I guess I should try this...

[Insert_Username]

This post is long overdue.
For months now, I've been thinking of posting something here (I just made an account today), but I just haven't been bothered to do it. I guess I just have this feeling that it wont make a difference.

Every now and then, I get nostalgic, as I'm sure many people do. But after a brief moment of smiling, I get depressed, knowing things are no longer as they used to be. It's ruining my days. On weekends where I'm not busy, I often spend hours just moping around the house, wishing there was something to make me happy.

The problem is, things make me nostalgic easily. I was going through my room and found a bunch of things from when I was 5-10, and that hit me instantly. I had a moment of happiness, remembering all these toys, and then a horrible feeling of depression, knowing that never again will I be able to carelessly play with them with my friends and family.

The other part is movies and things. When I saw Toy Story 3, I got this same feeling, when I saw Men in Black III, I got this same feeling. It's always this gut feeling of 'why can't things be like they used to be?'

The thing that makes this worse, is things change so quickly. Family and friends move away. As well as that, some older family friends are starting to reach the age where a lot of them are passing away.
It seems like a couple of years ago was just so much easier.

I guess I'm just wanting to get this out and see if anyone feels similarly?

I dunno, part of me says that posting here will help somehow, but another part of me says it'll do no good.
Hopefully that part will be proved wrong.

[jay-jay]

i know exactily how you feel and i have the feeling some thing like...wow i wish i could change this or its just life but my big brother is gone he passed away my garndma had passed away my sister leave with my other grandma and me my little brother and sister and stepdad live in VA now and i wish just every thing can go back in time and have everything normal angain...i only saw my REAL dad when i was 2 years old and i cry 4 him every night and my mom dont understand when she need her dad in her live see my mom always had her dad andd she dont know that feeling like i do.but i under stand your feeling just know your not the only one other males and females in the world and thay have the same or colse to the samee pain and or feeling as yours

[Skyhawk]

Welcome to VT! :)

I get like this too, but my thoughts always come and go really quickly so the feeling doesn't last until I'm reminded of it. The only significant difference in my case is whenever I get the "Why can't things be like they used to be?" feeling I always answer that with my own brutally honest (and rather insensitive) logic: "You can't control time nor events and things are this way because you did/didn't do _________."

Whether or not the advice given to you is helpful is entirely on you, since we can't tell what helps. :)

[Insert_Username]

Thanks for the replies (and welcome).
I'm not sure why, but just knowing that other people feel the same way makes me feel a bit better.

I'm sorry to hear about your situation, jay-jay. That must be really difficult. :(

[IcarusLives]

I used to feel the same way.

I don't know how I got passed it.... Not sure if I've really gotten over it or if I've just "killed off" that part of me so to speak, and I just don't think about it anymore.

Or maybe Prozac's just helping with that one...

Either way, I know how you feel.

[BLU3 SK1TTL3Z]

You Helped me. Alot. Because I get the same feeling. And knowing that a couple of years ago was soo different and soo much better seems to hit me hard now. And knowin that other people feel the same way. I am very glad. Because just a couple of years ago, I didn't know english. I had to sit and learn all day everyday. And I loved it being away from everyone. Being on my own was just my thing. Like when I was 5 I would always go outside and pull a weight 2 times my size. And I would be all alone. And I miss that. I liked being alone. There was nothing wrong with that.

[Schnope]

I get the same feeling. I always wish things were how they used to be. But we can't always dwell on our past. I know it's hard but its important to look ahead and to accept change. Yes, things will always change, I guess that is why we gotta make the most of the things sometimes. There is no point trying to live in the past even though it puts us in our comfort zone. I guess, it's easier said than done. But rather than wishing you were in the past, maybe I guess, sorta look back on that it was a great time.

[DELETEACCOUNT]

I used to get that quite frequently but lately it's becoming more and more distant, I'm just taking it as a part of life, nothing we can stop. You just have to keep rolling and think when/if you have kids you'll be able to relive your childhood ith them, just think of it like that :yes:

[Insert_Username]

I used to get that quite frequently but lately it's becoming more and more distant, I'm just taking it as a part of life, nothing we can stop. You just have to keep rolling and think when/if you have kids you'll be able to relive your childhood ith them, just think of it like that :yes:

Yeah, that's one thing I think about. :)