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UnknownError
June 2nd, 2012, 08:03 AM
Urgh this doesnt even have a question it's just a rant before you go and read it all k thnx.

The last two years of high school have been horrible in the friends area for me. I've switched around so much that I don't even know who I like anymore.

The first group I had for the first half of second year. I'm still kind of friends with them but we don't hang around outside school anymore at all. It was a mix of people from primary and some new people and it was all nice and good for everyone. Then I decided one day I was just going to stop. I dont even know how it happened but I just stopped talking to them and I've never been able to get back in. Not that I want too, they're hardly the coolest most popular people now..

The second group was made of people the year above me. Out of all of them I still talk to 2. I never even really liked most of them, I'm good friends with one and that's why I hung out with the others. Then the one I'm good friends with left and I left with her, which I was kinda glad about.

Then I went with her to join people who were 4 years older than me when I was in the start of S2. I actually really liked them and everyone in my year thought it was cool that I was friends with them. Then about a month and a half ago they all left school. One of them I still play an iPod game with, the rest never spoke to us again. The one of them I thought I was really good friends with turned into a total bitch.

So then me and the girl from the 2nd group were kinda just booping around. She's started being friends with group 2 again and I moved onto the 4th group in 2 years. I've been friends with them in school for about a year but we never really done anything outside. I decided I wanted to be good friends with them so that's what I did, and we are. But once you get into peoples trust zones you start to find out how horrible they are. All they do is talk about each other and insult each other behind their backs and they're all hypocrites. Their "leader" in a way is one my current "best friends" but she's a total bitch and I don't even really like her. The only people in this group I don't have anything against is the guys but we're a minority.

So basically I'm just fed up of this constant moving around. I miss primary when I had the same group of friends for 7 years and that was it. I don't even know who I trust and who I like anymore and I feel like I'm constantly judging people and I'm sick of it. This was completely pointless but I had to let it out so yeah if you read the whole thing then thanks.

edit: just realised i missed out a group that i was friends with for like a month, not gonna go there.

ImCoolBeans
June 2nd, 2012, 08:51 AM
I've done a lot of moving around with friends in the past, which I really disliked. I moved here in third grade, when I was about 8, and I kind of had a hard time adjusting and making friends so I spent a lot of time alone for the first two years. But then when 5th grade came around I made a bunch of new friends because all of the elementary schools combined into one school. I really liked those friends and I thought that they were the greatest. I got really close with them really fast and things were going really well until I got pretty deep into their trust zones and the talking started. All they would do is talk about each other behind their backs and I slowly started to distance myself after about 2 years of that, and then they totally ditched me and started spreading fake rumors about me.

I really only has one or two friends for about a year and a half after that, and one of them was really just an in-school friend. I just floated along for a while keeping to myself a lot and hanging out with nobody except for one friend.

When that friend and I started to grow apart it hurt a lot because I didn't really hangout with anybody after that. I was just all by myself and had to make new friends, which I had a hard time doing in the past, so I wasn't too excited about that. I found a few new friends early on that school year (9th grade) and we got along pretty well. We were kind of misplaced with the group we associated with in school, so we started to get away from that.

I'm still friends with those two girls who I became friends with in the beginning of 9th grade, but again, I found myself in a newer group last year (10th grade) which I like. My newer group of friends will hopefully last another year before I graduate, and I think it will.

You aren't the only one facing this, so you certainly are not alone, Connor. I know it sucks to lose friends and have to make new ones, I've had to do it too many times for my liking. Have you considered maybe reconnecting with those original friends? The ones from primary school who you were so close with?

Steve Jobs
June 2nd, 2012, 09:57 AM
You aren't alone.. High school wasn't so long ago and I'm pretty glad to be out of all the drama. To be honest, I never found a single "good" friend at high school. Sure, I was always hanging out with people, people htought I was cool because I knew this person and that (and the hot chemistry teacher), but my better friends existed outside of high school and a lot of them were older than me. One of them I found was one of my show managers, mainly because of his personality and him being left to train me, that kind of discipling almost made us feel like brothers sometimes :/

Anyway, it is important you don't always mix within the same group of friends because things happen all the time. You hsouldn't rely on a single group but instead go out there and meet others and set yourself the foundation of a good friendship network especially if your personality depends on being with others

It's good to let it all out in a rant like this though. Helps you cool off, step back from the drama of it all and realize how dumb a thing you're fighting for :)

UnknownError
June 2nd, 2012, 11:51 AM
@Mike: My friend's from primary are all either a) douchebags now or b) just plain weird. There's a few I talk to but I'm not friends with them as such. Don't get me wrong, I do like the people I'm friends with now for the most part but I'm just fed up of not knowing who I am friends with.

& thanks both of you. :)