Please Help!!

[ally_____]

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[panpod]

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[sms22]

Alysa you have to try and eat. If you dont you'll drop some much weight you could get sick and we couldnt have that could we. Try to eat a bit more food everyday until you're eating a full meal. Good luck :)

[ally_____]

Alysa you have to try and eat. If you dont you'll drop some much weight you could get sick and we couldnt have that could we. Try to eat a bit more food everyday until you're eating a full meal. Good luck :)

Thanks! :) and I'll try, it's just hard, once you get into that mind set, it's hard to get out . . . But I know it's unhealthy and I'll try my best! I ate almost a full meal today! :D I know it's not much, but to me it's a big step :)

[flumeendeavors]

Hey Alysa. Let me tell you a little bit about me.. i was diagnosed with anorexia when i was 12 years old and i have been trying to recover for almost a full 4 years now. I was really bad, i weighed 82 pounds when im 5'3" and i was eventually hospitalized for my habits. I think what you need to do is remind yourself of all the bad that will come out of your eating disorder. My hair started falling out, my skin got dry and i started growing fine hair on my stomach and back, my teeth always hurt, my bones were constantly sore, my joints started to hurt a lot, i couldnt sit down because my bones would dig into the chair and it actually hurt to sit down, i also developped a heart arrhythmia which basically means your heart beats irregularly and it still does, even though im fully recovered. I also got diagnosed with a joint condition in my hips where they weakened too much and the joints slid into a different angle and now i have to get massive surgery for both hips and i will be on bed rest for 3 months. By the end, when i was in the hospital, i had a tube shoved up my nose which felt so awkward and i had iv's coming out of my arms and people were saying i looked sick, i looked gross. But when i looked in the mirror, i still saw FAT.
I almost died and now i have two medical concerns i have to live with because i starved myself. It is not worth it.
To be honest, i had to recommit myself EVERY SINGLE DAY to recovery or else i would start starving again. Its a full time job and if you truly want to get better you need to look at yourself in the mirror every day and say "I am beautiful as i am." Even if you dont believe it at first, if you keep saying it every day you honestly will start to believe it. Also, you really have to find someone that you need to get healthy for. For me, it was my little sister. I hated having her (at 4 years old) come to see me in the hospital looking the way i was. It made me feel terrible that i almost left her without a big sister. Her only sister. So find someone like that.
Another tip is that just because you are in recovery DOES NOT mean you need to start eating like a normal person right away. You have starved yourself for so long that by this point, you would do more damage than good by trying to eat the same proportions as a healthy person. So here's what you do, start off with small portions, half the size of a normal person for starches and meats but a full portion of veggies, okay? And every week, work your way up by adding another spoonful of the food until you reach a normal persons plate size.
It may seem scary and youre going to have all those nasty thoughts rushing through your head with every bite you eat, BUT.. you need to battle that voice with a voice of your own and with every bite that comes with a bad thought, you need to come up with a positive one like "if i eat this bite, my hair wont fall out" or "if i eat one last bite of this my heart wont give out"
It is HARD. I wont lie to you. It was the hardest thing i have ever (and will ever) do in my entire life but it was SO worth it. Once i started getting healthy physically, my depression and anxiety and paranoia also disappeared.
It really does get better but only if you recommit yourself every single day to recovery.

This was really long and im sorry for that but i needed you to hear all of this.
Stay strong and healthy dear.
I am here for you whenever. You can message me on my tumblr and i will answer as soon as possible. You're not alone, and i care about you. Dont forget that.

love,

Brooke <3 (:

[commikid]

Okay so I have ended up looking at threads like this for a reason and that reason is, theres a girl I know that is just like you and Brooke, She has been to hospital and been on drips etc because of not eating and she tells it just like you two describe it, she always see's herself as fat etc etc. She is seeing some kind of health nurse atm and has managed to gain what she has been told to be a healthy weight for her hight and now she thinks that she needs to loose weight again because she is too fat so she just eats ice cubes and drinks energy drink :/. She knows I like her so when I try and tell her that she looks fine just the way she is she automatically thinks I'm doing it because I'm trying to get somewhere with her but I know that will never happen and all I want is for her stop making herself ill, it's acctually upsetting that someone can think that they look so bad they feel the need to do this to themselves no matter who it is. Even the thaught of people on this site doing it isnt nice :/ I really dont know what to say to her anymore or infact even what to say to you about the matter appart from PLEASE dont do it, you only get one shot at life and there will be someone out there that would love you the way you were even if you were extreamly fat, where as if you persist to loose weight you could end up really ill or even dead, my mates mum died of this illness :( and then its over your chance is gone. Try and eat just a little bit of food at regular periods through the day so that the size of your stomache can expand in size and you will eventually be able to eat normally again :) So yehh Pleaseee try your best, people do care!

[ally_____]

Hey Alysa. Let me tell you a little bit about me.. i was diagnosed with anorexia when i was 12 years old and i have been trying to recover for almost a full 4 years now. I was really bad, i weighed 82 pounds when im 5'3" and i was eventually hospitalized for my habits. I think what you need to do is remind yourself of all the bad that will come out of your eating disorder. My hair started falling out, my skin got dry and i started growing fine hair on my stomach and back, my teeth always hurt, my bones were constantly sore, my joints started to hurt a lot, i couldnt sit down because my bones would dig into the chair and it actually hurt to sit down, i also developped a heart arrhythmia which basically means your heart beats irregularly and it still does, even though im fully recovered. I also got diagnosed with a joint condition in my hips where they weakened too much and the joints slid into a different angle and now i have to get massive surgery for both hips and i will be on bed rest for 3 months. By the end, when i was in the hospital, i had a tube shoved up my nose which felt so awkward and i had iv's coming out of my arms and people were saying i looked sick, i looked gross. But when i looked in the mirror, i still saw FAT.
I almost died and now i have two medical concerns i have to live with because i starved myself. It is not worth it.
To be honest, i had to recommit myself EVERY SINGLE DAY to recovery or else i would start starving again. Its a full time job and if you truly want to get better you need to look at yourself in the mirror every day and say "I am beautiful as i am." Even if you dont believe it at first, if you keep saying it every day you honestly will start to believe it. Also, you really have to find someone that you need to get healthy for. For me, it was my little sister. I hated having her (at 4 years old) come to see me in the hospital looking the way i was. It made me feel terrible that i almost left her without a big sister. Her only sister. So find someone like that.
Another tip is that just because you are in recovery DOES NOT mean you need to start eating like a normal person right away. You have starved yourself for so long that by this point, you would do more damage than good by trying to eat the same proportions as a healthy person. So here's what you do, start off with small portions, half the size of a normal person for starches and meats but a full portion of veggies, okay? And every week, work your way up by adding another spoonful of the food until you reach a normal persons plate size.
It may seem scary and youre going to have all those nasty thoughts rushing through your head with every bite you eat, BUT.. you need to battle that voice with a voice of your own and with every bite that comes with a bad thought, you need to come up with a positive one like "if i eat this bite, my hair wont fall out" or "if i eat one last bite of this my heart wont give out"
It is HARD. I wont lie to you. It was the hardest thing i have ever (and will ever) do in my entire life but it was SO worth it. Once i started getting healthy physically, my depression and anxiety and paranoia also disappeared.
It really does get better but only if you recommit yourself every single day to recovery.

This was really long and im sorry for that but i needed you to hear all of this.
Stay strong and healthy dear.
I am here for you whenever. You can message me on my tumblr and i will answer as soon as possible. You're not alone, and i care about you. Dont forget that.

love,

Brooke <3 (:

Wow! That is really inspiring! I hope to become as strong as you! Thank you for the advice! I'll follow the steps you told me to, and hopefully soon I can become healthy again :) thank you sooo much! I really appreciate it! :D thanks hunn♥

Okay so I have ended up looking at threads like this for a reason and that reason is, theres a girl I know that is just like you and Brooke, She has been to hospital and been on drips etc because of not eating and she tells it just like you two describe it, she always see's herself as fat etc etc. She is seeing some kind of health nurse atm and has managed to gain what she has been told to be a healthy weight for her hight and now she thinks that she needs to loose weight again because she is too fat so she just eats ice cubes and drinks energy drink :/. She knows I like her so when I try and tell her that she looks fine just the way she is she automatically thinks I'm doing it because I'm trying to get somewhere with her but I know that will never happen and all I want is for her stop making herself ill, it's acctually upsetting that someone can think that they look so bad they feel the need to do this to themselves no matter who it is. Even the thaught of people on this site doing it isnt nice :/ I really dont know what to say to her anymore or infact even what to say to you about the matter appart from PLEASE dont do it, you only get one shot at life and there will be someone out there that would love you the way you were even if you were extreamly fat, where as if you persist to loose weight you could end up really ill or even dead, my mates mum died of this illness :( and then its over your chance is gone. Try and eat just a little bit of food at regular periods through the day so that the size of your stomache can expand in size and you will eventually be able to eat normally again :) So yehh Pleaseee try your best, people do care!

I'm sorry about the girl you like :( Just don't give up on her! Because it's not just when you eat that you get bad thoughts, it's when you see food, when you see others eating, when you see someone with a supposed 'perfect' body, it's when someone even talks about food or body image. Even if you recover, the bad thoughts are still there! This is something Very difficult and just stay by her side no matter what! Tell her she's beautiful every chance that you can, point out every single beautiful thing about her to her and tell her she's worth it! She deserves a full meal three times a day, she deserves everything and that she could eat how ever much she wants without becoming any less beautiful. Tell her not to be afraid of the little numbers and measurements on the side of a food container, and to just enjoy life while she's young, because no matter what, she will always beloved for who she is and not the number on the scale.

---Please do not double post! Use the edit button! :) ~Lexi---

[flumeendeavors]

Wow! That is really inspiring! I hope to become as strong as you! Thank you for the advice! I'll follow the steps you told me to, and hopefully soon I can become healthy again :) thank you sooo much! I really appreciate it! :D thanks hunn♥

Anytime dear (: just remember you're not going through this alone! Keep me updated please?! <3

[commikid]

I'm sorry about the girl you like :( Just don't give up on her! Because it's not just when you eat that you get bad thoughts, it's when you see food, when you see others eating, when you see someone with a supposed 'perfect' body, it's when someone even talks about food or body image. Even if you recover, the bad thoughts are still there! This is something Very difficult and just stay by her side no matter what! Tell her she's beautiful every chance that you can, point out every single beautiful thing about her to her and tell her she's worth it! She deserves a full meal three times a day, she deserves everything and that she could eat how ever much she wants without becoming any less beautiful. Tell her not to be afraid of the little numbers and measurements on the side of a food container, and to just enjoy life while she's young, because no matter what, she will always beloved for who she is and not the number on the scale.

I've dont the best I can with her :/,, she has a bf now etc so I can only support someone within certain limits I guess but I have told her all of the things that you have said above quite a few times now but like I say I think she see's it as me hitting on her :/,, But its like what is the perfect figure? Personally I do tend to like thinner people but not unhealthy thin but then on the other hand some people preffer to go out with + sized people so I dont think there is a perfect body type myself :) I personally have a standard guy kinda build but have a tiny bit of a belly because I eat irregular and big amounts when I do haha but at the end of the day your not out to impress someone else just enjoy the other parts of life like the experiences, the people, the memories etc not dwell on thinking how you can make yourself look better :') Its like even when I read the comments on this thread I try to understand what some of the people are thinking in order to make them do this. Its like you for instance, you know exactly what to say to someone that is suffering from Anorexia but yet how come you dont apply those thaughts to yourself :/ because there will always be someone that is worse off so can't you be happy... please? :)

[ally_____]

I've dont the best I can with her :/,, she has a bf now etc so I can only support someone within certain limits I guess but I have told her all of the things that you have said above quite a few times now but like I say I think she see's it as me hitting on her :/,, But its like what is the perfect figure? Personally I do tend to like thinner people but not unhealthy thin but then on the other hand some people preffer to go out with + sized people so I dont think there is a perfect body type myself :) I personally have a standard guy kinda build but have a tiny bit of a belly because I eat irregular and big amounts when I do haha but at the end of the day your not out to impress someone else just enjoy the other parts of life like the experiences, the people, the memories etc not dwell on thinking how you can make yourself look better :') Its like even when I read the comments on this thread I try to understand what some of the people are thinking in order to make them do this. Its like you for instance, you know exactly what to say to someone that is suffering from Anorexia but yet how come you dont apply those thaughts to yourself :/ because there will always be someone that is worse off so can't you be happy... please? :)

It's just like the saying 'Easier said than done'. Plus, the advice I gave you was for someone Not trying to recover, I Am in recovery. And every girl has the 'perfect' body image in their mind. And about the whole 'have to keep a certain distance thing' that's unfortunate, but just let her know that you're there for her as a Friend, not Just trying to get with her. I'm not really sure what else to tell you other than what I have, if you have any questions though don't be afraid to ask or message me :)

[ally_____]

Anytime dear (: just remember you're not going through this alone! Keep me updated please?! <3

Thank you sooo much! XD And I will :)

[commikid]

It's just like the saying 'Easier said than done'. Plus, the advice I gave you was for someone Not trying to recover, I Am in recovery. And every girl has the 'perfect' body image in their mind. And about the whole 'have to keep a certain distance thing' that's unfortunate, but just let her know that you're there for her as a Friend, not Just trying to get with her. I'm not really sure what else to tell you other than what I have, if you have any questions though don't be afraid to ask or message me :)

Well yep I'm familiar with that saying haha :') ,, and well yehh I suppose your right there. Well done for recovering I'm sure you will be able to do it, you seem strong minded! ,, And yehh I know what your saying, I'll keep an eye out for her. Hope you do okay though with your recovery :')

[Hangover]

Were going trough kind of similar things i think, i'm trying to quit sh..
I really believe you'll recover, just take it step by step and don't feel bad if you can't make it right away :) good luck! :hug: