My friend...

[JackShephard]

I went over to his house a few days ago. And we normally share a bed. But this time, he snuggled right up to me. I didn't mind. Later that night, I woke up and his arm was draped over my waist. This is... New behavior. To be completely honest, I kind of welcomed the idea. He later told me the next day that if he where gay, he would be gay with me. I sort of tested the waters by leaning on him to see how he reacted. He didn't seem to notice. Like it didn't bother him in the slightest. I'm very open with him about everything except my sexuality. He must have an idea though. Considering the amount of times I've talked about gay rights and the like. I know he wouldn't care. But I can't bring myself to admit it to someone so close. Is he in the same boat? My question is, is this normal for two guys so close to behave this way? I don't want anything to ever threaten my friendship. But of its not normal, if it's too close, what do I do?

[Black.Butler]

Hmmmm. He probably is at least bi.
Putting his arm over you....
Telling you if he was gay he would be gay with you...
You leaning on him and he doesn't get bothered...
How can you not see the signs this guy likes you and I think you like him too.
Invite him to your house and share a bed with him again and just talk to him but talk about gay stuff in a subtle way say "What would you do if (Insert Friends Name Here) was gay?" and see what he does.
I really think you care about this person and that he does about you so I don't know why you haven't been open with him about this.

[Stryker125]

Sounds like a typical bromance to me :P but maybe he likes you as more than a friend and feels the same as you about threatening the friendship. Maybe you should see how things go the next time you stay at each others houses before you decide what to do. Just relax and go with the flow man :)

[JackShephard]

I don't know why I get so panicked about this. I'm so closed about my sexuality because I live in a community where gay is supposed to be worse than murder. Close minded fucks. I'm just scared that acting on this could cause a sort of weirdness between us if it dies out later and we decide to be just friends. On the other hand, I was really close with this girl as a friend. We eventually had a fling. But we are fine now. Should I be worried?

I've decided that no matter how scary, I'm going for the kill. Whatever happens, happens. He's going to be in my life one way or another. And if I feel this way, I might as well act on them. I can't ignore how I feel.

[Stryker125]

Your call man. Who knows, maybe he feels the same way. I know what you mean about the close mindedness too. It sucks, but it's there. Good luck with your friend :P

[botwa]

well I wouldn't rush and tell right away.
wait and see what happens next.