Overprotective family

[Alan F.]

Ok, I live with my bestfriend, Micheal. I like his sister, Ray. I've talked to Mike and he seems cool with it, but there is one problem, her dad is extremely overprotective. He won't let her date older guys. I'm 17, shes 14. Also, the consequences would be severe if he ever found out, and he is a very smart person, able to come to a true conclusion very easily. She is also the first girl I feel comfortable around and I've never dated before. Please someone help me.

[Desuetude]

Things could get very sticky if her Dad finds out and you're living with them. Do you mind me asking why you're staying with them? 14 and 17 there is a big age difference. After 16 it's not considered so bad because it's the age of consent but you can understand that her Dad would be questioning your motives and parents tend to be more protective of their daughters than sons. I don't think it would be a very good idea in my opinion seeing as it will affect their family and would create a lot of tension should he find out. Also, how would you take you expect the relationship to progress in the future? and do you know how she feels about you? (sorry for bombarding you with questions, I do think they're necessary though.)

[RCT109]

Yeah I'm with Nikki
it sounds like her dad would kick you out if he finds out.
If you really want to date her then ask her dad/
I know you asked her bro so now ask her dad

[Mortal Coil]

I think it's best to just find someone else. I know it hurts, but sometimes sacrifices must be made for the greater good. If you really want to hang out with her, you can maybe see her while you're with her brother. I'm sorry that her dad is like this :hug3:

[Alan F.]

Things could get very sticky if her Dad finds out and you're living with them. Do you mind me asking why you're staying with them? 14 and 17 there is a big age difference. After 16 it's not considered so bad because it's the age of consent but you can understand that her Dad would be questioning your motives and parents tend to be more protective of their daughters than sons. I don't think it would be a very good idea in my opinion seeing as it will affect their family and would create a lot of tension should he find out. Also, how would you take you expect the relationship to progress in the future? and do you know how she feels about you? (sorry for bombarding you with questions, I do think they're necessary though.)

1:I had family problems and got kicked out.
2:I dont understand. Progress in the future?
3:No, but I'm scared of changing our relationship for the worse by asking, but I will end up asking sometime soon.

[Alan F.]

Thanks guys for the advice.