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Primeval
May 31st, 2012, 02:37 PM
Okay so first of all let me start off by saying I'm 19 and bi, mostly like girls but I do like certain guys. A few weeks ago I went onto a website called Adam4adam, since I had a hard time meeting any guys around here. I chatted with this guy and we took it to YIM and we ended up hooking up at my apartment, which I still live in with my mom (she was at work).

So flash forward to 2 days ago, and she says sit down I want to talk to you about something. She said you left you Yahoo up on my computer and a chat popped up, and she read the convo between me and the guy.

She said she has no problem with it, if I'm bi or just experimenting, but that she wants me to be safe. She even said she is no stranger to bisexuality herself (Which I did not need to hear <_<) and that the main thing was that I was being safe.

I get that she's cooler then most parents would be with their kids, but I just feel so embarassed and disgusted with myself. I mean that was some graphic shit we were talking about in the chat..... She's acting fine around me, but I just feel like it wont be the same anymore, and that I'm disgusting for doing that.

Idk I'm rambling now. Anyone have any advice? :what:

Desuetude
May 31st, 2012, 03:00 PM
She's acting fine around you, nothing has to change. I think that is the best way it could have gone down. I just think you're waiting for something massive to go off or an argument to blow up, it doesn't have to and it seems like it won't.
She was being mature about the situation and only looking out for you, not looking down on you in any way. I know it might seem awkward and embarrassing but soon it should fade away a little. Give it time and you'll forget most of what happened. Just realise that she has accepted you and all the things you wrote in that chat and moved on, you should as well. It's the best thing for you and I'm sure that in time, you will.

MarilynMonroe
June 2nd, 2012, 04:58 AM
Dont worry about it! She doesn't mind, and you shouldnt either! You shouldnt be disgusted for having urges and expressing them. Your mother is probably no stranger to sex or dirty talk! I think it's great your mother had the confidence to confide in you she is bisexual.