your fault, why she would put him in the psych ward, and that it isn't your fault, he is held accountable for his actions.

[ackmedsgirl666]

well did alot of talking with the family and theres something else i should tell you all that i was hiding. cody is kind of a pedophile. well sort of. he used to make comments about my 10 year old sister like sexual wise but i dont think he meant it. he used to get boners over her sitting on his lap. i guess this is the part that has me the most stumped and thats maybe whats holding me back??

[Mortal Coil]

I think that both of these boys are bad news. Please break up with your current boyfriend, but be cautious around the ex. Trust your instinct, and if it says that they will hurt you then assume the worst.

[xaydavis]

U should do whatever u think is right

[ackmedsgirl666]

ex called me. says he gives up because everytime he calls me my boyfriend is there and we cant talk.. still so confused. im pissed at my bf because he has only been home for a day since spending a week here with me at my moms and the second he was home he got stoned. i hate that he keeps doing all this shit to me...
ummmm what more should i do?
he yells at my everytime i try and make him stop.. i pretty much wanna give up :(

[xaydavis]

I would talk to your boyfriend, tell him you want to fix things with Cody, & that he should find someone new. Then go talk to Cody, talk to him, get back with him. Finally, talk to his mom, ask her why she thinks it's your fault, why she would put him in the psych ward, and that it isn't your fault, he is held accountable for his actions.

I agree but if he still doesnt listen ur a girl u find something against him any means neccesary

[xaydavis]

yes my boyfriend did. he went to the precinct and had a restraining order put in place. heres the full story

cody and me broke up on BAD TERMS. he hqd a history of cheating on me. of course i gae up and wanted to get back at him so i started dating somebody else to piss him off. unfortunately me and this guy grew close and i wsnt able to break up with him. cody got pissed and showed up at my school not planning to hurt nybody but he had knives incase somebody tried to hurt him.my current boyfriend called the police nd had cody arrested on the spot and now thats how the restraining order got put into place and now i have been an emotional wreak for the past 4 months since this happened. me and cody have been still talking and when my boyfriend fond out the second time HE made me call the copsmyself and get cody into trouble agin. it hurt to do it but i had to.i was so ashamed. hope this cleared up some confusion
No nononono he made u calk the cops on him if he threatens u u need to get even release the energy.

[xaydavis]

NO u are better of with ex tell your current bf to leave and never talk to me again and at the end say OR ELSE

[ackmedsgirl666]

dont double post
and ok?

[Lolli]

End it with current guy. If he doesn't get message then GET A RESTRAINING ORDER on him, you obviously have feelings for ur ex and ppl pushing you apart will only make you want each other more.

[Lolli]

Btw there was no scarcasm meant by that restraining order thing, I was actually being serious as that way he'll keep the distance.
Sorry if you took my last comment wrong it wasn't meant as it sounded :L

[ackmedsgirl666]

no no no harm done lol
well heres my problem
how do i get my ex back cuz now he wont talk to me
and how do i break up with my current without making him hate me

[Lolli]

Just tell him you can't deal with hhim controlling you like he does, then try to talk to your ex

[ackmedslayer556]

Ok ok hold up ppl.first of all lilmarialyons thanksfor making me out to be the bad guy. Ok none of u have any idea what she has put me through. And babe im not stupid ik u talked to him all day that day. Now listen up ppl. Im not the bad guy here her ex cody is, the whole reason it got to the popint of cody going to jail is because he showed up at my school wanting to stab me with a knife. And also babe what is wrong with you? Why do u always make me out to be the bad guy?

[ackmedsgirl666]

Ok ok hold up ppl.first of all lilmarialyons thanksfor making me out to be the bad guy. Ok none of u have any idea what she has put me through. And babe im not stupid ik u talked to him all day that day. Now listen up ppl. Im not the bad guy here her ex cody is, the whole reason it got to the popint of cody going to jail is because he showed up at my school wanting to stab me with a knife. And also babe what is wrong with you? Why do u always make me out to be the bad guy?


babe i wasnt trying to i was just trying to state a fact/point
im not trying to make you look bad. im just asking advice doesnt mean ill follow it.

[IcarusLives]

Go to a therapist... Seriously.....

Not being rude ffs so don't take it the wrong way. Not an insult, I went through therapy myself anyhow.

I'm saying there's something underlying here you aren't telling us, and you need someone who actually knows what they're talking about to help you, not douchebag boyfriends to fill a void in your life, and certainly not this board in my personal opinion.

But what do I know, I'm just another person on this board anyhow, right..?