Pleasee help? Guys advice is nice too.

[x__onyx]

There is this guy I like.

Sorry, lovee.

We are friends, and we talk and hang out and such.
He lives pretty far away from me, but we keep in touch..

He tells me he likes me but, he acts like he doesn't.

Just recently, my cousin dared me to call him and tell him I loved him. Well, I got really into this dare and forgot to tell him it was a dare. Now...when I call him, he doesn't answer. And when he calls me, he'll tell me what he has to tell me and then hang up. We used to talk for hours on end.

Any idea why he is all of the sudden acting weird?

[[he's known for a while that I like him]]

[Serenity]

Sorry, I don't have advice on this one :whoops: I'd actually like to ditto this question as I'm in kind of the same situation...

[x__onyx]

Heh.

Oh well.
I'm not alone.

[Serenity]

Indeed. And it kinda really sucks :(

[x__onyx]

Yeah, it does...

[Maverick]

Well if someone called me and told me they loved me I'd be taken back by it. You should have done your best to tell him it was a joke but to be honest the dare was a stupid idea to begin with.

Think in his shoes. If someone called you and said they loved you how would you respond? Especially if you didn't feel the same way.

He's probably uncomfortable talking to you now because of what you said. Either do your best to clear it up with him and if he doesn't budge then you might have to accept the fact that you may not be able to talk to him again and that hopefully you learned your lesson and don't do the same thing again.

[x__onyx]

Thanks.

Uhm...two things.

1. He told me he really likes me. Actually...a week before I called him and said that.

2. He always does this kind of stuff to me. He'll tell me something then ignore me. Why..?

[Maverick]

Hmmmm strange. Well I'm not a mind reader so I can't tell you why he would so something like that. If he doesn't want to communicate with you, I wouldn't consider him worth my time if I was in that situation.

All you can really to is talk about why hes ignoring you and if he doesn't respond or give you a proper reply, just don't bother with him. No point in trying to figure out someone who doesn't want to talk to you. That's what I'd do anyway. I wouldn't go out of my way to try and figure someone like this person out.

[x__onyx]

Thanks much.

=]

[Serenity]

Hmmmm strange. Well I'm not a mind reader so I can't tell you why he would so something like that. If he doesn't want to communicate with you, I wouldn't consider him worth my time if I was in that situation.

All you can really to is talk about why hes ignoring you and if he doesn't respond or give you a proper reply, just don't bother with him. No point in trying to figure out someone who doesn't want to talk to you. That's what I'd do anyway. I wouldn't go out of my way to try and figure someone like this person out.

[sigh] Yeah, that's what all my friends [and my conscience] told me, so I confronted him and thus, we're no longer dating. But I really hate how we're like...not friends anymore, b/c before we started dating I was basically closer to him than my best friends and now we're like strangers [we were during the whole 'relationship' too] and I still don't know why. Yech. It really blows. My friends [and my conscience] are telling me I need to move on from him, because he's obviously not the person I thought he was [forgive the cliche] but I really do love him, he is/was the best person I've ever met. :(

[Octo22]

Thanks.
1. He told me he really likes me. Actually...a week before I called him and said that.

There is a HUGE difference, between Liking someone, and loving someone.

If I like a girl, it means I'm willing to give love a chance to grow, I'm willing to see if we're compatible.

If I love someone...it's completely different and indescribable.

You should never say you love someone, unless you've been dating for 2 months upward. Anything less than that is infatuation/lust.

[Serenity]

You should never say you love someone, unless you've been dating for 2 months upward. Anything less than that is infatuation/lust.

Well you can hardly put a number on how long you have to have known someone in order to really love them- especially talking about someone besides yourself.

[marine_sniperman35]

well...uhh no offense but that was kinda a stupid move. Anyways yea hes probably just freaked out. If hes as mature as he sounds he will grow up.

And no offense Octo but love can be anything. Hell even love at first site. Just because u date someone for two months doesnt mean that u love them. I know what love is trust me. Speaking from a religouse point of view here is my idea of it. I have fallen in love with this one girl...and if she and I died in a car accident, she was condemned to the 9th ring of hell and I were welcomed into the gates of heaven I would give my soul for her...I would switch places for her. I would go straight to the pits of hell for her just so she can have the happiness that I want her to have. So please don't even try to describe love because what I just said wasn't even close to how it really feels and how it really hurts when you cant be with that person.

My advice is if you love him then say you love him. If your not sure....DO NOT SAY IT!!! The three words " I Love You" ARE NOT to be fucked around with. Love is complicated. You have a simple case of just liking this guy. Not loving. Trust me...you will know when you are in love....its more painful than being hit by a thousand lightning bolts at once and if feels as good living in your dream leaving the creul harsh world behind. Everything seems to just lift off your shoulders...every stress...everything seems like it is completely pointless. Love is hard to find...but when you find it even when you are not with that person it feels great...but when ur not with them it will hurt...Never trust love...meaning dont trust the fact that he could love you back.

That is an act of Love. To me...That is love.

[Octo22]

Well you can hardly put a number on how long you have to have known someone in order to really love them- especially talking about someone besides yourself.

I'm using it as an approximation, I see many couples claiming to love each other, then 2 weeks later breaking up. Surely this wasn't true love then? Call me old-fashioned but people say love way too much nowadays.I will tell a girl until I'm positive I could spend the rest of my life with her / marry her that I "really like her" but won't say love her until I'm sure.

I've been in hmm, something like 11 relationships. My most recent was 2 years long, and we never once said we loved each other because we knew we had issues/arguments that went unresolved. We liked each other, enjoyed each others company and wanted to date. It was a very open relationship, but it was never love.

Marine, you're going bit by bit so I don't miss anything.

Hell even love at first site.

In this one line, you've already lost the argument. Love sure as hell can never be from first site. Know why? You know NOTHING of their personality / emotional capacity or psychological tendencies. Infatuation and Lust at first sight do exist, love? fuck no. The fact that you even said that boggles my mind, but your age speaks for itself through that.

Just because u date someone for two months doesnt mean that u love them.

I didn't say that. Learn to read good :P In my opinion dating someone 2 months or more, is the time you need to be SURE it's not just infatuation at first sight. Infatuation can last a lot longer in certain cases. I knew a girl for a full year, and wanted to date her that entire year, I was SO "in love". But now it's passed, I've seen her flaws and think she's a total drama whore.


Your little speech of the gates of hell. I would do that for any girl alive buster, because it's the gentleman thing to do. That's called being a nice guy. Does this suddenly mean I'm in love with every girl alive? Surely not, many I find grotesque, but I don't think they deserve pain or suffering.

its more painful than being hit by a thousand lightning bolts at once and if feels as good living in your dream leaving the creul harsh world behind.

Love really shouldn't be painful there mate. People that lose love in a relationship, may cause a lot of pain to the other person. But being in love with someone should never be painful.

but when ur not with them it will hurt...

Again, here I disagree. If you mean "I can permanently never be with them, ever again" the yes, that would hurt. You'd be missing a part of you. If you just mean "I'm not currently with the person I love *tear*" then you're clingy and don't grasp the concept of love. Needing to be with someone constantly is a form of lust (it doesn't necessarily imply sex as much as physical contact).

I'm sorry, but anyone below the maturity level of a 20 year old, I don't think can fully grasp love, hell even then it's iffy.

I don't fully grasp love, nor do I claim to. But I'd like to believe I've got a hold of a bit of it for awhile, even if that never worked out. Every guy will go through his first heartbreak when he's young, and it's good because it makes them realize there's more fish in the sea, don't be dumb and devote all your time to someone that you're just INFATUATED with.

=D

[x__onyx]

Uh...thanks.

But I know i'm in love with him.
And no matter what you say, you can't convince me that i'm not.

You're not me.
You don't know how I feel.

[football]

ya if that happened 2 me i jus think it would be a bit awkward talking to you for a while but im sure he will come around

[Camazotz]

Well, "love" is pretty strong word. He might be shocked and a little anxious.

[Octo22]

But I know i'm in love with him.
And no matter what you say, you can't convince me that i'm not.

You're not me.
You don't know how I feel.

I consider love a two way street, if he's never loved you, I don't see how one could possibly love him? If he was a past lover I could see it, but still.