Impressing a girl.

[DarthMayim]

I am in love with this one girl at my school, we know each other well, and she knows I love her. But she wont go out with me... and she wont give me a straight answer why. So instead of confronting her, wich I tried already, I'm trying to impress her and make her want to go out with me. Any ideas?

[anton.b1]

Im in the exact same situation dude, im lost for ideas now.
just do cute things for her, girls always love that

[Harley Quinn]

Well, all I can is, why waste your time one someone that doesn't want you? Yeah you're in love whatever, but if she can't tell you why she won't go out with - yes there may be a valid reason - stop trying.

[kenoloor]

Well, all I can is, why waste your time one someone that doesn't want you? Yeah you're in love whatever, but if she can't tell you why she won't go out with - yes there may be a valid reason - stop trying.

This, brotato chip. Impressing girls usually just ends with you looking like an idiot.

[byknott]

You cannot make someone want to go out with you. Impossible. They're either smellin' what you're steppin' in or they're not. 'Impressing' girls isn't a viable option: as a female, if I'm not impressed when I first meet you, it's very unlikely that I'll ever find you to be impressive. And if you have to strut like a peacock to get this girl to like you, to act in a way that isn't you, do you really want to be in a relationship with her? Because it won't be her in a relationship with you. It will be her in a relationship with a version of yourself you created to please her, and that isn't fair to either of you.

Let it go, bro.

[Drew5]

Leave her alone. Ya can't make her like you and if Ya gotta cchange a lot, then you aren't bein you! Plenty of other ones out there

[Lovemeorleaveme]

Just because she doent give you a reason doesn't mean she doesn't have one, if she already knows you then trying to be somthing your not will probably end badly, if she doesn't like you then she doesn't like you, i know saying this sounds mean but its the truth is there will be other girls, and eventually youll find the one, be patient and have some fun the girl for you may come into your life at any time.

[khila]

Well, all I can is, why waste your time one someone that doesn't want you? Yeah you're in love whatever, but if she can't tell you why she won't go out with - yes there may be a valid reason - stop trying.

uhhhh not that easy to get over someone if u are truly love if u infatuated than yes its EZ but love not so much

[kenoloor]

uhhhh not that easy to get over someone if u are truly love if u infatuated than yes its EZ but love not so much

Compartmentalize. Unless you're saying you're not in control of your emotions, in which case there is a bigger problem.

[Narnia]

Try to just be yourself. Don't be someone who you are not. :)

[Spreadingwings]

I am in love with this one girl at my school, we know each other well, and she knows I love her. But she wont go out with me... and she wont give me a straight answer why. So instead of confronting her, wich I tried already, I'm trying to impress her and make her want to go out with me. Any ideas?


Darth I was just in this situation with this girl that I felt extremely close to. I asked her out but before our date, she canceled in fear of loosing me as a friend. I believe that "a relationship without friendship is one doomed to fail and a relationship without love, never was", but it's not enough to just love her. She must share those feelings on some realistic level. Now for a while I still felt the same about her, I still tried to get her to like me, but we weren't connecting like before. I realized that she might need more time than me and to give up on her would be foolish, but I also realized that waiting on her to possibly care for me as I did her was foolish of me, and that giving up on her wasn't quite foolish. I could be me and If we became we, then it wasn't because my persistance but my personality. I have now stopped "chasing pavements", because I have noticed that I was going nowhere. If she likes me she can say it or express it, but for me, I'm not going to be who I'm not for her to start liking me.

Hope this helped and thank you.

[Harley Quinn]

uhhhh not that easy to get over someone if u are truly love if u infatuated than yes its EZ but love not so much

I beg to differ. If you don't know yourself well enough to know when to stop and look at the bigger picture, I seriously wonder why you'd even think a relationship would work. The whole lust v love argument isn't valid, anything is easy if you try.

[abdheuuuchjc]

Your wasting your time, if someone doesn't love you why should u love them? Move on and search for ur soulmate

[Short Circuit]

Try to just be yourself. Don't be someone who you are not. :)

^^This^^

Just be yourself, if she is interested, then she will respond, if not, then move on

[Jackerlus]

Y'know, I fell for this girl for over a year once, when I kind of figured she wouldn't go out with me I didn't stop. But my friend went and gave her a small box of chocolates to impress her. She thought it was real cute but it didn't change her opinion about him, and that made me realise that there was no point on chasing her anymore, and that I should go fish in another lake. And now I can get over this kind of thing fairly easy.


Listen to the guys posting by the way, they got some wise words. ;)