A one off and he and his gf say it was my fault

[Lolli]

My dad hit me, once.
He had never done it before and I was left with a black eye and a bruised back.
We had an argument and I wanted to apologise and speak to him without his gf there.
He said no. Anything I had t say had to be said to them both.
I then told him I didn't want to talk anymore then started to walk up the stairs.
He followed dragged me down the stairs and pushed me against the door. He then punch me around the head and face the dragged me into the kitchen while kicking my back.
The following day he told the police when they interviewed him that I punched him and was going mental and that I provoked him.
That weekend his girlfriend posted on Facebook that he didn't hit me and that I was a spoiled brat that threw a tantrum and fell down the stairs.
I don't get how the two of them could lie like that. He knows what he did and she stood by watching it happen.
I didn't press charges because he is my dad and I was willing to give him a second chance because it had never happened before.
Is that normal cover up behaviour for an abusive person/people?
Was I right in forgiving him?
Why do people act like that anyway???

[Lyra Heartstrings]

Is that normal cover up behaviour for an abusive person/people? Well..I suppose. It wasn't right by any stretch.
Was I right in forgiving him? He is your father, and I don't blame you. But if he does it again, you shouldn't.
Why do people act like that anyway??? They are emotionally unstable..

[eggy101]

Very normal to cover up that behaviour, but no always right. People cover this behaviour up in fear of losing the person who is doing this awful thing.

The only one who knows if was right to forgive him is you.

One reason men batter is because they can. By battering they maintain power and control in a relationship. They also batter because their abuse is not confronted clearly as "violence against women".

I know i no details on the argument, but was it questioning his authority in the home?

Where's Your mum? Do u have other protectove family members you can speak to? You dont have to answer any of these questions if there too deep

[Thunderstorm]

That's very weird. Your dad helped bring you into this world and he treats you like that? That's not right. A father is a father figure, and no matter how bad times get or how terrible something can be, he should always be a role model to you. He should not be punching you and abusing you. To cover up like that is definitely not role model status. He could have been honest. Honesty is always the best policy. It is normal for someone to cover up like that, but still, he shouldn't have done any of that in the first place. There is a certain way to communicate to kids when you are frustrated with them. Physical harm is not the way.

[Lolli]

No I wasn't questioning his authority
I'm over an hour away from my mummy
And I'm in care now and with a great family so I'm safe

[Montesquieu15]

I don't know what the situation with your mom and you is, but if she's more accommodating (I'm not sure what the word is), you should go talk to her about what happened.

I'm sorry this happened to you.

[EvilB]

Is that normal cover up behaviour for an abusive person/people? Yes!
Was I right in forgiving him? Yes!
Why do people act like that anyway??? Well he said what his answer was and you didn't like his answer and made him mad. There are two sides to every story though. And if it happens again than you will probably have enough evidence to provide but be careful because foster care isn't always better because if you live on a nice side of town and stuff and have a parent who loves you just remember you won't have that if you get taken away.
If my parents hit my once every blue moon, which they don't. I would let them because we used to have foster care kids and all they wanted was there parents no matter how abusive or crazy they were.

[WakaWaka]

Without being mean to you at all, your Dad is a sick man and his GF isnt a lot better. I feel really sorry for you.

[imless]

Even though he's the father, he has no right for those acts he made. Forgiving him is good anyhow since he's your father. What makes them to do that maybe is someone is persuading them to do it. I mean they are being manipulated by someone who has hatred on you or dislikes you.

[Lolli]

I'm happier in care then with my parents, I have more space to think, there are not any family stresses I have to deal with, I have the chance to get on with my education and time to put the building blocks of my life to come. I talk to my mum most nights and our relationship is better now we aren't under each others noses I have no contact with andy (father) and to be honest I don't fancy any he is horrible and is trying to make our family take sides by bullying them into believing his lies. My foster parents are lovely, supportive, and my foster siblings are absolute darlings.

[Caver]

Everyone deserves a second chance but on this one he's your Dad and he's suppose to love care and support you - not make things worse for you. Don't let him push you around like this, just be strong because this is serious abuse which could potentially get worse.

[Mirage]

Don't let him run your life, at this moment it is YOU that is running your life, not him! Please stay strong and fight for your education.

~Mirage

[Efflorescence]

My dad hit me, once.
He had never done it before and I was left with a black eye and a bruised back.
We had an argument and I wanted to apologise and speak to him without his gf there.
He said no. Anything I had t say had to be said to them both.
I then told him I didn't want to talk anymore then started to walk up the stairs.
He followed dragged me down the stairs and pushed me against the door. He then punch me around the head and face the dragged me into the kitchen while kicking my back.
The following day he told the police when they interviewed him that I punched him and was going mental and that I provoked him.
That weekend his girlfriend posted on Facebook that he didn't hit me and that I was a spoiled brat that threw a tantrum and fell down the stairs.
I don't get how the two of them could lie like that. He knows what he did and she stood by watching it happen.
I didn't press charges because he is my dad and I was willing to give him a second chance because it had never happened before.
Is that normal cover up behaviour for an abusive person/people?
Was I right in forgiving him?
Why do people act like that anyway???

It's understandable that you felt you should forgive him but in this situation, I don't think he deserved a second chance. He was violent, he lied and he let his girlfriend do the same. No matter what your fight was about, his actions are not justified.

Anyways, I'm glad that you've found people who treat you well now.

[Inventor2]

This is serios! Why would you drop charges!?!?

[UnknownBoi98]

Honestly, You Are Really Brave For Forgiving Him ; Imma Guy . . But My Dad Is Still Really Violent But I Already Made A Pact W. Myself That If My Dad Puts His Hands On me . . I'm Running Away.

[Perfectly Flawed]

I'm happier in care then with my parents, I have more space to think, there are not any family stresses I have to deal with, I have the chance to get on with my education and time to put the building blocks of my life to come. I talk to my mum most nights and our relationship is better now we aren't under each others noses I have no contact with andy (father) and to be honest I don't fancy any he is horrible and is trying to make our family take sides by bullying them into believing his lies. My foster parents are lovely, supportive, and my foster siblings are absolute darlings.

Well I'm happy you found people who will care for you and love you. It sucks having a parent who treats you like dirt, but you're strong enough to move on.