Does anyone have any form of motivation

[star_face]

does anyone have any form of motivation to stop cutting?
i'm just wondering because i've been thinking lately that enough is enough but when i come to stop i always cave in, and i think it might be because i have no motivation.
my friends are really surportive, but i feel like it's something i have to do for myself to be able to over come it, if this is making any sense!

what does everyone else use for motivation?
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[Serenity]

Well I read on a suicide thread the Five Minute Game, where you keep saying to yourself "I'll kill myself in five minutes" Maybe you could do the same thing with cutting, and just keep going at intervals of 5 minutes occupying yourself with something until the urges pass. Also I know some people just do something with their hands- like squeezing a stress ball, or like when one girl I know would get urges in class she would twirl her shirt around her fingers over and over, things like that. Idk, I think you just have to take it one urge at a time and find a way to distract yourself each time until it passes. My 2 cents.

[Maverick]

i feel like it's something i have to do for myself to be able to over come it, if this is making any sense!

That makes complete sense and is a very true statement.

Motivation can be pretty much anything. Do you have goals? Is there something you want to achieve later in life? Maybe a career or something you want to do?

Having goals and priorities can give you the motivation for pretty much anything. If you think, 'if I want to achieve or do this, I'll have to stop cutting' and if you want the certain thing or to achieve something, it can motivate you to stop cutting. It all depends how bad you want this certain thing and how much you're willing to do for it.

Decide what you want out of life and set goals and decide what changes you need to make to get there.

[Ironic Infidel In England]

My form of motivation is my boyfreind, and my family. I don't want to let them down, and although it's been hard, I haven't cut for about three weeks. Which is an all time record for me since I started.


I miss him.

[MoveAlong]

My form of motivation is my boyfreind, and my family. I don't want to let them down, and although it's been hard, I haven't cut for about three weeks. Which is an all time record for me since I started.

Great job Alex! That's awesome...don't let go ;-)

I don't have a motivation to not self harm because I don't, although what's preventing me from starting is my dreams and hopes and goals. I want to be someone - with nice muscles, be an improv comedian, be healthy and help people in the Puberty101 forums. Those are my goals and I know I can get to them. So I'm not going to let myself get down for too long I'll never hurt myself again (I used to pull my hair out compulsively)

[Whisper]

Well I read on a suicide thread the Five Minute Game, where you keep saying to yourself "I'll kill myself in five minutes" Maybe you could do the same thing with cutting, and just keep going at intervals of 5 minutes occupying yourself with something until the urges pass.
I dont like that personally
self harm isnt like suicide
and just the idea of ya okay in 5min for either is disturbing
not trying to be mean it might work great for someone else


My suggestion
find something worth fighting for
worth protecting
step back and look around
I have a 5yr old nephew that for some really weird reason just idolizes me
I have a pregnant cousin thats my age who already has a 4yr old baby boy
she has allot going on and needs help if anything I have to be free to help her
I have a REALLY good friend and I know me cutting would hurt him


I think about it CONSTANTLY
I havent done it in awhile now like over 2 months if not more
but I still think about it multiple times everyday

and everytime I do I think of the people I'd hurt if I did
and that stops me
I ALWAYS have a blade on me at all times and many more in my room
and I ALWAYS have an arm band or vet wrap on around my arm because I need to know that my blade is there that I have it here with me and I need to have the slight pressure around my arm
If I dont have both I get very scared and angry
and I lash out at anyone near me

I have music
and i go for walks
i get out of the house

just blasting music and walking works GREAT
have the music loud enough thatyou can hear yourself think
and just walk
left foot, right foot, left foot, right foot, etc....



thats what I do anyway
-shrug-

[Sapphire]

My motivation came in the form of not wanting to be hospitalised and wanting to see my family happy again. Some of the things I did caused my mum such worry that she had double vision and sometimes only narrowly escaped from having car accidents. I found my love for them and my fear of hospitals combined to create a strong motivation to stop.
Painting sometimes works for me when I get urges. Especially finger painting!.

I dont like that personally
self harm isnt like suicide
and just the idea of ya okay in 5min for either is disturbing
not trying to be mean it might work great for someone else
I have found this actually really helpful.
It works for some but not others.

I have music
and i go for walks
i get out of the house

just blasting music and walking works GREAT
have the music loud enough that you can hear yourself think
and just walk
left foot, right foot, left foot, right foot, etc....
I do this too, also really helpful.

[star_face]

at the moment i've not cut for a month becuase i'm going on holiday and i'm terrified about everyone around the pool staring at my scars and cuts, it's been so hard tho and i'm scared that as soon as i get back from my holiday i'll go back to before because i'll be able to hide them again, but to be honest i haven't fully stopped cutting this past month, i've just found other methods of self harming that won't be visiable, so in a way i'm kinda lyin to my self:|

[Chaos_and_Disorder]

I have been an active cutter for three years. I went on and off for some time before my best friend got cancer. I saw that his life was being taken away from him and his only promise to me was that he wanted me to stop cutting. I promised him I would stop. I'm on day thirty.

I think you need to tell yourself that you don't need it. One thing is for sure, other people won't be able to make you stop. It's a process where you have to cling yourself off of it, without other people making you stop. Once you realize that you don't need the blade then you begin to pull away.

[Evrythng_im_not]

As corney as it is... love is a good motivation for me.
The girl I love gets so disappointed in me, and I never want that. I do anything in my power to make her proud of me. The longer I go without cutting the more proud she is.
It's good motivation for me...