Really confused..

[dynamiicz]

Hello guys,

Since around Middle School (3 1/2 years ago), my general attraction towards girls has been getting weaker and weaker to the point where it's really nearly non-existent. I used to think I was bisexual, but it doesn't really seem like it anymore. And now I feel like I'm almost in denial about my sexuality. I remember a certain point in my life that I really was attracted to girls, but once I discovered gay porn, etc. it completely switched around. I find girls pretty and I like getting to know them on a personal level;however, the sexual attraction is just not there and whether I like it or not, sex is a big part in a relationship. On the other hand, I am totally attracted to guys, and I look at them the way many guys look at girls. I'm far more interested in kissing another guy, and even going further, than I am interested in kissing a girl; I'm way more attracted to a guys body then I am attracted to a girls body. However, whenever I think of my future, I don't see myself in a relationship with another man at all, but instead a woman, and it makes me confused. I like the vision of a typical family living a typical life, but I don't see how this is achievable with a man. It doesn't feel right. Maybe I'm too young to be thinking about this, and maybe it'll eventually fall into place, but I really feel crappy about all of this.

Has anyone else gone through this?

[wattado]

I used to not be able to see myself with a guy but when I accepted that I was gay it was easier to see. You dont need to label yourself but it will take sometime for it to feel right.

[Fruit_Tart.]

Like he^ said, there's no need to label yourself at this moment in your life. Experience things and learn from them, that's the only way you're going to know what you want for sure.

This future you have in mind may not include a male in your life either because you want kids, your family's approval, you think you might change your mind, or whatever, but just know you don't have to make a concrete decision on that now. I used to think that it was impossible to want the life I picture because of all those I stated, but as the years have gone by I see that it's more and more possible at this time and generation. :)

This attraction you have may be just your hormones because your at that age, or it could be something more. Go with your gut and what you think is right. Like I said, experiment, but be sure to protect yourself when it's necessary. No one knows how you feel but you, remember that.

The best luck with everything to you!

[purpleninjacookie]

Well I think the reason why when you think of your future you see yourself with a women is because like you said....you on denial....you must come to terms with this before you actually label yourself straight gay or even bi....many aloes abbey considered themselves straight their whole life....then all of a sudden they have these feelings for other males. Irs just something that we have to find out as we develops....take some time out....and really ask yourself what do you want to be...and I gaurentee whatever you chose....if you stay confident in your decision..it will have a good outcome :)
hope this helped alot