I don't know what to do

[lostsilence]

There was this boy I liked. He went out with one of my friends a while back. Anyways, after we started to talk, I began to like him eventually. But one day he got in trouble and was out of school for a long time. After a few months he was back and I liked him more.

And on a random while I was in my last period class he best friend(that I'm friends with too) started asking all of these ridiculous questions. And what happens? The guy comes to my last period (he only had four classes while I had 8 at the time. he liked to stay around sometimes) and he sits directly next to me and starts writing a note and we talk the whole period. Long story short, we keep talking, feelings grew, and I was happy as hell. :) :D :wub:

But it didn't turn out the way I wanted to. He didn't like me the same way I liked him. But before that came to light, things got really heated and....basically I gave him my virginity and now we don't speak. Partially because he didn't want anyone to know what we did but I said something and it spread. :mad::(

Currently, we talk occasionally but I don't like that. And I REALLY want to bash his face in sometimes but I can't help but still like him.

What am I supposed to do?:confused::what:

[Stronger]

Well do you still want to be his friend? Sorry to hear that things did not go the way you wanted it to, but in this case, I don't know what more to say. Things seemed to have gotten too awkward between you two, maybe its best to just try and move on from him, as hard as that may seem.

[byknott]

First, don't bash his face in. I know all about that feeling, but it never really helps to actually hit them (; But I don't think you really want to beat him to pulp literally, which is generally a good idea, like I said before. Don't actually beat him.

Second, I'm really, really sorry that these things have happened this way for you. Losing your virginity is nothing to sneeze at and when that first time goes awry, it really, really hurts. Hell, it'll hurt every time, but this is amplified for you and I understand. My first time wasn't my own choice, and the first guy I chose to be with ended up not being what I thought he was, a lot like your guy turned out for you. I still have feelings for my ex, too, but not in the same way I did three, two, even a month ago.

Chances are you're going to have some kind of feelings for this guy for a long, long time, but don't confuse them with 'liking' him. I don't know the whole story of course, only the bare bones you threw out in your post, but it sounds to me like he wasn't honest with you about how he was feeling and what his view on your relationship was. I don't know you personally and I can't speak for you, but that's not the kind of guy I would want to be with. It's the kind of guy I just got out of a relationship with and I am better off for it, and you will be too, soon.

It seems so hard now because emotionally you are attached to him and now physically as well. That won't ever go away. Choosing to have sex with him was to put a lot of trust and faith in him, and unfortunately it was misplaced. It happened, and it will probably if not certainly happen again during your life. I found it was better to just come to terms with that.

As for your right now: you say you talk occasionally, and from the wording of your message it seems you don't enjoy talking to him. That being said: don't talk to him. He sends you a message and says hey what's up? You are not obligated to write back. You don't even have to say hello in the halls when you pass by, even if he says hello first. Is it bad manners? No. Once you've had sex with someone normal social manners don't apply anymore. You don't have to talk to him, especially not if speaking with him upsets you or makes you uncomfortable.

There's no reason to torture yourself with his presence in your life. Block him from your social media if you want, forget his existence while you heal. Do whatever you want. I really like the dead treatment (http://www.babewalker.com/2012/05/ask-babe-the-silent-dead-treatment/) as described by Babe Walker.

You can always resurrect him and let him back into your life later, when you're ready and you don't want to hit him in the face on sight anymore.

Also, I'm always just a message away. I really feel for you on this because I've experienced the exact same thing, so really... if you want to talk privately about it I'm here for you, I swear.

[purpleninjacookie]

It must be hard for you to forget all that pain...well I suggest you sit Jon down and have a serious talk. It may seem scathe but I'm pretty sure hes been wanting to talk to you too but just doesn't know how to.