yankeefan7723
May 31st, 2012, 09:07 PM
Okay so prom was roughly two weeks ago and that + prom weekend was the greatest experience of my life. Since then there has been a lot of drama that has went down and I've been in a rather messed up mental state since but my older sister, friends, and one of the girls who was a part of it, let's call her Sam for reference, have really helped me through it. There's TONS to the story as I'm sure most of you know since there always is with these things but, ftmp, they're irrelevant.
I do have two things on my mind that I want to share and want help on, everything else is kinda water under the bridge or I can handle straight up.
1) There was another girl with us who was also my date for the prom, let's call her Ashley for reference as well. Met her two months prior through the others I went with and we all hung out a few times. My birthday, school talent show, her house, etc. She was involved with this guy who had a player reputation yet she still pined over him. Early April, after the night of my birthday, I asked her what was going on between us because she was flirty every hung out and I wanted to know since I was feeling her. She said she didn't want to ruin things with this other guy and she just had a flirty personality. Okay, I'll move on. But towards the week leading up to prom we texted lots more and it was revealed she had feelings for me. We agreed to see how things went during prom and go from there. Prom happened and it was flirt central like you wouldn't believe and for most of the weekend as well minus some drama among the group.
Well fast forward past a bunch of other stuff, I ended up asking her again and she said she hated relationships, the drama, the fighting, lying, etc. The next day I sent her a long text saying it was all real, none of it was a joke, and I just needed to get it off my chest. No response. I send her a text two days later on wednesday telling her it's cool if we're friends and all I get was "okay". It's been 8 days since that wednesday and 10 days since any actual contact with her. No texts, pass each other in the halls and say nothing. I feel like I still want her in my life as a friend but dont want to make the first move in fear of her simply not caring and making an ass out of myself seeming desperate since it seems she's doing fine without me. Is she just feeling weird about how things went? Did she play me and not want to talk to me since? How should I approach getting her back in my life if at all?
2) Onto Sam who is a good friend of Ashley, we started talking more. She went through some personal stuff. I raced to her house the night after prom because she was sending suicidal texts. She's okay, she wasn't REAL bad, just a few advil she threw up but ultimately it was just stress. Anyway, we started getting closer and revealed feelings for each other last weekend. It seemed like we were dating until Sunday when she revealed we weren't and we have just been working things out this week and we decided that we do love each other and want each other and we'll likely happen but want to put it off for now as she just got out of a relationship. But because I'm a thinker and let my mind drift I started think if we started dating and eventually did have sex...I would feel inferior. She lost her v card to her last boyf a few months back, they only did it 3 times, but I still have mine. Thing is, she's younger than me. She was 14 when she lost it, 15 now. For some reason I feel an inferiority complex over this and I don't know why. Not really a problem, but something I've been feeling.
Sorry for the long read!
I do have two things on my mind that I want to share and want help on, everything else is kinda water under the bridge or I can handle straight up.
1) There was another girl with us who was also my date for the prom, let's call her Ashley for reference as well. Met her two months prior through the others I went with and we all hung out a few times. My birthday, school talent show, her house, etc. She was involved with this guy who had a player reputation yet she still pined over him. Early April, after the night of my birthday, I asked her what was going on between us because she was flirty every hung out and I wanted to know since I was feeling her. She said she didn't want to ruin things with this other guy and she just had a flirty personality. Okay, I'll move on. But towards the week leading up to prom we texted lots more and it was revealed she had feelings for me. We agreed to see how things went during prom and go from there. Prom happened and it was flirt central like you wouldn't believe and for most of the weekend as well minus some drama among the group.
Well fast forward past a bunch of other stuff, I ended up asking her again and she said she hated relationships, the drama, the fighting, lying, etc. The next day I sent her a long text saying it was all real, none of it was a joke, and I just needed to get it off my chest. No response. I send her a text two days later on wednesday telling her it's cool if we're friends and all I get was "okay". It's been 8 days since that wednesday and 10 days since any actual contact with her. No texts, pass each other in the halls and say nothing. I feel like I still want her in my life as a friend but dont want to make the first move in fear of her simply not caring and making an ass out of myself seeming desperate since it seems she's doing fine without me. Is she just feeling weird about how things went? Did she play me and not want to talk to me since? How should I approach getting her back in my life if at all?
2) Onto Sam who is a good friend of Ashley, we started talking more. She went through some personal stuff. I raced to her house the night after prom because she was sending suicidal texts. She's okay, she wasn't REAL bad, just a few advil she threw up but ultimately it was just stress. Anyway, we started getting closer and revealed feelings for each other last weekend. It seemed like we were dating until Sunday when she revealed we weren't and we have just been working things out this week and we decided that we do love each other and want each other and we'll likely happen but want to put it off for now as she just got out of a relationship. But because I'm a thinker and let my mind drift I started think if we started dating and eventually did have sex...I would feel inferior. She lost her v card to her last boyf a few months back, they only did it 3 times, but I still have mine. Thing is, she's younger than me. She was 14 when she lost it, 15 now. For some reason I feel an inferiority complex over this and I don't know why. Not really a problem, but something I've been feeling.
Sorry for the long read!