What's wrong with me?!

[madmike]

Ok so i've been going out with this girl for a long time... almost 2 years now and i am so self-conscious about my penis. I'm about 7 erect but i can't seem to keep an erection and i don't know if it's physical or mental. We have talked about having sex now but i am so worried that i wont be able to even have sex because my erections dont stay unless my penis is stimulated. Almost immediately after stimulation is taken away i lose it but when i do have one i feel like im tightening all my pelvic muscles just to keep it up. Should erections be like this or should they stay hard on their own and if so what is my problem!?!?!

[Glasgow]

Well, if you are having trouble keeping it up just masturbating alone in your room then maybe you're too long, or you have a blood flow problem. Which you shouldnt becuause your probably not that old. Im not exactly sure since i have a good strong erection

[Gumleaf]

the only thing i can suggest is to keep your mind on sexual related things and try not to worry about it. the more you think about, the more it will happen. but if you keep your mind on sexual stuff, then that might help.

[Antares]

well if you lose stimulation then its probably mental. maybe you should find a stonger source of stimulation or something like that. i agree i dont think its physical but it could also be hormonal or your endocrine system. maybe your brain isnt continuing the relese of the substance that gets your erection goin (i always forget). maybe you should see a doctor.

[madmike]

What should i tell a doctor i feel weird about it. I'm a month shy of 17 btw. Could someone address the issue of having to tighten muscles. DO erections usually just stay up by themselves even when the pelvic muscles arent tightened. My erection angle is very low and does not stick straight out from my body unless i tighten muscles otherwise is points to ground.

[RavingRacer]

if your erection points to the ground thats weird. mine goes straight out

[Maverick]

if your erection points to the ground thats weird. mine goes straight out
It's not weird. Everyones points in different directions.

madmike go a few days without masturbating. You may just do it too frequently and you may not be horny enough. Also if you don't have enough visual/mental stimulation then it can be hard to maintain them.

[Trademarked]

What should i tell a doctor i feel weird about it. I'm a month shy of 17 btw. Could someone address the issue of having to tighten muscles. DO erections usually just stay up by themselves even when the pelvic muscles arent tightened. My erection angle is very low and does not stick straight out from my body unless i tighten muscles otherwise is points to ground.

just tell your doctor you have a hard time getting and keeping an erection. erections normally do stay up on their own. i don't know if your penis pointing down is normal, or good or bad or what. but if i were you, i would definitely talk to a doctor.

[byee]

Or can you masturbate successfully? If it only happens with your g/f, then it's probably anxiety and your penis is telling you something (like maybe you're not ready for sex yet). If it happens all the time (like you cannot masturbate), then it's either anxiety/guilt, etc (I suppose that can be there when you're alone), or something physical or some unfortunate combo of the 2.

All I can say is that most Doctors are pretty cool hearing about sexual/penis things, it's no biggie for them. Just tell him and find out what's wrong.

[madmike]

Thanks for all the replies! If i ask my doctor what about my mother...does she have to know why i want to go to the doctor? If not how do i get around having to tell her because its really personal and kind of embarassing...

[Trademarked]

just ask to see the doctor, and when you get there simply ask to talk to the doctor alone. when i had my last physical the doctor asked if i had any questions or concerns and if i needed my mom to leave the room.

[byee]

if you have this problem all the time? If it's only with her, then it's most likely anxiety, the doc can't do much about that as it's not a medical condition. If not, then I suppose a trip to the doc would claarify what's going on.

The doc cannot tell your mom what the nature of the visit is, he's got to respect doc/patient confidentiality. How you get around telling your mom why you want to go is something only you can answer.