Am I some kind of freak?

[that one guy]

ok so, uh how should I start? well...I am 14 turning 15 in August and I was just wondering about something. I feel really weird about this and I dunno what to say about it. I feel like I am not really attracted to, but I find that sometimes I look at boys that are like younger than me, like 9-13. I am not some kind of pedophile (sp.) I just am not sure. Is there something wrond with me? Is it just hormones or what? I dunno, I think its just cz I once liked a boy this past year and he was really sweet and innocent. I used to think I was gay, and I made the mistake of telling alot of people that, but I am pretty sure I am bi. I do feel like I am attracted to boys, and I look at them alot more than girls for sure. I don't know!!!!!!!!!! Someone please help me! And please dont criticize me, I posted here for help because this is where I should go for help, so no nasty remarks. Please and Thankyou. reply in here soon plz!

-that one guy

[Blaze98]

No, you're not gay, or anything of the sort. It's just hormones going crazy.

[that one guy]

oh ok, well I do think I am bi though just cuz I dunno. I will know in time. Why do you think I look mainly at younger boys though? any other replies as well? anyone?

[Nick_C]

I think all guys are bi at some time in their puberty. we all have thouhgts going back in time that might enter your mind... it's ok. Just Think THINK and think about were you want your mind to go on this. You need a healthty relationship or close friend your own age and you will be ok

[byee]

I don't think you can be 'gay' or 'bi' because of this. The important thing is to realize there's a difference between thoughts or feelings or urges and actions. Behaviors get you into trouble, not the stuff that goes on in your mind. As long as you keep them seperate and not act on them I think you're okay.

It sounds as if your attraction to younger guys has something to do with them being safer ('innocent', in your words), and that doesn't sound particularly sexual, either. Lots of things change and lots of things happen to us as teenagers, there are alot of stresses, and maybe there's something comforting ('attractive') to you about glancing backwards to a happier time.

(Of course, if you've been sexually abused, then all of this might mean something different, but since you didn;t say that, i'll assume it's something else).

[MoveAlong]

It does sound like you're bi. The attracted to smaller guys thing is probably just a phase or hormones, as when you grow older it'll be more appropriate to like people around your age and possibly younger than you (like if you're 30, there's no problem in liking a 21 y/o!)

[that one guy]

thanks guys, IAMSAM, I havent been sexually abused whatsoever, what you guys say does make since, and I have liked someone my age, and he had that innocent childish quality I found very charming. thanks alot guys, more replies the more support. :) [cont.] and I will reply back.

[NintendoFanboy]

Sounds like me. I told everyone on this site I'm gay, and now I realize, as I get older, I'm bi. But I like kids, like you, only I like them down to 7. Just not as much for the 6-7 Y/Olds.

[Archduke Robert of France]

You'd have to be like 60 and like 4 year-olds to be a pedophile.

[Maverick]

You'd have to be like 60 and like 4 year-olds to be a pedophile.
Not exactly - that's just listing a sterotype.

[Antares]

Well were not gonna critisize you becuase were here to help!!!! :D
There is nothing wrong with you. around this age as you know there are alot of soul searching and hormones that are on crack! If you thnk that you are bi then so be it. but personally i would not want to "chose" my sexuallity until im ending puberty. well actually more like 17.

[RowanVer.3.0]

I think all guys are bi at some time in their puberty. we all have thouhgts going back in time that might enter your mind... it's ok. Just Think THINK and think about were you want your mind to go on this. You need a healthty relationship or close friend your own age and you will be ok
Nope. I've never been attracted to men sexually. I'm 15 and a half, but I'm pretty sure I'd have had this 'phase' already if I was going to have it.


As for the looking at little kids, how do you mean? Like, naked...? Or just lusting over them? That's wrong either way, try to separate yourself from this fetish, it'll only lead to trouble in your life.

[that one guy]

Rowan Ver.3.0: I dont do any of the things you are asking, "lusting" or however you phrased that, reread mt statement before asking something like that. As of the rest of you thankyou, you are helping.

orchdork: I made the mistake of assumption in that category.

Nintendo Fanboy: can you ellaborate? I dont get what ur saying.

[RowanVer.3.0]

Rereading your statement, it just seems like you're confused about 'looking at little boys'. Now, most people would assume that you meant in a sexual manner, but you elaborate by saying 'you aren't attracted to them'. So, what the hell is the point of this thread again?

You like looking at little boys because you find they're cute? Cool. There's really nothing wrong with looking at someone/thing in that way. It's like saying "guys... I think there's something wrong with me... I like to look at kittens.. I mean, I'm not attracted to them. I just like to look at them because I had a kitty and it was so innocent and fuzzy."

Sorry if I'm coming off a little harsh, but there's really no need for this thread if you don't have any sexual feelings what-so-ever for youngin'. Some little boys are cute! If you're comfortable with your sexuality, you can come to par with that.

EDIT:Also, if you have something to say after you've already made a post shortly after, add it in through an edit. Like this :D

[Nick_C]

I took the post as seeing young kids sexually, thats the reason I sayed think very hard on what is in your mind and to focus on friends you age.

[that one guy]

Rowan: Well I guess you have a point, I dont mean I am like crazy obsessed and attracted to boys around the age, I just mean I wasn't sure what I was feeling cuz I tend to like looking at them alot. In my opinion you are a bit harsh, if you feel its pointless than dont reply here, I meant for the thread for people to help me, and the majority of people understand you can do that without having to analyze every statement I make. It is not somekind of weird fetish I dunno. I dunno.

thanks guys.

PEACE.

[Antares]

Rowan Ver.3.0: I dont do any of the things you are asking, "lusting" or however you phrased that, reread mt statement before asking something like that. As of the rest of you thankyou, you are helping.

orchdork: I made the mistake of assumption in that category.

Nintendo Fanboy: can you ellaborate? I dont get what ur saying.

well dont get your nickers in a twist LMFAO!

yeah i just wanted to let you know that and I just wanted you to feel a little more at home so thats why i said it so yeah. and yeah Good Luck to ya!

[kutethang101]

i agree with Nick

[LateForTheSky]

Seems to me u just have a fetish for the sweetness and innocence of a 7 year old. That dosnt mean u are attracted to them. I dont think it will go away because its just in ur personality to have a soft spot for the age group. I have the exact same story. I think u should just accept anything u feel and enjoy it to the full. No sense on dwelling on things. And if ur feelings do change then change with them. Accepting change is the hard part of ur life because its never ending.

Hope this helped

[byee]

then the next step would be to try to determine what it is about moving forward that's uncomfortable for you. By addressing that, you'll likely not be as attracted to younger kids because you'll be fixing the source of the problem, rather than do the thing that lessens the anxiety.

[jakejohn]

just your hormones..
i wouldn't worry about it too much

[TheDude]

Apparently no one is 100% straight or 100% gay. Its just a matter of finding the people that you would be gay for, or vice versa.

[NintendoFanboy]

Rowan Ver.3.0: I dont do any of the things you are asking, "lusting" or however you phrased that, reread mt statement before asking something like that. As of the rest of you thankyou, you are helping.

orchdork: I made the mistake of assumption in that category.

Nintendo Fanboy: can you ellaborate? I dont get what ur saying.

I'm really like you! I like boys my age, up to half my age. Especially 9-11 yr. olds. :wub: And black kids... *sigh* *drool*