Log in

View Full Version : Confused.

screamtobeheard
June 9th, 2012, 12:39 AM
This is a really stupid question and I don't even know if it's in the right section, but here goes nothing.

I have literally no sex drive. I used to. And I've been with my bf for a year. I'm a virgin, but we've done basically everything except have sex. Today when we were doing things, I just felt like I was about to gag. And I had to like, choke it back so he wouldn't notice. I don't know what's going on or if I'm just weird, but has anyone ever had anything like this happen? Like, I don't want to do anything. Not even kiss or anything little like that. I don't know if it's a thing with my sexuality or what...it's just weird.
Harley Quinn
June 9th, 2012, 01:19 PM
You might just not be comfortable with the whole sex side or anything moderately affectionate, it doesn't make you weird. You could be asexual but, I doubt that, I suggest talking to your boyfriend about it. If he can help you, you might be able to understand what you're going through. Has anything happened that could cause you to lose your sex drive? because it could all be linked.
screamtobeheard
June 9th, 2012, 03:03 PM
You might just not be comfortable with the whole sex side or anything moderately affectionate, it doesn't make you weird. You could be asexual but, I doubt that, I suggest talking to your boyfriend about it. If he can help you, you might be able to understand what you're going through. Has anything happened that could cause you to lose your sex drive? because it could all be linked.

I don't think anything's happened to make me lose my sex drive. I mean, I have depression and anxiety, but even in that light this is kind of odd, since I've had it for years.

I should talk to him about it, I guess. It just feels kind of awkward. But I need to be able to get past that.
Harley Quinn
June 9th, 2012, 03:28 PM
It could be related to depression, because naturally you don't want to do anything most of the time and so feeling sexual or having a sex drive can be decreased.

I know it's awkward, but he needs to know. I wish you luck however when you do decide to talk to him. :)
screamtobeheard
June 9th, 2012, 04:00 PM
It could be related to depression, because naturally you don't want to do anything most of the time and so feeling sexual or having a sex drive can be decreased.

I know it's awkward, but he needs to know. I wish you luck however when you do decide to talk to him. :)

Thank you.