Regaining trust again?

[laurenmarie123]

3-4 months into my relationship with my boyfriend, he did a few things that really hurt me. He smoked on three seperate occasions behind my back. He then flirted with a girl on Facebook that he knew a long time ago, just saying he missed her and that her loved her smile etc etc. But then he mentioned me and the fact that we'd slept together, since it was both our first, he said he just wanted to rub it in her face that he was happy with someone and she wasn't. Then he hid an email from an old friend he used to like, she was saying she missed him etc and she adressed it to us both, not just him- telling me she doesn't want me to hate her etc. But he replied calling her nicknames such as 'Katiemoo'. I know it was innocent to him, but him keeping it hidden really hurt my feelings. I didn't snoop his emails, it was left logged on and to see the subject title when I opened the page did get my attention, yes.

How do I trust that now, after a year of being together, that he will not do these things again? Help me- I am being ripped apart daily and I have issues with self harm etc that are made worse by this constant insecurity.

[Heatbomb21]

If you truly think his words to these other girls are harmless, just give him the benefit of the doubt and ask. If the truth doesn't come out right then and there, it will. and when it does, do what feels right. Either way, it needs to be brought up in a conversation between the 2 of you. Good luck.