alivemau5
June 13th, 2012, 07:01 AM
Hi everyone,
I'm pretty new to this site, but after seeing how helpful you all were to other people, I thought I might as well give my problem a try on here too!
I'm a senior (going to graduate this week actually) who's liked girls his whole life. I like girls physically, but not as much emotionally. I've had two girlfriends, one in my sophomore year and one in my junior year and the furthest I've ever gotten with them is third base.
My problem really is that about three months ago, I started really really really liking one of my friends, who's a guy and a year younger than me. We are actually really good friends and have known each other for a long time. I've always felt emotionally attached to him because we are so similar in basically every way, but now I also feel really really really physically attracted to him.
When we have sleepovers we usually always sleep really close to each other on the floor under the same blanket. We also sometimes cuddle and spoon when sleeping (with my arms around his chest and stomach). We had another sleepover about two weeks ago, and I started to really notice and really really like his arm muscles, chest, legs, and his butt. When we were cuddling and falling asleep I felt so happy with him laying next to me.
We always wrestle the next morning and I've started to let him win just because I want to feel him laying on me when we get tired. I also noticed that he's started to touch my chest a lot more when we're playing around. If he's able to get on top of me he sits on my stomach and always puts both his hands on my chest and them moves them to my hands to pin me down after a little bit.
He's really comfortable around me and likes to sit close to me whenever we're doing things so that his leg is touching mine all the way. He also sometimes sits on my lap, all the way back so his back is touching my chest and lets me put my arms around his waist and on his legs sometimes.
We also make a lot of pretending-to-be-gay jokes, like we ask each other if we've thought about kissing another guy or being with another guy, and we both say no.
Recently, it's beginning to bother me that I like him this much because I don't consider myself anything but straight because I still like looking at all girls whereas I just like this one guy (I've never looked at other guys before and I don't feel the same way about any other of my friends).
So, my problem is two things actually:
1. Is it normal to feel this way about just one guy? (I don't feel like this for any other guys, and I don't look at other guys at all). I consider myself straight because I still really like girls' bodies.
2. Do you think he likes me at all? I was thinking so just because he actually lets me get so close to him, which not many other guys let you do, and even fewer when you're sleeping or watching a movie.
Do you think this is just me reading things wrong and thinking that there is something here just because we are emotionally close? And that somehow now turned into something physical? Should I tell him next time I see him?
This is really bothering me and I'm just thinking about him a lot lately and really want to get this whole thing solved and see if it either goes somewhere or is just a phase and a misunderstanding on my part.
I'm pretty new to this site, but after seeing how helpful you all were to other people, I thought I might as well give my problem a try on here too!
I'm a senior (going to graduate this week actually) who's liked girls his whole life. I like girls physically, but not as much emotionally. I've had two girlfriends, one in my sophomore year and one in my junior year and the furthest I've ever gotten with them is third base.
My problem really is that about three months ago, I started really really really liking one of my friends, who's a guy and a year younger than me. We are actually really good friends and have known each other for a long time. I've always felt emotionally attached to him because we are so similar in basically every way, but now I also feel really really really physically attracted to him.
When we have sleepovers we usually always sleep really close to each other on the floor under the same blanket. We also sometimes cuddle and spoon when sleeping (with my arms around his chest and stomach). We had another sleepover about two weeks ago, and I started to really notice and really really like his arm muscles, chest, legs, and his butt. When we were cuddling and falling asleep I felt so happy with him laying next to me.
We always wrestle the next morning and I've started to let him win just because I want to feel him laying on me when we get tired. I also noticed that he's started to touch my chest a lot more when we're playing around. If he's able to get on top of me he sits on my stomach and always puts both his hands on my chest and them moves them to my hands to pin me down after a little bit.
He's really comfortable around me and likes to sit close to me whenever we're doing things so that his leg is touching mine all the way. He also sometimes sits on my lap, all the way back so his back is touching my chest and lets me put my arms around his waist and on his legs sometimes.
We also make a lot of pretending-to-be-gay jokes, like we ask each other if we've thought about kissing another guy or being with another guy, and we both say no.
Recently, it's beginning to bother me that I like him this much because I don't consider myself anything but straight because I still like looking at all girls whereas I just like this one guy (I've never looked at other guys before and I don't feel the same way about any other of my friends).
So, my problem is two things actually:
1. Is it normal to feel this way about just one guy? (I don't feel like this for any other guys, and I don't look at other guys at all). I consider myself straight because I still really like girls' bodies.
2. Do you think he likes me at all? I was thinking so just because he actually lets me get so close to him, which not many other guys let you do, and even fewer when you're sleeping or watching a movie.
Do you think this is just me reading things wrong and thinking that there is something here just because we are emotionally close? And that somehow now turned into something physical? Should I tell him next time I see him?
This is really bothering me and I'm just thinking about him a lot lately and really want to get this whole thing solved and see if it either goes somewhere or is just a phase and a misunderstanding on my part.