Tickling wierd?

[Rachelhere]

I have an uncle that I love alot. He likes to tickle me. When I wuz little i liked it alot and it wuz fun. Now its just a little wierd cuz it just feels like more than tickleing. He's no perv or anything cuz he tickles me under my arms my most tickleish spots. Not any place thats wierd. It just FEELS wierd. Like I dunno. What do i do?



Rachel:confused::confused::confused:

[MoveAlong]

Well if he's not trying to molest you, I don't see the problem. I guess you're just handling it a different way and I don't see how you could be concerned about anything :confused:

[Maverick]

If you feel uncomfortable about it, don't do it. He probably doesn't mean any harm but if it makes you feel uncomfortable, just avoid it doing it.

[Rachelhere]

If you feel uncomfortable about it, don't do it. He probably doesn't mean any harm but if it makes you feel uncomfortable, just avoid it doing it.

I'm not DOING it. HES doing it. I think hes got like a fetich for it or something. He does it to me all the time.

[0=]

It's because you've realized your sexuality. Tickling can be very sensual. If you don't like it ask him to not do it anymore.

[Lifesreject]

yer i agree with 0=, you should just ask your uncle to stop it, tell him you don't like it anymore. And if he continues tell you mum or dad and ask them to have a word with him.

[MoveAlong]

I'm not DOING it. HES doing it. I think hes got like a fetich for it or something. He does it to me all the time.

Though you can avoid him doing it
I agree with 0=

It's not a fetish if he doesn't masturbate to it or likes it for sexual reasons. If he just likes doing it and is playful, like a friendly uncle, I don't see a problem!

If he does it all the time but is only playful about it and not sexual about it, there isn't any problem. If he does it and you feel molested or creeped out, just tell him to stop doing it all together! If he keeps doing it after you said no and makes a move on you, call CPS :|

[Rachelhere]

OMG! I have NO idea if he masterbates after he tickles me. Its just that thats like his "thing". Like he does it to all the girls in my family but he realy loves to do it to me and before it was like no prob. Now I get a vibe that hes REALLY into it with me hes getting off or turned on or sumthing. I mean hes like a cool person and all that. no big deal but its like i think he gets turned on and i don't know what i shoud feel about that. Im confused. :confused::confused::confused::confused:

[Sapphire]

There isn't any way that you should feel. If someone tries to tell you that you should be aroused or repulsed or whatever don't automatically think "Ah, I hate it. I'm so repulsed" No one can tell you how you feel about a certain topic, only you can work that one out.

[MoveAlong]

I agree with Carol...just don't worry so much! If you really have a problem, then just talk to him about it
It's that simple

[Rachelhere]

O well, guys it happened. This summer when we were on vacation we were alone in the room and he started tickling me alot and then he got on me to pin me down with like my arms over my head and he's tickling me and i felt his 'thing' big so its true it IS a turnon for him. I told him to stop but I was laughing too hard and he was like laughing too. I couldn't breath and when he stopped I was so mad and he was like its no big deal. I tryied to stay away from him for the rest of the time and I was like well summers almost over anyway and I won't see him very much. Should I tell somebody cuz even though I saw he was turnedon he really didn't do anything.

:confused::confused::confused:

[byee]

OMG! I have NO idea if he masterbates after he tickles me. Its just that thats like his "thing". Like he does it to all the girls in my family but he realy loves to do it to me and before it was like no prob. Now I get a vibe that hes REALLY into it with me hes getting off or turned on or sumthing. I mean hes like a cool person and all that. no big deal but its like i think he gets turned on and i don't know what i shoud feel about that. Im confused. :confused::confused::confused::confused:

Rachel, part of the problem with coming online for advice, esp with something very emotional and personal, is that the anonymity/facelessness of the net makes it hard to judge the credibility of the advice given, so it's easy to get more confused and upset by what you read.

FWIW, my sense is that if your uncle has always tickled you, this is his way of showing affection. There's nothing perverted or sexual about it. Both of you probably enjoyed this, I bet you gave him some really deep belly laughs! Who doesn't like to be tickled? Judge this action (and the relationship you have with him) in the broader context of the entire relationship. If he treats you well, is respectful of your boundaries (as in not staring at you or touching you at other times or other places), and generally 'normal' (as in like your folks), then what's changed here is puberty. Touching in general, and tickling in particular feels different now that you're in puberty, it's not just 'fun', but touching your body has a very sexual feeling to it, right? That's what you're calling 'weird'.

Your uncle might realize that your body is changing, but he might not realize that your feelings about it are changing, too. So, he's behaving the same way he always has with you. If you are uncomfortable with him tickling you, when he makes that move to tickle you, you should pull back, look at him, and very nicely, yet firmly, tell him not to do that anymore. Just like that.

Some things necessarily change as you grow up, and the way people express themselves to you is one of them. You and your uncle might need to find a more age appropriate way of expressing the affection you have with eachother in a way that isn't so 'weird' for you. This isn't such a big deal, and in the absence of any other kind of 'weirdness', your uncle is probably only guilty of a lack of awareness here.

[Sapphire]

Your uncle might realize that your body is changing, but he might not realize that your feelings about it are changing, too. So, he's behaving the same way he always has with you. If you are uncomfortable with him tickling you, when he makes that move to tickle you, you should pull back, look at him, and very nicely, yet firmly, tell him not to do that anymore. Just like that.


I agree completely with this part ^
If it bothers you then be polite, yet firm.

[Gumleaf]

iamsam is completly right about this. boy you come up with some really good advice!

[byee]

iamsam is completly right about this. boy you come up with some really good advice!


LOL! Thank you, trigger, I appreciate the compliment, and good onya for the great advice you've been giving (I've noticed!).

[Rachelhere]

I REALLY dont think you read my last post. He basically got a boner wheil he had me pinned and was tickeling me!!!!!!!! Thats not normal... Is it???

[Gumleaf]

I REALLY dont think you read my last post. He basically got a boner wheil he had me pinned and was tickeling me!!!!!!!! Thats not normal... Is it???

no thats not normal. its important that you now tell him that you don't want to be tickled anymore before any possible sexual encounter occurs.

[hotpinklips]

as people get older, their views on life change dramatically
thats all i can say

[Sapphire]

Him getting hard may not be normal in the grand scheme of things.
In terms of your relationship I think the tickling has always been there. The physical reaction he has now while doing it, IMO, is just that. A reaction.

Tell him politely and firmly that you do not want this to continue.

[byee]

I REALLY dont think you read my last post. He basically got a boner wheil he had me pinned and was tickeling me!!!!!!!! Thats not normal... Is it???


I really did read your last post. Did you read mine?

Guys get boners, that's not the issue. The issue is your discomfort with him tickling you. Tell him ' No more'. End of story.